Articles on positive mental attitude

How to Be Positive About Everything

Dr. Lakshmi T Rajan, Psychologist
How To Be Positive About Everything"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful." ~Albert SchweitzerWhen you are positive about everything in your life, something magical happens. Everything good seems to effortlessly flow your way, your desires effortless manifest, and people just love hanging around you. People in your presence smile and laugh more, which makes you feel even better inside about being alive. Being positive is more important than you think. It's the foundation of your very survival. If you could only think a stream of negative thoughts for the next few weeks, you might start believing suicide is the only viable option. Once you learn how to find the good within the bad, you'll easily manifest a continual flow of success wherever you go.Life contains both polarities of nature, the deep and dark as well as the light bright, and everything between the two. The dark always contains the light, and the light always contains the dark. Just like the eastern Yin-Yang symbol. They co-exist as complementary energies that cannot exist separately. This melting light/dark energy is found in the fabric and matrix of every atom in our Universe. When you remember this, you'll know that somewhere inside the negative you can find a seed of something positive. You just have to get out your microscope and look more closely at the situation with a creative mind and an open heart.The greatest advice I've ever received for being unstoppably positive about life is the thought that "anything is possible". This one little concept has allowed my mind to continuously open, even after it became momentarily closed. Believe it or not, it is possible to be positive about everything that happens to you in life. There is always something to be learned from each situation, person and circumstance no matter how challenging it may be. Being consistently positive is simply a choice that you make in each moment. It's a creative choice where you decide that you are 100% devoted to finding some possible way to enjoy this experience. Finding positivity in everything stems FROM believing in the impossible. You start realizing that you're living in an infinite Universe that has no boundary to it, thus there is no boundary to your mind or imagination. How would you view your life differently this week if you knew without a doubt that anything and everything was possible?I'd like to give you a little exercise that will help you find the power to be positive about everything. Right now, focus your attention on your heart. What emotions and sensations do you notice are going on in there? Allow the energy around and inside your heart to soften and relax until you feel your mind follows along, and becomes more relaxed and quiet with it. Breathe slowly and deeply, focusing only on your heart relaxing. Do this for 5-10 minutes and enjoy the process of relaxing and letting go. Just explore the experience of relaxing your heart. You'll soon notice as your heart relaxes, it feels like there is more space for you to think positive thoughts about your life. I invite you to keep relaxing and opening this heart space... as you read the rest of this article.A positive state of mind is the soil where you can plant and harvest the seeds of your desires. Positive thinking is necessary for happiness to blossom and you . It creates an energized state of mind that we all wish to live in 24 hours a day IF it is authentic and truly real. You may wonder is this possible or desirable to be positive about life all the time? It is possible, if you can constantly let go and surrender to your spiritual path. Sometimes we need more growth, change or diversity to add to our life experience. Thus, we may think we need to temporarily get wrapped around a lower vibration of negative thinking. Usually this is followed by a strong urge to try and think only pure positive thoughts all the time. It's good to know that everything in life, yes everything, is temporary.The mind is like a parachute, when it opens up it will save your life. With an open mind you don't have to try so hard to only think positive thoughts. You can allow for any life experience to show up and simply open your mind to seeing the positive come out of it. It is a constant moment to moment choice to have an open positive mind. If you can just choose to have an open mind, you'll be able to manifest anything and everything you want in life. If the mind is impatient and continues to stay closed and will not open, embrace it with curiosity. The more doubt, disbelief, and resistance you have, the greater the transformation will be! If you can maintain an open mind and a relaxed heart for the next 30 days of your life, an orgasmic experience of constant bliss will be awaiting you. That is something to look forward to!!When you practice opening your mind and relaxing into your heart for 16 hours a day, eventually positive thinking will come flooding into you! You will explore what its like to embrace each experience you have with a childlike state of wonder and curiosity. You will see how much fun life truly is! You can play, learn, experiment, and enjoy this Divine creative exploration your soul signed up for! You'll see that each positive or negative thought is a gift or a tool that's designed to help enlighten you on your journey. The negative dark energy emphasizes positive lightness, and makes is sparkle! When you relax about the negative, you'll soon find that the situations you're currently in right now are all Divine and sacred. Then, each circumstance of your life becomes a guru for you.When you're ready to live a life that is filled with relaxation, you'll start appreciating the little things in life. You'll find happiness in a green blade of grass or even a simple walk in the park. You'll start to slow down more and bring yourself into a natural state of meditation everyday. You'll want to practicing sitting alone, quietly with yourself, being relaxed, still, silent and truly resting into your heart for 20 minutes every 24 hours. By making this a daily habit, you will build up substantial energy, focus, and consciousness that your spiritual awareness will become finely tuned. The advanced spiritual seeker is deeply happy with life exactly as it is...and this divine part of you is wanting some practice! Ultimately, your spiritual exploration in life is where you'll find a natural long term state of positivity that carries you through the day."You are the Supreme Being, and yet thinking yourself to be separate from it, you strive to become united with it.What is stranger than this?" ~Ramana MaharshiIf you can stop and imagine yourself having a spiritual awakening experience in your life, what do you see happening? The experience of enlightenment is simply a shift into a larger perspective about everything. Start with asking yourself if you are experiencing this moment of your life from the viewpoint of your ego, or from your soul? Are you seeing life as if you were connected to the God Source or trying to connect to it? The shift into happiness occurs when your ego dissolves and you surrender to the whole. When this occurs, the secret is that you don't try to maintain or possess any perspective, epiphany or spiritual experience. Just thank it for coming to you, feel it into your bones, and integrate it when it shows up as best you can. A spiritual ecstatic experience can be very big and amazing, so the tendency may be to try and hold on. Yet, let each one go and remain open because the next one (an even bigger one) is on its way!It's good to know that each experience of life already contains an effortless direction connection to the God Source itself. There is nothing truly you need to "do" to create this connection. You already are this spiritual energy and divine consciousness. It is already here now, in this very moment. These enlightening thoughts are just pointers and reminders for you to see and feel it again. So just relax, sit back and enjoy the ride! Enjoy this blessed magical mind and body you're living in. You're about to dive inside yourself and discover that the rest of your life is a grand spiritual journey. Have fun and enjoy the ride!Spread unconditional love.

