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I'm 35 years old mother. Looking for psychological help for my anger issues. I don't know why I'm getting hyper tensed and not able to control my anger. I have 2 adorable kids. Both are toddlers. My poor kids are facing my anger with each passing day. I have become very very rude parent and it's affecting not only mine but my kid's mental health as well. Sometimes I feel like crying out loud but i couldn't. I started beating my kids and it's the most hateful thing I'm doing. I scream and fight for every silly thing. My babies are going through physical and verbal abuse of mine and I'm hating my self for this. I want to be a good mom. P. S my marital life is not going good and it's the major reason for my such condition. Please please help me to find the solution.
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I understand how miserable you must be feeling inside, wanting to control the situation but can't. Its coz lots of emotions are stored within you which needs to be released, get over the past and learn how to manage anger.
hypnotherapy works on the root cause of everything, directly deals with subconscious mind. Its better if you consult at earliest saving yourself from further harm.
Take care.
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I can understand your problem and for sure, it would be impacting your life and people around you. Also, as a mother, you would be feeling bad too. The reason behind this could be something unknown or unconscious repressed life experience which is required to be dealt with.
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I would recommend to get in touch with a counselling psychologist or you can connect with me for counselling as well, as per your requirements.
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Take a note of time of your anger and begin counselling as early as possible.
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Hi, I am sorry you are feeling this way. I am sure this is tough. Anger is a way for your body to tell you that there is something you are repressing in your system. Repressed grief and other emotions of resentment against someone cause you to feel this inexplicable reach. We will have to create a safe space and work on the stored and repressed material in the subconscious. Once the stored emotions are released in a safe space you will move into a space of compassion and love. That’s will reflect out towards your children.
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I can work on this repressed anger to make you feel peaceful and loving. Love and healing ❤️
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anger management sessions 10
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Even a single moment of anger
Destroys years of kindness to others."
— Shantideva
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You are unhappy in your marriage and you are taking out that frustration on your kids. You are worried about your mental health and your kids mental health. You are going through a difficult time and hence don’t be hard on yourself. Talking to someone like a psychologist will help you feel calm so that you can manage your anger. You are upset about taking out your frustration on your kids. There will come a time when you will not take out your frustration on your kids. You will have to learn to manage anger and feel calm. You are a caring parent and you can manage your anger in a way that will enable you to be gentle with your kids. A psychologist will help you with anger management techniques to feel calm.
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Consult a psychologist
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Contact me for counselling session. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Hey
It must be getting very overwhelming for you
But let's talk about it
Understand where is it stemming from
Whats going wrong
Most importantly access your thoughts and start CBT
ANGER in itself is not the disorder the problem lies behind mask of anger
You may be sad hurting conflicted insecure
So need to work on that
Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling online
All the best
May you get better soon
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Hi, You mentioned that your marital life is not going well.You are under a lot of stress because of that.You should get professional help immediately.Finding out the underlying cause of anger and stress is very important.There are various techniques for coping with anger you can practice in your life.Guilty and feeling ashamed are some emotional consequences commonly find after loosing your temper.
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Consult a psychologist for an individual and couple therapy.
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Deep breathing exercises.
Positive distractions
Meditation and yoga etc are some self care techniques you can do.
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Hi,
I am so sorry that your are in a very difficult situation. Anger can have so many reasons. As you mentioned, marital life is the most important key for having a healthy environment. A mother needs support of her husband for caring and educating children. If you feel alone in this path, against your expectation, consequences is anger and aggressive behavior. You need to focus on yourself first, everything is not children, if you don't be happy and satisfied, you can't play a good role as a mother.
Please contact with a psychologist/therapist as soon as possible. They help you to make a harmony between your health, your own life and educating children.
Please take care.
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Ms. Merlyn M Fernandes
Counselling Psychologist
16 yrs exp
South Goa
Hi, you have adequate awareness of your emotional outbursts and are taking responsibility for the same. This is a good place to start understanding the root cause of the anger and learn healthy ways of expressing it without causing harm to self or others including your children. Displacement of anger generally occurs when you are not able to articulate your emotions to the person you are angry with. In this case, it could be that you are not able to express yourself completely to your husband as you mentioned marital issues.
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You need to consult a psychologist. You may consult me.
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Become aware of the triggers that causes you lash out at your children. Intentionally step away from the urge to yell or beat them. Your children's emotional strength is developed by how you treat them. Make a list of things that you wish to communicate with your husband but have been suppressing inside yourself. Practice how you will communicate those things in an assertive but non-threatening manner.
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Ms. Neelam
Psychologist
14 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hello
Please share what makes you so angry?
From what you have said here, i can tell you are ian intelligent and good person, going through a bad time.
The stress of physical exertion, tirendness, emotional trauma, hormonal imbalance can all work against us and make us irritable. But you realise that you are being unreasonable and taking out your frustration on your children.
Awareness is the key.
The difference between animals and humans is just that we can control our natural impulses. Work on our mind and reactions and change.
I can sense there is a lot more behind that anger. Please consult a good cbt counsellor as soon as possible. You sharing in a safe atmosphere and understanding your anger and why you are getting triggered, will help you find your solution.
Next Steps
Contact me for a consult please
Health Tips
Try and exercise to release tension
Count 10 to 1 slowly with long breaths when you start to feel that anger.
Do breating exercises every morning and evening
Hope this helps
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Really appreciate your willingness and courage to seek a professional support..
Consult any one of us either online or Offline to overcome this issue..
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
15 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Hi you can learn emotional management skills and resources skills through our mental health care professional for cognitive, behavioral, and emotional well-being.
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As per your mental status, kindly connect with our mental health care experts ASAP, they will help you in reaching a balance between life activities, responsibilities, and efforts to achieve psychological resilience.
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Dr. Seema Aggarwal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
12 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi..
There are multiple reasons that for your stress, frustration and anger. Need to understand the root cause of anger.
Anger management
Conflict resolution
Mindfulness required
Next Steps
You can consult Psychologist
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Anger is just another emotion, we just need to understand how to express in a right way.
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Ms. Manasi Tambe
Counselling Psychologist
2 yrs exp
Pune
Hi,
Counseling and psychotherapy have anger management techniques that will help you.
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consult for talk therapy
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Read what you have written aloud..your answer to question is there.for clarity and to resolve inner conflicts connect for counseling.
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practice deep breathing and mindfulness
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connect for more help
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