Have you ever had to deal with a toxic person who feels like his purpose for existence is to provoke you? Such a person might be a family member, a colleague, or a teammate.
This is nothing new in sports. Despite establishing a healthy team culture, some members might not see each other eye to eye. I’ve had clients who have to deal with teammates who are called aggressors. What should you do if such a person exists in your team?
Remember to slow down. Take a moment to reevaluate your emotions. It’s always best to think logically before reacting. I always talk about mindfulness so I have to insert it again. Self-awareness can be very beneficial in these types of situations. Honesty is important, too. I usually ask my client if this is something they’re willing to talk about with their aggressor. Chronic negative behaviors always have triggers and through these triggers, the core problem can be identified.
When something or someone bothers me, I prefer to talk about it to the person involved if possible. Being upfront and letting him know that you do not want to be part of the drama is doing half the battle already. What he decides to do with that information is up to him.
Speaking honestly is one way to set a boundary. If this doesn’t work, reach out to the coach.
Remember that how others treat you is a reflection of their own insecurities. Focus on things you can actually control.
Can you relate?