Are You Grateful?

Ms. Raisa Luther, Psychotherapist
Some people are naturally positive. They see the metaphorical glass half full. They wake up in the morning and look forward to the day.Gratitude helps us maintain our emotional balance. Gratitude helps us have a positive outlook when things aren’t going well. It helps us in having healthy relationships with others.Gratitude helps us to growGratitude makes us humble. That’s the opposite of being egotistical and arrogant. No one likes proud people. Humble people are more likable.Humility also helps us keep an open mind, since we don’t believe we know everything. With an open mind we are ever ready to fresh inputs from others. These inputs help us grow. Our progress is contingent on how much we are willing to learn.Gratitude can be learntGratitude can be learnt as a spiritual practice. A counselor once asked me: what are you grateful for? When I began to list the things I was grateful for, I was surprised. It was a long list. For instance, I am grateful that I am alive today, that my family loves me, that I have food to eat, that I have a house to live in, I have friends, I have clothes, I have enough money, I am healthy…and so on.Gratitude for health and happinessThere is scientific evidence that shows that people who practice gratitude are able to achieve more satisfaction, happiness, and are healthier. These people take better care of themselves and have less sleep issues. Gratitude leads to positive psychological health. People become more social, less isolated, less lonely, more compassionate and helpful towards others.Whenever you are faced with a problem, do not see it as a hassle. Call it a blessing. Problems are inevitable. Problems are actually opportunities to learn. Problems are stepping stones to greater growth. In every situation, try and see the positive side and be grateful.Whenever you are struggling with a problem, make a gratitude list! Cultivate your gratitude by looking at the beauty of small things – a sunset, a flower, a cake.Every moment of gratitude makes you stronger!

