Articles on orgasm

Benefits of Orgasm for Women

Mrs. Sneha Fernandes, Psychologist
“Great spiritual teachers throughout the ages have stated that orgasm is the closest some people come to a spiritual experience because of the momentary loss of self. Why is this true? Because with spiritual sex, you move beyond orgasm into a connection with yourself, your partner, and the divine — recognize them allas one.”  Alexandra Katehakis,It is well known that orgasms makes one feel great, but  it also helps in more sound sleep, cuts down belly fat, etc.Orgasm is one of the greatest sensations our bodies can experience.Women are thought to have up to 11 different types of orgasms which can differ in intensity from a mild and subtle feeling to an intense and explosive rush of sensations, depending on how their bodies and minds are feeling at the time and also how they feel about the person they are engaged with.Achieving an orgasm can have an array of health benefits that affect a woman physically and emotionally—due to the chemical changes that take place within their bodies.Stimulation of Love hormone:One benefit of orgasms is that they stimulate the release of oxytocin, which is also known as the love hormone. This surge also raises levels of a substancecalled CCK, which helps control the appetite.Oxytocinalso counteracts stress and depression by combating the harmful effects of cortisol, which is well known for its role in boosting belly fat and cravings for carbs. The dose of dopamine that one gets from sex increases steadily to the point of orgasm and then declines which also assists in curbing the need tofeed. The dopamine pathways in the brain involved in stimulating the desire for both sex and food are shut down by the hormones released immediately after an orgasm. Can you imagine better news for appetite and craving control?Boost in testosterone levels:Although it may seem like one needs testosterone to have a libido, it also works the other way around. Women who enjoy more orgasms have increased estrogen and testosterone. When present in the proper balance, these hormones add fire to sexual desire, give us more sex appeal, improve mood and memory and can even (again) prevent abdominal fat.Although the women’s testosterone was higher both before and after sexual intercourse, cuddling gave the biggest testosterone boost of all.Beats inflammation and builds social life:Most of us know that a healthy sex life can help beat stress. There are even more great benefits of oxytocin such as lowering blood pressure and even improving digestion.A powerful pain relief:Some studies suggest that a good orgasm can more than double a woman’s tolerance for pain. Plus, it’s an analgesic, not an anesthetic, meaning it suppresses pain without affecting sensitivity to touch — a critical ingredient when sex is on the menu.Reductionof stressOrgasms can protect your ticker. Sexual activity and orgasm are shown to reduce stress due to the surge of oxytocin, the so-called “cuddle hormone,” that occurs with orgasm. What’s more, studies show that orgasms lower blood pressure levels — at least among women.Relaxed lifestyleOrgasms  triggers a cascade of bodily events, including the release of other feel-good hormones called endorphins. These endorphins often have a sedative effect. So it’s no surprise that most of the time after having enjoyed a fabulous night of sleep following helps one sleep better.Keeping in good shapeOrgasms can help one stay in shape and lose weight. Getting busy for 30 minutes helps to burn calories. In fact, according to some estimates, one can torch up to 200 calories.ADVANTAGESImproves circulation to organs- growing healthy tissues, and mentally relaxed. Women who have intercourse (foreplay) atleast once a week are mentally active.Orgasmhelps one’s natural detoxification process to improve digestion and mood and help prevent cancer.Promotes healthy estrogen levels to keep vaginal tissues supple and protect against osteoporosis and heart disease.Induces deep relaxation by boosting endorphin levels and flushing cortisol (aninflammatory hormone released by the adrenal glands) out of the body.Improves brain function, balances the immune system, helps maintain and repair tissue, and promotes healthy skin.Look younger—studies show making love three times a week in a stress free relationship can make one look 10 years younger.Boosts infection-fighting cells up to 20%–helps fight colds and flu!Cures migraines and helps treat other types of pain by elevating pain thresholds (a bonus when preparing for childbirth!)Increases level of the hormone oxytocin, which is linked to passion, intuition, and social skills—the hormone of bonding and success!Day to Day - builds  stamina & burn calories.Today's lifestyle & state of your mind is being in a constant state of stress and alert, the last thing your body wants to do is have sex or fitness – which means you won’t get to experience the benefits of orgasm! Your body goes into survival mode and is just worried about sustaining itself.Shows- single women or divorcee suffer from anger, lioness, frustration & depression, due to lack of orgasm.Symptoms & signs that one might be suffering with adrenal exhaustion:Hidden stress & restless mind.Lack of orgasm in female, men lose focusleading to low confidence.Lack of orgasms  can lead to insomnia.Without orgasms one will be unable to alleviate pain.Without orgasm brain lacks stimulation.Lack of Orgasms one  may look aged.

