Why is Sex Education needed? &Benefits.
Sex Education is a fundamental human right. All human beings are sexual. They have sex organs, sexual feelings, sexual expressions, and sexual behaviors. Learning about Sexuality beginsfrom the time of child is born and continues until the End of life.
Sexual development, sexual needs, and sexual expression of a human being can be effectively studied by dividing them into six age groups.
1] Infancy [birth to 1 year of age & 1year to 3 years age is Toddler]
2] Early childhood [ 3-6 years of Age]
3] Late childhood [6-9 years of Age]
4] Early adolescence [9-14 years of Age]
5] Late adolescence [14 – 19 years of Age]
6] Youth [19 + age]
Each group is unique in its developmental aspects, behavioral patterns, sexual needs, and expression of Sexuality in adulthood. The great psychologist also proves this. Sigmund Freud proposed that psychological development in childhood occurs during five psychosexual stages: oral, anal, phallic, latency, and genital. These are called psychosexual stages because each stage represents the fixation of libido (roughly translated as sexual drives or instincts).
Sigmund Freud –(NEUROLOGIST)proposed that psychosexual development in childhood occurs in the above stages.•
According to him, 0–1-year age is the oral stage. Other characteristics of this stage are a pleasure from breastfeeding and vocalization. If the mother does not correctly handle this stage may disturb adulthood sexual orientation. •
Similarly, second stage 1-3 years of age Anal stage characteristics of this stage is a pleasure from retention or repulsion of faces should be handled appropriately. •
Third stage Phallic age group 3-5 years is characteristics of pleasure from touching genitals, Oedipal [male] and Electra[female] complexes.•
Fourth stage age group 6-11 years is called Latency identification with self-sex.•
Fifth Stage Genital Stage is called Genital Stage characteristics heterosexual attraction is group12-18 years.• According to my opinion & various psychologists' opinions, if any disturbances in the above stages may lead to problems, blame in Gender Identification may confuse and reverse attraction of same-sex instead of the opposite sex. •
Such ratio is 20% may fall in Homosexuality male to a male relationship is called Gay or Female to a female relationship is called Lesbians or Bisexual, or Transgender or queer fall in LGBTQ group .
So far, there is no scientific data; why? 80%heterosexuals & 20% Homosexuals; exist in society.
Gender identification is a great challenge to society. There is no specific treatment, only acceptance. The real purpose of' sex education is the transfiguration of a male child into manhood and a female child into woman hood.
We had patients reach out to us for counseling after marriage, thinking they may keep a sexual relationship. It is challenging; after counseling, we know the real story about his Sexuality, i.e., homosexual [Gay]. Note that the real cause of Homosexuality is scientifically unknown. Such a relationship ends in a sad story of a breakup. Though before marriage, nobody figures out his sex identification.
So, I think this book will help take steps. Parents must keep watch during growing childhood above all developmental stages & watch on a male child whether of inclined more towards girls' friend then it is normal heterosexuals or keeping only boys then must take advise from consultant sexologists or psychologists or psychiatrist rule out Homosexuality by asking direct interest in male or female or both. Infancy Care [Birth to 3 years of Age]Many natural behavior patterns of infants are not acceptable to adults.
Often adults reprimand infants with 'No-no,' Shame-shame,' Dirty-dirty.' This should be avoided. This is the beginning stage of forming negative attitudes towards one's genitals and the surrounding area, and this leads to developing a feeling of shame, guilt, and doubt. This creates bad effects on both male and female babies. We can see the results in adulthood female baby leading to Vaginismus [painful intercourse] is the psychological condition causing contraction at peripheral vaginal muscles leading to painful coitus.
Similarly, males lead to psychogenic impotence. That is our clinical observation.
Parents must specify gender roles through their talk and actions of growing children. Boys play with guns, engines, cars, and trains, and girls with dolls, tea sets, or doll's houses. And advised wearing male baby with male dresses & female baby female dresses. Boys can be aggressive, shout, and break things. Girls should be obedient, submissive, and orderly.
Note for parents, in case of a new arrival in the family, and children sometimes feel deprived of attention. Parents can prepare the child to accept the new baby & to share things with them. Parents should ensure that the child doesn't feel deprived of attention because of the new arrival. Parents can show their children that they are interested in them by spending quality time with infants and building rapport from the early years to the adolescent stage.
Building Positive Values towards Sexuality1] Body hygiene has to be emphasized without feelings of guilt and shame.
2] Respect for all body parts and their functions.
3] Somebody functions are performed in private, behind closed doors. This privacy has to be respected after three years of Age. Parenting Care - During Early Childhood [ 3- 6 years of Age] They feel they get pleasure from their genital stimulation. These pleasurable experiences are not the same as the sexual feelings of a mature adult. Don't disturb them.
At this stage, the child identifies with an adult of the same sex. A boy will often have his father as a role model, while it is the mother for the girl. Thus sex -appropriate Behavior develops. Please note parents should take care of a child-This is of innocence and vulnerability.
Sexual abuse of children is more common than we admit. To protect children from sexual abuse, they must be given clear guidelines and instructions on
A] Recognizing sexually abusive Behavior
B] Resisting the perpetrator.
C] Reporting the incident to parents or trusted guardians. Late Childhood Care [6-9 Years of Age] Parental Role in Developing values. Open and healthy discussions on human Sexuality will bring parents, and children close.
Children will learn to trust and rely on their parents for future guidance. At this age, boys and girls need to know what is biologically different about their bodies and why. Body and sexual hygiene have to be taught. Adolescence is simply a transition stage from childhood to adulthood. It is a stage that all young people go through to become biologically and sexually mature. In girls, it may start a searly as 9 or 10 years, and in boys, it begins around 12 or 13 years.
Adolescence is a time of rapid changes in the body, emotions, and attitude. Early Adolescence [ 9-14 Years of Age]Dramatic physiological changes occur like the menarche in females and nocturnal emissions in males.
Please note that most male patients come with complaints that Nightfall is nothing but night physiological emission or ejaculation in males. It is usually no need for any treatment. But due to myths, most college students feel it is a loss of energy; it is a myth and misconception that developed in males, counseling assurance and explains whatever- ever you eat, after digestion body throughout the form of feces similarly excess semen formation is ejaculated or emitted, is a normal physiological state. Both the girls and boys develop strong affections [crushes] amongst them if same-sex may rule out Homosexuality if opposite sexes then normal heterosexuals.
Behavior patterns. Girls are anxious about menstruation, pimples, breast size, and general appearance. Boys are eager about height, beard, pimples, voice break, penis size, and nocturnal emissions. Both boys and girls spend much time looking in the mirror, dressing up, and making themselves attractive to the opposite sex.
Note- if there is any evidence of same-sex attraction, then rule out Homosexuality, gay attitude in males, and lesbian attitude in females. Values Building Values that are to be built up are common to both the early and late adolescent stage and are hence taken up together in the age group 14 to 19 years.
Education in Human Sexuality.1] The anatomy, physiology, and functions of the male and the female reproductive organs should be detailed. Hygiene of the genitals, body odours, pimples, nutrition, and exercises should be dealt with. Adolescence[14-19 Years of Age Late].