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Emotional trauma and anger issues
My cousin sister is going through some mental health problems. She seems extremely emotionally hurt and has extreme anger issues. When she gets angry she shouts, screams and curses everyone around. And her thinking is too negative. She keeps misunderstanding everyone. And we have tried to convince her for therapy but she doesn't agree. What should we as a family do?
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This is a very difficult situation, and it’s clear your family cares deeply for your cousin, even though her behavior is hurtful and disruptive. What you’re describing—extreme emotional outbursts, chronic anger, persistent negativity, and mistrust of others—often points to deep emotional wounds or possibly an underlying personality or mood disorder. When someone is in that much pain, they tend to see the world as unsafe and everyone around them as a threat. Unfortunately, people in this state often don’t believe they need help—they believe others are the problem. That’s why therapy suggestions feel like criticism to them, not support.
As a family, your power lies in setting firm but compassionate boundaries. Don’t try to “fix” her when she’s angry—instead, calmly say things like: “We care about you, but we won’t accept being spoken to this way.” Offer emotional support in her calmer moments by saying: “We know you’re hurting. When you’re ready, we’ll support you in finding help.” Try not to lecture or pressure her—use subtle nudges, stories of others who found peace through therapy, or even invite her for a “family counseling session” that includes everyone. Sometimes, that feels less threatening.
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Hi,
Clearly her anger is deep rooted. You may refer her to a counsellor to address the anger.
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As a family, you should prioritise her well-being and safety while respecting her autonomy. Openly communicate your concerns about her emotional state, emphasising your love and support, but avoid pressuring her into therapy. Instead, focus on building a safe, understanding space where she feels comfortable expressing her feelings. Encourage her to explore resources like helplines or online support groups, emphasising that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. If her anger and negative thinking escalate to a point where it's dangerous to herself or others, professional intervention is necessary, and you should seek guidance from mental health professionals on how to proceed safely and respectfully.
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Both counselling sessions and homeopathic medicines will help her
Try to convince her for therapy
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Connect with the psychologist to discuss in detail.
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It seems that she must have undergone a psychological and emotional traumatic episode.
Her symptoms correspond to post traumatic psychological changes.
It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be treated well with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively.
It can be well addressed in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
If she is not ready for counseling then it's ok... don't push her now.
You can give her homeopathic medicine currently to overcome the trauma and recovery to achieve stability in terms of anger and depression.
Later she can decide for counseling sessions...and she will follow it for sure.
You can take homeopathic medicine which are non addictive and do not have any side effects. If she is not willing to take it then you can add the medicine in water or tea. It will work and you will be relieved.
You need an expert psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling psychologist for the last 17 years. You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Suggest her to seek an unbiased and neutral Profesional support from a therapist..
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Sanjana Purdhani
Psychologist
2 yrs exp
Delhi
Itâs tough to see a loved one struggle emotionally, and even harder when they arenât ready to seek help yet. From what you describe â emotional hurt, extreme anger, negativity, misunderstandings â it sounds like she may be dealing with underlying emotional wounds that are manifesting as anger and mistrust. This deserves a sensitive and trauma-informed approach.
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Right now, the most important thing is not to force therapy, but to keep offering emotional safety. Healing often starts when a person feels they are seen, heard, and accepted, not judged. Pushing therapy can sometimes backfire if the person feels cornered. Instead: Keep gently encouraging the idea over time. Share relatable, non-threatening content (like videos, stories, or posts) about mental health without directly targeting her. Create calm and respectful boundaries when her anger becomes hurtful to others.
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ð± Lead by Example: Family members can consider taking therapy themselves or learning emotional regulation skills. Sometimes seeing others seek support encourages openness. ð§ Name the Feeling, Not the Behavior: Instead of reacting to her anger, try responding with, âIt seems youâre feeling really hurt/overwhelmed. Weâre here whenever you're ready.â ð¸ Introduce Options Lightly: Instead of saying âYou need therapy,â you could try, âSometimes talking to someone neutral really helped me when I felt stuck. Maybe whenever you feel ready, it could help you too.â ð¡ Stay Consistent and Calm: Her negativity and anger may be her way of defending deep emotional pain. Consistent calmness from your side can eventually feel safe to her. Gentle Soul Savera Recommendation: At Soul Savera, we deeply believe that "Sensitive is the New Strong." ð¿ Sometimes the strongest thing a person can do is allow themselves to heal â at their own pace. You could gently let her know about our space if she ever feels ready â a nurturing, non-judgmental environment where her emotions would be understood, not judged
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Ms. Rupali Mohbe
Clinical Psychologist
25 yrs exp
Ahmedabad
Hi, I appreciate that you reached out with your concern.
From the symptoms you have described, it might be behavioral issues she is experiencing may be linked to certain personality patterns or traits. So, I suggest you to consult psychologist and also consider psychometric test to know any personality issues if there any. Tailored strategies to your specific needs with professional psychologist will help you.
If she shows any resistance towards therapy you may contact me.
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Ms. Sheetal Kusumbe
Counselling Psychologist
21 yrs exp
Thane
Hello,
Your concern for your cousin sister's well-being is appreciable.
Your sister has unresolved issues that need to be identified. She is unable to cope with it , hence displaces her anger on people in her surroundings.
Her disbalance of emotions can be addressed by kindness, empathy and more patience.
Once she feels accepted, understood, you can gradually initiate a healthy conversation & explain the need of therapy to her.
The less judged she feels the more open she will be to seeing the situation from a broader perspective.
She needs to release the blockages to seek emotional balance, healing and good mental health .
You can consult for further professional guidance.
Happy Healthy Living!
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... Therapy is often misunderstood as something that others are supposed to take so that they change their behavior. But actually it is something that is meant for self improvement and inner change. We can't change others but we can change our perception and understanding and it eventually changes our behavior as well as behavior of others. Be very clear you can't convince her to take Therapy because it will be taken as an offence. Her first response will be that you all should go for therapy because the problem is with you all. Please understand, it is sometimes true as well, but if we are hurt we need to heal ourselves, even if we are not responsible for that pain. Her response will be different if she herself believes that therapy might help her. In this case, I would suggest you to go for family counseling. All members of her immediate family who are living with her or in constant touch must involve in order to bring down her symptoms. If this is not possible and you believe they will not come together to seek family counseling. You alone can seek consultation to discuss her case in detail to find out how to deal with her condition and try to gradually persuade her to seek Therapy. Remember the words we choose and the approach we take makes a lot of difference. We need to convince her without making her feel as if she is only responsible for her present condition.
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Consult a Psychologist.
Family Counselling:- To identify and address the triggers and improve her psycho-social environment using more collective and directive approach.
Individual Counselling:- To address her Interpersonal Issues using CBT and Supportive Counselling.
Consultation:- To discuss her case in detail and find ways to improve her condition and gradually convince her to seek Therapy.
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Ms. Lakshmi T Rajan
Psychologist
14 yrs exp
Chennai
Hi, Looks like she needs psychological intervention. The extreme anger issues are due to deep emotional pain. You can help her by staying calm and more relaxed and make her realise the importance of psychological intervention for her at this moment
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You can book an online consultation with us so that we can evaluate her mental health and give psychological first aid for her emotional pain
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Give her enough water to drink or juices like pomegranate or orange or sugarcane
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