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Feeling insecurity
I feel insecurity when im going to do something better.I always compare something with others then i feel insecure.negative mind and negative thoughts.I compare with others and i feel they will do better than me.please help
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Stop comparing yourself with others. Everybody is unique and has different skill set. Try to focus on the task. Instead of thinking act on it. You will see a difference.
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Speak to your close friends or family members and take their help. Take the help of professionals, if required.
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(1) Start believing in your self (2) Motivate yourself to do a task than comparing (3) Know your strengths and do activities related to it
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Don't compare with others. Compare with you only. Day to day, Try to improve your performance. Always feel CAN. Cans create success. Cants create failure. Always be Positive. Set goals. Try to achieve the goals. Slowly your confidence will increase💪. Consult me in Hyderabad or by phone.
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Practice relaxation techniques. Read Personality Development books. Practice Self Hypnosis. Aldabest
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It's completely natural and normal to feel a sense of insecurity. But try and notice the feeling underlying that. May be you're feeling powerless with a lack of control. Create 'control pockets' by identifying even small things that you can control - like making a list of tasks for the day, etc
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Also, remember the only thing in your control is the present moment. So, get into the practice of practicing Mindfulness which is about focusing on the present moment. There are lots of apps to help you practice that.
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When you create pockets of control, it will give you a sense of agency and make you feel empowered, which will motivate you further towards achievement.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Probably, if you can learn and practice to go at a Race with yourself, this low self esteem can be removed from your thought itself..
Instead of comparing with others, practice to compare with your own yesterday..
How better you have become today than yesterday,
Or,
How good I can become than of my own yesterday's behaviour.
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For a detailed understanding, you can reach me..
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Ms. Kavita Sharma (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Udaipur
Thank you for sharing your concern I appreciate that you are aware about your issues and approaching help from professionals. Negative mind, feeling insecure it's quite natural when we have lots of responsibility or when we take responsibility to do something.. but with that it's also shows lack of self love and self confidence. You can easily cover up if you just trust yourself fully. Clam yourself, do meditation, divert your thoughts and positive thinking. When you have already done so much definitely you will do more. Just trust yourself. If you still find difficult. I suggest you to consult with psychologist to help you best. You can also contact me through practo app.
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Consult with Psychologist.
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Try Meditation or Mindfulness.
Try to divert your mind into positive thoughts.
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Ms. Seema Jathar
Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Pune
Hello
To feel insecure is a natural feeling which everyone has but as you said that you compare yourself with others and feel insecure that they will do better than me is something beyond insecurity, It's feeling of jealousy and due to which you feel anxious. Let me tell you something everyone has its own pace no one is superior or inferior to other it's our perception. You musT be doing something's which other can't do best, try to focus on your positives and strengths instead of others. Take help to come out of these negative thoughts. You can take my appointment through this app and start sessions.
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Ms. Rajatha Sarkar
Counselling Psychologist
19 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hello thanks for your approach to us, I appreciate your self concern to handle the situation.
Feeling of insecurity is quite common for most of them, let it be relationship, studies, performance, self look, skills and others. Sometimes comparing with others in most of these areas could build up this emotion. Like the same how you are experiencing, it might be because of expectations, lack of confidence / self belief, happiness or satisfaction.
Its ok you try working on your strengths, trust yourself saying I have the ability / skills try to explore & perform in different manner, or in small work which you feel confident, understand everyone are different / unique in their own sense. Tiny success is ALWAYS VALUABLE, Keep a short term goal (weekly), Try recognise your small achievements, motivate yourself/ appreciate that you could do something.. This will help you to handle your emotions or negative thoughts.
Simultaneously try to take help of the counsellor. Take care, stay positive.
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Along with this working yourself, visit psychologists for better guidance.
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Keep routine and exercise, you chant omkara with help of few app or sites in the net. Help to relax, hobbies and play games with your family and friends, socialize rather staying alone.
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Ms. Lakshmi T Rajan
Psychologist
14 yrs exp
Chennai
Hi! First of all insecurity is a common feeling that people encounter during difficult times especially during extreme situations like this.
Since you have mentioned "always" begin to focus on your strengths in a day from the smallest of things to your greatest achievements of the day. Try writing them done in a piece of paper. Read it out loud before you go to bed. This activity will help in increasing your self-worth and self-esteem.
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Try The Mind Care app from Google Play Store . The self-love audio therapy will help you boost your confidence.
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Dr. Mustafa Mun (PhD)
Clinical Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Mumbai
Hello,
It is a human thing to feel insecure. It’s natural and it happens to the best of us . Try diverting your mind with activities which bring joy to you , which maybe anything random such as cooking or maybe photography etc .
The more you get those happy hormones released , the better you’ll feel.
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1) Meditate at least for 10 minutes a day .
2) Identify an activity which will bring happiness and joy such as cooking or painting or photography something which will release those happy hormones.
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It is human to feel what you’re going through , the more you’ll dwell over the past , it will affect you more , try to keep your self occupied with things in the present . This will help you in the long run.
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