Female Orgasmic Disorder

Dr. Ramesh Maheshwari, Sexologist
Persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of, orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase . It was formerly known as inhibited female orgasm. Some researchers called it Female Orgasmic Dysfunction.Causes:Strong negative signals from psychosocial system results in female orgasmic disorder. In our culture the female has been forbidden to accept herself as a sexual being. Girls as they grow up, deny their sexual feelings in order to conform to society’s image of “good” behavior. Later, as a woman, she resists the experience of orgasmic response. Anxiety and guilt feeling due to religious orthodoxy can cause this dysfunction. The idea that it is woman’s duty to satisfy her husbands makes her inhibit her own sexual response. Woman may have orgasm with masturbation by stimulating her clitoris, with partner’s manipulation or with oral-genital stimulation, but not during intercourse. Similarly, a woman may be orgasmic during intercourse, but not with other kinds of stimulation. The organic causes for this dysfunction are multiple sclerosis, spinal cord trauma or tumor, nutritional deficiencies, diabetes.  Neuropathy and severe arteriosclerosis. Chronic illnesses impair orgasmic responsiveness by affecting libido and generalHealth.TreatmentThe treatment is based upon the information indicating woman’s attitude towards sex, the degree of her open-mindedness and her physical responsiveness. The first goal is to help the couple to stop behaving toward each other in hostile or in negative ways, so that they can create erotic aura in their relationship. They are provided information about sex to counter myth and misunderstandings that stand in the way of woman’s response to sexual stimuli.The couple is given instruction to practice ‘Sensate Focus’ exercise for 3 days. On the next 3 days, after the couple has experienced feelings of closeness and intimacy in pleasuring each other, they proceed to genital play.    

Male Orgasmic Disorder

Dr. Ramesh Maheshwari, Sexologist
MALE ORGASMIC DISORDERDefinition:Persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of, orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase during sexual activity.In this disorder a male cannot reach orgasm during intercourse although can ejaculate by partner’s manual or oral stimulation. Some can ejaculate only during masturbation. Some have ejaculation during sleep but not in waking period.Orgasm and ejaculation though occur simultaneously, are different entities. Orgasm can occur in absence of ejaculation and vice versa.Causes:Dislike for partner.                               Testosterone deficiency.Religious restrictions.                         Myopathy, Neuropathy.Maturbation guilt.                               Spinal cord lesion.Guilt regarding nocturnal.                   Retrograde  ejaculation.     Emission.                                                                                                           Fear of pregnancy.                               Drugs.       Inadequate sexual stimulation.          High threshold of ejaculatory                                                                                             reflex.Low         Libido.                                            Mental Block. Treatment:Sensate Focus exercise (mutual pleasuring) is employed daily for first 3 days. Since sex is not allowed, it eliminates the pressure to perform. Once this is achieved, she stimulates him to highest degree and as man approaches ejaculation she inserts penis in vagina in woman on top position. If man is unable to ejaculate she again stimulates him manually and again reinserting whe ejaculation is imminent.Vibrators: Used for stimulation of penis.Posted by Dr. Ramesh Maheshwari, Wnho Clinic, 2014 sadashiv peth, Tilak road, Pune. Free to call for further information. 