5 Things Happy People Do

Dr Rahul Luther
Some persons are born happy, some become happy and some achieve happiness. However, there are some common things happy people do that ensures their happiness. These are:Stay positive. Staying positive is a cultivated habit. In all circumstances, happy persons do not lose their positive perspective. They realize that tough times don’t last, that there is always sunrise after darkness. If you remember that everything is temporary, even sadness, then you’re likely to stay happy.Practice gratitude. Research has shown that grateful persons are generally happier. They acknowledge the contributions of others in their lives and are grateful for it. They express gratitude by saying ‘thanks’ more often and do things for others. This enhances their connection with others and leads to a more fulfilling life experience.Ask for help. We all need help sometimes or the other. Whether it’s for a project, or an emotional problem, we should not feel too shy, or too proud, to ask for help. Asking for help opens up new avenues. And most of all, it helps us stay humble – humility being a most likable trait.Go the extra mile. Whether it’s at office, or with a friend, or a relative, do something more than expected. This will generate all-round satisfaction. The extra effort will indicate that you care for others and for your work.  And it shall reap unexpected surprises and benefits.Do the unexpected. Life can become a boring routine. Break it. Do the unexpected. Go for an unplanned holiday, or a spontaneous outing. Call a long-lost friend and go for a spontaneous outing. Add zing to your life with little surprises sometimes.Happiness can be achieved and maintained if we do these five things as a habit. Stay happy, friends!

7 Steps You Can Take for Mental Well-Being

Akshata Bhat, Psychiatrist
Take care of yourselfAs simple as it may sound, the mere act of taking care of you is the first step to good mental health. Eat healthy, exercise and get adequate sleep every day. These are the building blocks to good physical health, which translate into mental well-being.Prioritize It is not possible to do everything. The constant effort to do so creates unrealistic expectations. It eventually results in disappointment. Life is too short to waste on unnecessary things, so figure out what your priorities are and focus on them.Invest in yourselfEnvision yourself as a company set up and funded by you. Whatever you invest, you will get the returns accordingly. Give yourself the best; whether it is moral support, top notch grooming or courses to equip you with skills in the field of your choice. Hold nothing back when it comes to you.Let it goHolding on to anything, be it anger, pain, jealousy, failing relationships, dead end jobs or toxic friends will only bring you unhappiness. Let it go. Cut the cord. Break the cycle. Letting go will make you receptive to newer and better opportunities in your life.Take a breakGetting caught up in the daily grind leave you with little time for yourself. Your mind and body need to recharge from time to time. Take time out for yourself everyday to do something you enjoy. ‘Me’ time will help you relax, and motivate you to meet your daily challenges.Be ridiculousLaughing helps to reduce stress and is an instant mood elevator. Having a good sense of humor helps you see the bright side in difficult situations. It makes you optimistic and hopeful. Humor is also a very attractive quality, and it will draw people towards you.Ask for helpOften people feel that asking for help is a sign of weakness; or that by doing so, it lowers your prestige. Thus, even in very tough times, we tend not to ask for help and try to handle everything by ourselves. The truth is that it takes immense courage to admit that you need help, and there is nothing wrong in asking for it.

Today Is Mental Health day.use Intuitions and 6th Sense.

Dr. Neelam Nath Bhatia, General Physician
There is No person with 100% correct mental /physical health. Every test carried out in blood has a range. A person is labeled diseased only if the limits exceed normal range or fall below the rangeThere are 3 types of personalities according to Ayurveda.Type A is like Air , Flighty ,always on the go , multitasking ,and result oriented. Type A need not be physically active all the time to achieve their goals. A racing mind is also associated with type A personality. Creative people ,leaders , intellectuals are Type A and the world is dependent on Type A types because They are the Leaders.Type B is like Water, flowy but slowly , working but without much strain on body or mind & We can call them Cool !Type C is like Earth , steady, accepting , not keen or adventerous ,dependent ,ready to please or get pleased.It is a colorful world consisting of all of the 3 types of people.Be Careful of manipulative people who can read the mind and trap the person , knowing well his/her vulnerabilities , exploit them and label the supposedly 'weak ' person as Mad.Remember the programme- Kamzor Kadi Kaun ? ( Who is the Weakest in the link ?)Bottled up Stress can make any normal human behave like Mad.Every Mental Illness does not require Medicines . A good counsellor can do a wonderful job.Who is a good counsellor? An MD doctor, An MA Psychology or an elder in the family or a close friend?It can be any of the above. I am sure one retains some of 6th sense / intuition to know about whom to confide without getting exploited More to get really Mad.Stay away from medicines for anxiety if possible.If none of the above is available as in our country Mental Disease is still a tag , unlike other physical diseases like heart and lung disease or the ones the person is borne with.Start writing a diary about positives and negatives that has happened in life so far. Write a page daily. It is like cleansing our souls. Give a pat to self for good job done daily and a slap for being bad and nasty.One has to maintain both Physical and Mental Health & we take care of physical health by going for a walk /exercising /eating the right food etc. Similarly Mental Health needs to be Protected by each one of us through our own ways.Know yourself before knowing others and analyse self before being Judgemental.Social isolation can increase the risk of both cardiac and mental illness and sometimes it can be a Deliberate attempt to Isolate Seniors of family for Selfish purposes. Do Not Yield in. Remain connected with like minded people and do contribute to society like volunteering,mentoring,joining a civic club or scheduling outings with friends.Medicines should be the last resort of cure of mental disease for a person of any age, a mother can read her child and analyse the demands,adult child of same mother can be able to read the mind of mother. Never mind if child is settled well far away.Dementia or forgetfulness are 1st stages of routine mental illnesses and these are preventable by just doing simple Self Analysis.

