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Past many days I feel my son behaviour is very angry. And feeling irritable everytime. It's natural in this age or anything else
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Yes, anger is just like another emotion and it’s natural. It is a fundamental human emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their lives. Anger serves as a biological and psychological response to perceived threats, injustices, frustrations, or violations of personal boundaries,but it is impacting a person himself or others then it is a matter of concern which needs to be addressed.
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This is good that you are concerned for his behaviour
May be he stressed out
Suffocated
Depressed and frustrated
Struggling with Emotional, physical, mental and self bully
Observe him empathically
Sit with him with the silence
Give him cures to prompt
Ask him something wrong with you
If nothing work
Than friends help
And lastly bring to me
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Journaling
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Self Skills Assertiveness
Meditation
Away from the guilt and grief
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To understand if the behaviour is of significance or not, and if it requires any further intervention, we focus on two things (1) How frequently the behaviour is happening, (2) How intense is it compared to the children of the same age around you. Also, where is the behaviour happening, is it only in the home, or in school, or other settings (context). Is it happening in the presence of a particular person or more and how long is this happening. These questions will answer if the behaviour is very significant. Anger is a very common and natural response. However, as the child grows, he/she learns to manage the expression of anger in a more acceptable manner. If the anger or irritability is the result of other underlying issues, commonly as any emotional disturbance then it needs to be further clarified. If the behaviour persists for a long duration (let's say 3-4 months), and if that impacts his performance or denies to follow the conduct, it's better to consult any Mental Health Professional for further evaluation.
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Monitor his behaviour
Reach out to any Mental Health Professionals if needed
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Work on effective communication, don't engage in hitting, shouting, blaming behaviour (as it has shown to increase the anger). Take 15 minutes a day out and listen to his day, difficulties. Help in problem solving. Discuss if he faces any difficulties in school. Wait patiently for him to speak. If he expresses anger towards you, instruct him to express verbally without shouting (Do it calmly but clearly and only specific instructions, avoid using lengthy sentences).
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It needs to be identified don’t worry it can be easily work on
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Hello Mam, as you mentioned, your son is 14 years old, which is a teenage and in this age, we feel many changes due to puberty. We see ourselves and others from a different perspective and want to get things done according to our ways.
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I would suggest you to sit with him and talk about his days. How does he feel like? Is everything going fine among his friendâs circle? In this age, children feel shy, sharing things with the parents because of many reasons, so I would suggest you to sit with him and probe him.
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You can connect with the counsellor if you feel he needs external support to modify his behaviour.
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Hi
Sorry to hear this.... I understand sometimes boys become rude.... U need to condition... them by correcting them in polite stubborn ways.... Making them engaged in useful extracurricular activities....u should not be rude.... Parental factors also play a major role.... Like you should avoid arguments and fights... In front of your kids... You and your partner should be polite, kind and responsive in front of your son.... He requires behavior modification therapy..... Take care.... Of your son...
With regards
Srividhya Mahalingam
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Kindly Condition one behavior in a polite way..
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He is teenager......they have mood swings. You can also ask him about his friends and also check environment around him.mayb he may be disturbed about something. U can also go for few counseling sessions for ur son .this may help him in his life.
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Hi,
It's not uncommon for children, especially during certain developmental stages, to exhibit increased irritability and anger. Factors such as hormonal changes, social pressures, and the challenges of expressing emotions can contribute to this behavior. Additionally, stressors such as changes in routine, family dynamics, or academic pressures may play a role. It's important to approach your son with empathy and understanding, as he may be struggling to articulate his feelings. Open communication can help him feel supported and encourage him to express what heâs going through. If the behavior persists or escalates, it might be beneficial to consult a paediatrician or a child psychologist for further guidance. Creating a safe environment for him to express himself and providing coping strategies can also help mitigate these feelings.
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Please talk to him he might felt little stressed due to school or any other reasons if he mention everything is normal .. take him to counselling
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Anger can be caused by higher expectations, frustration, stubbornness and lack of happiness or love
Remedy: provide him emotional support, proper rest, anger management strategies to follow
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1.negotiation
2 respect and equally
3 empathy
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positive self talk
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Hi,It is natural for a teenager to act like this. It is better not to argue with him.He has his own beliefs and values that may not be agreeable to you.You can consult a psychologist for professional help.
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Thanks for asking this question.
Many factors can contribute to these behaviours in children. It needs to be diagnosed and once diagnosed focused on the issue counseling can be given
1. Try talking to your son when he is in a good mood . Listen to his talk without judging. You may get an idea about his emotional issues.
