Relationship Anxiety/Insecurity. Help.

Hey Sometimes, a lack of trust can manifest in the absence of things - a lack of touch, a lack of warmth, a reluctance to make plans together. You may feel like your partner withholds their true feelings from you - that they have erected a wall of politeness or neutrality Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling online or in person All the best

Hi, Need to understand whether these trust issues are only pertaining to your partner or in general you can’t trust others too? The understanding of your past experiences and figuring out why you feel that mistrust in the first place will help you overcome it.

You overcompensate for the fear of loosing her, but in return you are doing more harm to your relationship because you will not be able to sustain this. We can connect over a call and understand this at a deeper level and help you work out your feelings. You can contact me on Practo.

The Insecurity which you experience with your partner could be due to various reasons.. I suggest you to consult a psychological Counselor for a therapy.. You might overcome this issue by Seeking a professional support... You can reach me by using the link given below : https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir

Here are a few suggestions that could be helpful : When you begin to focus on what's calling for your attention and needs to be addressed within you, you will be able to overcome the challenges you are dealing with right now. But, take responsibility and take charge, you must. You cannot drive out darkness dealing with it face-to-face. But once you light a candle, darkness automatically disappears. As you know, just like a healthy diet, regular physical activity and adequate rest contribute towards physical well being, there are practices that can help you address your insecurities and fears and take care of your psychological and emotional well being. Once you incorporate these practices in your daily routine, you will soon begin to see their impact in the way you think, feel and behave. One of the essential prerequisites is an awareness of the dynamics of thoughts and emotions. The nature of the mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Today the mind might be fixated on something. Tomorrow it could be another topic/event/person. Another important characteristic of the mind is this - You may either have thoughts about the past or the future. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that you cannot have thoughts about the present moment. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states may keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. 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