5 Step Shortcut to Improved Self Esteem for Addicts

Ms. Raisa Luther, Psychotherapist
It is important to bring about a change in oneself so as to improve the self-esteem. The first step towards building self-esteem is ‘Goal Setting.’ This is important because one needs to feel motivated, challenged, and excited to feel good about oneself. This is very important in the development of addicts and alcoholics so as to make them realize about the capabilities, needs, desires and wants, thereby making them aware of other important areas of life apart from drugs and alcohol. The goals that are to be set should be specific, measureable, attainable, reliable and time-framed.The next step towards improving self-esteem is ‘Risk Taking.’ It is important for addicts and alcoholics to find another “high” in their lives apart from the substance that they use. To get a “high” from productive things in life will help one feel proud about themselves for the efforts that they have put in to reach their goals, whether won or lost. Risk taking is a hard yet exciting way for discovering the abilities a person has thereby working through limitations and fear.The third step towards nurturing self-esteem is ‘Opening Up.’ This is another major problem in chemically dependent people. They find it difficult to open up about their feelings and thoughts among and for the people around them. This leads them to be dishonest and in the process they live their lives in denial. It is very important to open up because it gives clarity about what they are and what they want especially to people who trust and encourage you.The fourth step is ‘Wise Choice Making.’ This comes from sharing our thoughts and feelings, and getting a feedback about behaviors from people around us. Addicts and alcoholics have always compromised on making a wise choice because of their low self-esteem. Therefore, it is important for them to share and talk about their decisions to someone before taking any action. This needs a lot of patience which brings us to the fifth step ‘Time-Sharing.’ Growing or building up of self-esteem doesn’t happen overnight. It requires a lot of patience and efforts, which in turn requires time. It is important for addicts and alcoholics and their families to understand that if you don’t allow yourself room to grow, you may find yourself doing more stagnating than renewing. It is a good idea to maintain journals or records to assess your growth after a period of time. This brings us to the final step of ‘Healing.’ This includes the physical health and well-being, involving interaction between mind, body and spirit. It is important to heal emotionally to feel positive so as to get rid of self-defeating characteristics, thereby nurturing self-esteem. It is important to pay attention to minute details like grooming and general etiquettes. Meditation is also another way of mental healing to quiet the stress and anxiety within. It is thus important to feel love for yourself and nurture yourself so as to grow your self-esteem.“Self-esteem is as important to our well-being as legs are to a table. It is essential for physical and mental health and for happiness.”-Louise Hart

6 Ways to Maintain Your Everyday Mental Health

Dr. Mehak Nagpal, Psychiatrist
When we feel physically unwell, most of us visit the doctor. But many of even when we feel we are in the wrong frame of mind, have bad moods, feel sick of ourselves,etc. we simply get on with life, not really being aware of the effects our behaviour and thoughts might be having on our general sense of wellbeing. With that in mind, here are six steps aimed at keeping you in top psychological condition. These are the areas that are important for building self-confidence and living a life that is not thwarted by anxiety or low moods. Where to focus your efforts and to seek help if that doesn't work. Work on accepting your situation: Accept what you don't like in your life. That doesn't mean you can't try to change it, but acceptance helps everything feel far more bearable as you work towards a happier situation.Be nice to yourself: Every human deserves the same kindness, love and understanding, even you.Make the effort to stay fit: There exists a definite link between mind and body. Your ability to cope with life is improved by a nutritious diet and a regular exercise programme.Connect with others: Lonely people are at greater risk for immune and cardiovascular system disorders, and sleep is often more of a problem for people affected by loneliness. Making connections with new people as well as tending to family ties is extremely important.Take time out for yourself: Work out what truly interests you and make sure it is a genuine decision, not one forced by anyone else's desires or limitations.Stay organised so you have to worry less.

