Communicate properly with your partner

  1. It's perfectly appropriate to tell your partner what feels good in the middle of love making.
  2. Avoid criticising during sex.
  3. Confide to your partner about changes in your body. If hot flashes are keeping you up at night or menopause has made your vagina dry, talk to your partner about these things. It's much better that he know what's really going on rather than interpret these physical changes as lack of interest. Likewise, if you're a man and you no longer get an erection just from the thought of sex, show your partner how to stimulate you rather than let her believe she isn't attractive enough to arouse you anymore.
  4. Try to be honest. You may think you're protecting your partner's feelings by faking an orgasm, but in reality you're starting down a slippery slope. As challenging as it is to talk about any sexual problem, the difficulty level skyrockets once the issue is buried under years of lies, hurt, and resentment.

Give yourself time

  1. As you age, your sexual responses slow down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, interruption-free setting for sex.
  2. Change the situation, timing and place of your sex. You can choose early morning or afternoon instead of monotonous night shift!

Romanticise your sex

  1. Make your surroundings romantic and hot. You can play a hot music or erotic vids in the background!
  2. You can use lubricant jelly/oil or use vibrator to tease your partner. But of course take her/his permission 1st. 
  3. Engaging in kissing and cuddling and romantic foreplay is essential for maintaining an emotional and physical bond.

'Sensuality not the sexuality' should be the rule of an ideal love making

  1. Practice touching. It should be soft and slow. Never squeeze or rub hard. The sensate focus techniques that sex therapists use can help you re-establish physical intimacy without feeling pressured. Try to feel and explore each other's body with all your sense organs slowly and gently. 
  2. Never try to copy the methods you have seen in a pornographic movie. Because real life sex is totally different from that. 
  3. Women prefers a slow, gentle and romantic love making. They tries to feel theirs lovers body by closing their eyes.
  4. Try different positions.
  5. Learn proper Clitoral and G-Spot stimulation for your woman. It will make her crazy for your love! Oral stimulation of the clitoris combined with manual stimulation of the G-spot can give a woman a highly intense orgasm.

Do Kegel exercises

  1. Both men and women can improve their sexual fitness by exercising their pelvic floor muscles. To do these exercises, tighten the muscle you would use if you were trying to stop urine in midstream. Hold the contraction for two or three seconds, then release. Repeat 10 times. Try to do five sets a day. These exercises can be done anywhere — while driving, sitting at your desk, or standing in a checkout line.
  2. Do something soothing together before having sex, such as playing a game or going out for a nice dinner. Or try relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises or yoga.

Maintaining good health

  1. Your sexual well-being goes hand in hand with your overall mental, physical, and emotional health. Therefore, the same healthy habits you rely on to keep your body in shape can also shape up your sex life.
  2. Don't smoke and avoid alcohol. It will definitely hamper your performance.
  3. Take fresh colourful fruits and leafy vegetables. 
  4. Take a right diet. 
  5. Keep your body weight under control and try to love your body too. 

Don’t give up

If none of your efforts seem to work, don’t give up hope. Your doctor can often determine the cause of your sexual problem and may be able to identify effective treatments. Keep in touch with a qualified sex therapist who can help you explore issues that may be standing in the way of a fulfilling your sex life.