How to begin your sex life is the question which looms largely on the minds of some people who have opted for virginity until late age of 25 or more!
Here are some tips for those who are looking forward to begin with the most important relationship of their lives:
1: Prepare yourself - GET READY mentally and physically. Make sure you are healthy and normally developed. Make sure all your organ systems are working fine.
Do the investigations if necessary.
Take time to learn about your own body and your that of your partner.
Share your ideas about hygiene and mend your ways if your partner so desires. Get well acquainted.
2: Develop a good mental rapport with your partner. Whether an arranged or a love marriage; good communication, sharing your sexual fantasies, body image, expectations in life, health issues is a must. Many people think putting out their best foot is essential to impress a would-be partner. But in time you will realise HONESTY is the most attractive quality in a spouse.
3: Do not commit to a relationship until you are absolutely sure of what you want. If you are anxious about your sexuality, do not rush in anything.
4: Do not carry baggage of any feelings of guilt attached to your sexual being, appearance or financial burdens if any. Interpersonal comfort and openness is very essential in a couple’s life.
5: Find what you like the most about each other and appreciate your partner frequently. You can begin with the “likes” and then point to minor “dislikes” in that order! That minimizes the impact and hurt caused by criticism. Criticism is a part of good communication, but should not be used to put the other person down. Both partners should be mature enough to take it lightly.
6: Be Well -Informed: - Relaying on porn videos or discussing with friends or trying to use commercial sex to learn about how to perform sex has its own disadvantages. You may land up with infections or worse, or myths and irrational fears. Seek premarital counselling session from an expert sexologist.
Wish you happy life!