Female Sexual Dysfunction & Diabetes

Dr. Sharmila Majumdar, Sexologist
Causes of FSD in DiabetesVascular damage can affect blood slupply to the vagina and clitoris which can cause problems with dryness and arousal.Neuropathy can reduce sensitivityDiabetes can also lead to low oestrogen levels which can also affect the lubricationDepression can lead to FSD in a diabetic women and can affect relationships.FSD in the Diabetics Assessed in a SurveyFemale sexual response cycle is a complex non linear progression from desire to arousal and orgasm.Diabetes particularly affects arousal with decreased genital sensation and lubrication.Vaginal dryness & infections may lead to dyspareunia.Sexual functioning can be affected by Vaginitis caused by yeast infection and cystitis often result of a UTI.Predictors of sexual dysfunction in women include depression.Neither age, duration of diabetes, glycemic control nor complications in predict sexual dysfunction in women as they do in men.Low androgens and possibly estrogens may be etiologic, as may numerous medications used by patients with diabetes.Recognition of the high prevalence of FSD (up to Results show that women with type one diabetese, depression and marital status are the main predictors of FSD, whereas glycaemic control & complications were not associated with FSD.Further studies are needed to elucidate the mechanisms underlying these differences.Considering that FSD can have an important negative effect on quality of life and partner relationships, the sexual difficulties of women with diabetes warrant more attention in both research & practice.50%) & potential increase, in tandemwith that of diabetes, is needed.In. The absence of definitive treatment, psychosexual counselling, relationship & sex therapy, DHEA supplements, vaginal lubricants, Flibanserin, low doses of estrogens or androgens, and Vitamin T(touch) have been used toRelieve the personal distress of  FSD.Conclusion- FSD is more frequent in diabetic than in control women, but it is still poorly understood; low Female Sexual Function Index is associated with high BMI.Sexual functioning of women with diabetes, has received far less attention in research, and results are less conclusive than those of studies in men. Further studies are necessary to better understand the risk factors for FSD in diabetic women.

Premature Ejaculation (Early Discharge During Intercourse)

Dr. Sujoy Dasgupta, Gynecologist/Obstetrician
Often many men come to our clinic with complaint of early discharge to such extent that they cannot enjoy sex. Often the partners are also disturbed by this short duration of intercourse. We call it Premature Ejaculation (PE). The problem of premature ejaculation occurs either prior to or a few moments after sexual penetration, leading to unsatisfactory sex for both you and your partner. What is Premature ejaculation? You are having PE if you ejaculate within one minute or before penetration and thus unable to enjoy intercourse and may try to avoid intercourse due to this fear and you have lost ability to control the ejaculation. The problem may even occur during masturbation.Premature ejaculation can be classified as lifelong (primary) or acquired (secondary). Lifelong premature ejaculation occurs all or nearly all of the time beginning with your first sexual encounters. Acquired premature ejaculation has the same symptoms but develops after you've had previous sexual experiences without ejaculatory problems. But whatever be the problem, it is easily treatable although for some men it can take some time. What are the causes of PE?It may be due to anxiety or stress. Many men with relationship problems with their partners or wives feel this problem. Nut make sure that it's not due to Erectile Dysfunction (ED). Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining an erection during sexual intercourse may form a pattern of rushing to ejaculate, which can be difficult to change. Smoking and alcohol can worsen the problems. Some other diseases may sometimes be responsible- like prostatitis (infection of the prostate gland), problems in nerves supplying the penis, problems in some hormones and rarely diabetes. So, it's important to pinpoint the cause so that the treatment can be started sooner and easily. Is it a serious illness?Unlike erectile dysfunction, PE is not usually related to any serious diseases (remember erectile dysfunction can be sign of early heart disease or diabetes). But it can affect your family relationship. In severe cases, it may be responsible for infertility.What to do?Initially you can try home-remedies. Avoid anxiety and stress. Reduce alcohol and stop smoking. Other simple strategies are avoiding intercourse for 2-3 days so that you can achieve better control in it. Alternatively you can try masturbation one or two hours before actual intercourse so that the discharge can be delayed. You can try squeeze and release technique (squeezing the penis when you feel urge to ejaculate). Using thick condoms can help some men by reducing sensitivity. If these do not work, you should consult your doctor.Why should I consult doctor for PE? There are advertisements of various untested drugs in newspaper and TV. If you try these, you can damage your sex organs or sex life as a whole. Because, we do not know what are the contents of these medicines or oil and how do they work. Moreover, we do not know how far they are safe. So if home-strategies do not work, get rid of hesitancy and consult doctor. Your doctor may ask you some questions but please be free to reply to them, however embarrassing these might be. He may examine you to find out the cause of this PE. It is important to be sure that you are not having any ED, for which separate treatment is needed. Often counseling and talking to doctor help a lot. He may help you to perform some exercises and follow some tips properly. If you cannot do these exercises properly, these will be of no benefit. Finally your doctor may give you some drugs or ointments to improve your performance. It is important to follow doctor's advice properly- to take drugs in prescribed doses and timing. Usually men with secondary or acquired PE improve faster than men with primary PE.Conclusion:You and your partner have full right to enjoy sex for the duration as you want. Do not disappoint you and your partner. If you feel that you cannot control your early discharge, do not feel embarrassed. Consult doctor and get cured.