Pandora’s Box & the Psychology of Hope

Guruprasad Shivakamat
Anger, jealousy, joy, hurt, love, comfort, it all started fluttering out of the box. Confounded Pandora closed the lid of the box. It was too late. The curse of Zeus and curiosity of Pandora left humanity helpless.  Vigilant Pandora closed lid before one thing could fly away from the box. HOPE. The story of Pandora depicts the helpless nature of human beings, but one thing we control is hope. Well, we hope even when sometimes we are hopeless. That’s the charm of hope. It’s always there in the box.“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” Martin Luther King Jr.When people come to psychotherapists usually they have done it all. They have been to the mountains, different cults, met the gurus, Bua, Baba. Been there, done that. In depression, or other disorders what we first work on is hope. Yes, you can get better. Hope plays an important role in therapy. If you can reach till hope, you can reach everywhere. Let’s understand hope better technically there are many definitions of hope. I have given both definitions at the end, people with research background read it**. I don’t want readers to lose hope by reading the definition so made a simple chart out of it. Hope consists of three things1) Goal– Goal forms an important ingredient. A goal which has enough value to occupy our conscious thoughts. Hopeful goals have some uncertainty. Look for that.2) Routes – Hope also consists of different pathways and routes to achieve the goal. If we can’t see the routes hopes starts to fade away.3) Motivation –  Important part of hope is motivated to take on life’s Goals. Regardless of barriers. So even if we don’t look at hope every day in these three terms, but we wake up with hope. It forms an important part of our living. What keeps us alive more than oxygen blood or perhaps even love is hope. 

Mental Health Care for New Mothers

Ms. Pallavi Tomar, Psychologist
Arrival of a baby is supposed to be one of the happiest and joyous experiences in a mother’s life. However, some women may experience postpartum disorders following childbirth that may deeply affect their mental health and well-being, in turn also affecting the care of the baby. Having a baby is a significant life change and for many new mothers the lack of sleep and fatigue may take its toll on them. Many new mothers experience what is commonly known as ‘postpartum/ baby blues’. These are mood swings the new mother experiences as a result of hormonal fluctuations post childbirth. Postpartum blues are very common and may be experienced by majority of women. The onset of postpartum blues usually occurs a few days after delivery and should begin to subside as hormone levels stabilise in a weeks’ time. Simple ways in which postpartum blues can be managed:Ensuring a somewhat fixed schedule every day.Help from the partner or other family members. Making sure the new mother gets adequate rest and sleep. Diet must be adequately nutritious.Making sure the new parents get some time to themselves to relax and unwind. Spending time together is also important to reconnect and share feelings.Exercise is effective in uplifting mood. Easing back into some physical fitness routine would be immensely helpful.However, a few new mothers may develop more serious concerns such as peripartum and postpartum depression, anxiety or even psychosis. Hence, it is imperative for new mothers, their partners and care takers to also pay attention to their mental health and feelings of well-being. Peripartum refers to those mood symptoms that occur during pregnancy and postpartum are those that may develop in 4 weeks following delivery. If a person continues to experience mood swings or feelings of depression for more than two weeks post childbirth, the problem may be more serious and special attention must be paid. Signs and symptoms of Postpartum Depression and Anxiety to look out for:The symptoms of postpartum depression are the same as clinical depression, involving persistent low mood, decrease in interest, excessive fatigue and lethargy, crying spells, feeling helpless and inadequate, loss of appetite and sleep, increased irritability, anxiety and panic attacks, intense worry about the child or lack of concern. In rare cases, some women may also experience Postpartum Psychosis. A few signs and symptoms to look out for are:Postpartum psychosis involves presence of psychotic symptoms post childbirth. Women experiencing these symptoms may develop strange beliefs or ideas without any basis, they may hear or see things that are not really there (hallucinations), may become suspicious and paranoid and fear harm from others, they may experience rapid mood swings involving euphoric mood with overactivity to high irritability and anger, may feel disorganised, may have decreased need or inability to sleep. If you or a new mother you know are experiencing these symptoms, it’s important to get help. Both these conditions require intervention by a mental health specialist and hence the patient and their families/friends should seek help immediately. These conditions can be managed well with proper treatment and care.