A person should deal with the following issues before marriage; otherwise, the couple may face problems in marriage:
- Rebellion against Parents:
It is too often that conflict with parents is a reason for marriage. Many people are uncomfortable in accepting this fact. Young people think marriage as a rational option as a rebellion against parents or a dysfunctional family of origin. For a victim of mental, physical, emotional or sexual abuse, parental alcohol or drug abuse all have legitimate reasons to flee from their families but not for getting married.
Becoming independent from one’s family of origin is something that only an individual can do. People cannot rely on their partner to do it for them.
- Rebounding from Another Relationship:
People to rebound from another relationship may “need” the new partner for emotional support. A marriage works better when two people want rather than need each other. A rebound relationship is in danger from the start because he or she is seen as a substitute, therapist or healer of the wounds of an old relationship.
- Family or Social Pressure:
Many families put direct or indirect pressure on young people to get married. Marriage against one’s own desires is unlikely to produce a happy relationship.
- Financial Security:
One of the traditional reasons for marriage is financial security. In today’s world, financial security is the major reason for marital discord. There is a genuine possibility of unemployment for one or both the spouses over the period of marriage. Many people experience the same for an extended period.
- Pre-marital Pregnancy:
Getting married due to pre-marital pregnancy is not a good reason. Pre-marital couples have shared sex but may lack true intimacy and lack of real understanding of whom they are marrying.