Myths and Facts About Female and Male Orgasms

Dr. Ramesh Maheshwari, Sexologist
Men and woman, with some sexually arousing stimulus, proceed through orgasm and end with a return of the body to a sexually unstimulated state. This is described in four stages: Excitement, Plateau, Orgasm, and Resolution. There is no sharply defined moments when one stage ends and the begins. Each phase merges with the next phase.Excitement in Women:Vaginal lubrication within 10 to 30 second. The lubrication occurs with equal promptness whether the stimulus is direct to genital region or to her breasts or an erotic train of thoughts.Source of vaginal lubrication is the sweating reaction occurring on the walls of vagina. It seeps out of congested blood vessels.Expansion of inner two third of vagina. Elevation of cervix and uterine body. Thickening of vaginal walls and of the labia.Swelling of the Clitoris.Enlargement of the breasts, swelling of the areolas and erection of the nipples.Men & Women: Muscle tension rises. Heart rate increases. Blood pressure rises.Plateau Women: ‘Orgasmic Platform’ appears in the outer third of vagina. This is due to engorgement and swelling of the surrounding  tissues. This reduces the diameter of vagina in that area and thus grips the penis, giving erotic stimulus man.Ballooning of the inner two third of vagina and further elevation of the uterus.Elevation of the clitoris. It seems to be retracted.Labia Major a become more engorged.Secretion from Bartholin glands at the entrance of vagina.Further increase in the size of breasts.OrgasmIf effective sexual stimulation continues in the Plateau phase, a point may be reached where the body suddenly discharges its accumulated sexual tension in a peak of sexual arousal called ‘Orgasm’. It is also called as ‘climax’ or ‘coming ‘. Orgasm is the shortest phase of sexual response usually lasting for only a few seconds during which rhythmic muscular contractions produce intense pleasurable sensation followed by rapid relaxation. Orgasm occurs in both the sexes.Woman:Orgasm is marked by simultaneous rhythmic contraction of uterus, the orgasmic platform (outer third of vagina) and the anal sphincter at 0.8 second interval. There is minimal relaxation of the external opening  of cervix of the uterus (for ascent of  sperms into the ulerus) orgasm is a total body response. The muscles in many different body regions contact. It is often associated with pleasurable feeling that begins at clitoris and spreads throughout the pelvis and over the whole body. Women do not ejaculate during the orgasm.Men and women: High myotonia. The whole body may become rigid for some time. Grimace or frown may be seen. Breathing up to 40 per minute. Heartbeat up to 110-180 p.m. Blood pressure is raised. Anal sphincter contracts. ResolutionWomen: Women has physical capability of being multiorgasmic i.e. they can have one or more additional orgasms within a short time, provided she receives continued effective sexual stimulation. Multiple orgasm seems to occur during masturbation than during intercourse. Women has no ‘refractory period’.The anatomical and physiological changes that occurred during excitement and the plateau phase reverse. The orgasmic platform disappears. As the blood is pumped away from tissues, the uterus moves back into the resting phase. The vagina begins to shorten in both width and length. Clitoris returns to its usual size and position. The breast decrease in sie and areola flattens.Men and Women: Mutual orgasm of both is not possible. It is better to allow woman to have orgasm prior to man’s by manual stimulation of clitoris, or ‘woman in top’ position. There is no difference in sexual responses by masturbation, by sexual intercourse or by artificial coitus.Orgasm is always clitoral in origin. The vaginal orgasm is a myth. Women are capable of responding to point of orgasm as quickly as males by clitoral stimulation (but not through intercourse).