2. If possible you can meet the school counselor if available in his school
3. Try meeting a child psychologist
4. Can look at the option of meeting a clinical psychologist for proper diagnosis.
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validate child's emotions and feelings. Try not judging
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It’s common for children to go through phases where they feel more irritable or angry, but if this behavior is frequent or intense, it might be helpful to explore potential underlying causes. These could range from stress, changes in routine, frustration over unmet needs, or even health issues like sleep problems or dietary changes. Emotional, social, or academic pressures can also contribute to such behavior.
If this persists, observing any triggers or patterns could offer clues. It might also be helpful to gently talk to your son about his feelings or consult a pediatrician or child psychologist to rule out any deeper concerns like anxiety or ADHD. Would you like suggestions on how to manage or support him through this?
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There are multiple reasons why someone feel angry and irritable. The first thing that you should be doing is talk to your son in a friendly affectionate manner, and try to understand from his perspective that what is bothering him.
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Be compassionate, attentive and friendly.
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At this age, children's are more comfortable with their friends. So be one and behave like one.
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teenage anger is common, but it should be managed with calmness, avoiding anger in return, and providing space. If you need further help or advice on this issue, feel free to ask!
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Hello, yes teenagers tend to show anger in their behaviour. However, it is important to address it in the right manner,
Here are some ways parents can help teenagers manage anger issues:
Stay calm
Avoid responding with anger, and instead try to stay relaxed. Use a calm voice and open body language.
Separate feelings from behavior
Let your teen know that it's okay to feel angry, but not okay to hurt themselves or others.
Give them space
Allow your teen some time to calm down, perhaps by listening to music or talking to friends.
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He could be feeling this way because of external environment (something might have been happening in his school or he might have seen similar things happening at home)
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you can take him for therapy with a Psychologist
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be patient with him. He needs to be taken for therapy. No it isn't natural in any age. it happens because of certain reasons. I take online as well as offline sessions. You can book a session with us
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
To an extent it could be due to his hormonal changes.. Yet, there could be some issues or concerns which need to be understood as parents about your son..
Talk to him when you feel he is in a cool and better mood.
If he feels that he wanted to share and discuss with a confidential person, you may schedule an appointment with a psychological Counselor for a better clarity and understanding..
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Delhi
your son is going through a teenage. it is normal for a teenage to be angry, as their hormones are at peak and effect their mind. teenagers feel confused, and do not understnd their emotions. they do not know how to deal with everyday situations, and to deal with the emotions they feel while going through the situations. your son would also be going through identity issues, friendship issues, trust issues. they himself doesnt know his own behavior.
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ask him patiently as what is happening at school, if something is bothering him with his friends, studies, or himself
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Ms. Rizwana Parvin T M
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Let him be occupied with some productive hobbies that will keep him happy. Being irritated or angry is not normal. That's why involving in productive hobbies will keep him sane and calm.
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Consult a psychologist and Life Coach
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
12 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Hi dear concerned, It’s common for children and teenagers to go through phases of anger and irritability as part of their development, especially as they deal with changes in their bodies, social dynamics, and increased academic or social pressures. However, if this behavior is more intense, frequent, or prolonged than usual, it could indicate underlying stressors or emotional challenges.
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Here are a few things to consider:
1. Environmental Stress: Changes at school, friendships, or family dynamics can contribute to irritability.
2. Hormonal Changes: If your son is in his preteen or teenage years, hormonal fluctuations can intensify emotions.
3. Communication: Sometimes, kids struggle to express or understand their emotions and frustrations, which can manifest as anger.
4. Possible Underlying Issues: If the behavior is prolonged, it might help to explore if he’s facing any particular difficulties, like anxiety or stress.
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Encouraging open, non-judgmental communication can help, and creating a routine with activities that promote calmness, such as exercise or mindful practices, might reduce these intense emotions. If this pattern continues or disrupts his daily life, considering a chat with a mental health professional could be beneficial.
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Ms. Sheetal Kusumbe
Counselling Psychologist
21 yrs exp
Thane
Hello,
Changes in children's behaviour in different stages of their development can be concerning as a parent.
They can get angry and irritable as they themselves are coping with several changes in their growth process.
However , acceptance, patience and communication shall help you to navigate this phase with the child in a better manner.
You can consult for further professional guidance.
Happy Healthy Living!
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Dr. Minal Abhilashi (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Delhi
Frequent irritability or anger could be a sign of underlying issue or cry for help.
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Talk to him when he has a better headspace and/or seek professional support.
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Acknowledge and Validate his feelings; give him space to feel safe enough to open up and share his thoughts and experiences with you and only then offer help/ solutions.
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Ms. Usha Sathish
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Bangalore
Anger is just a feeling. It's the behaviour that matters. A therapist can help the child to express his anger in a assertive way.
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Please connect with a therapist for further assistance
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