How to Control Premature Ejaculations

Dr. S S Tanwar, Homeopath
I don't last very long during sexual intercourse. How do I improve my staying power? Saving yourself (and your pride) from the Great Unexpected Flood is not as hard. Yes, premature ejaculation can be embarrassing, especially as your partner tries to soothe your punctured male ego: "Never mind, it was still good, honey," How can you're explain to her that it could have been stress, anxieties caused by high expectations, or even just over stimulation? Or that an astonishing one-third of men under the age of 25 are prone to PE? Firing too soon is very common, and doesn't mean there is anything 'wrong' with your (most women usually need twice as long to climax anyway).Assuming conditions are relaxed, you're comfortable with your lover and not sublimating personal problems, it's just a question of learning to get it right. Because you can master techniques until you have multiple, ejaculation-free orgasms, which also enhances your levels of sexual energy. A simple method is the stop-start one, which helps build an awareness of gauging the sensations leading to release. what's power without control? Simply put, your partner stimulates your genitals, and stops as you feel orgasm, approach. As you defuse, the stimulation is restarted, and so on. Another is the pause- Squeeze technique. Withdraw as your climax builds, and have your partner (on top) firmly squeeze your organ for a few seconds with thumb and forefinger, where the glans meets the shaft. This gradually leads to ejaculatory control. Relax your body as ejaculation nears, starting with an erotic massage. Breathe deeply, in rhythm together. Pressure on the perineum (about midway) also works. Move your sexual energy away from your genitals. Be vocally expressive, and let your hands foam your partner's body. Switch positions and experiment with which makes you last longer. Out of bed, exercise your pubococcygeal (PC) muscles, the ones that control urine flow, with alternate contractions and relaxations. You can do this anywhere, be it while driving a car or watching TV. Finally, remember it's all in the head. The one with ears! Communicate your feelings. Sometimes women actually don't want the guy to be banging on on, to prove his 'manhood'. And if you think of sex as a task, half the battle is already lost. Express yurt love, be vulnerable and abandon yourself to it, and the rest will follow.

Does Masturbation Cause Male Infertility?

Dr. Bhavatej Enganti, Urologist
Does masturbation causes infertility in men? The simple answer to this is ‘No’. Masturbation is referred to the stimulation of own genitals for sexual arousal. This in no way can hinder the changes of fathering children. However, if a couple is planning to have a baby, the male partner, needs to restrict his masturbation. This is because masturbation in men leads to ejaculation and if you are planning a baby, you must converse your sperms to impregnate your partner.When a man masturbates till completion, he ends up ejaculating the semen. For a man who masturbates more often will obviously have lower volume of semen in his ejaculate compared to men who don’t. Masturbating quite often will bring down the quantity of semen per ejaculate and you will have to wait for a certain time period till it is restored. Moreover, masturbating may make you feel tired and drained out and you might lose energy and urge of having an intercourse.There has been a lot of research on the topic of masturbation and its relation with male infertility. These studies came back with mixed results, with data on both sides of the fence. Some suggested that men should refrain from masturbating if he wants to get a woman pregnant. But most of them voiced that masturbation can in no way make a man infertile.Another very common myth associated with male masturbation is that it causes erectile dysfunction in men. This is far from being true. Masturbating cannot cause erectile dysfunctions. However, men who are habituated with continuous self-pleasure may sometime find it difficult to attain orgasm with his partner. This may lead to some problems when it comes to starting a family and having a baby.To conclude, it is not true that masturbation leads to infertility in men. But frequent masturbation may lead to problem related to conception. Limiting self-pleasure can do a lot to sort out these problems. But if the problem persists and you cannot get your partner pregnant even after you have refrained from masturbating; get in touch with your fertility expert without any further delay.