Parenting is a beautiful experience. Parents play the vital role in helping children grow. In their role as creators and providers can we compare parents to the sun? As we know sun is the sole provider for earth who maintains whole existence here, by giving tirelessly without any expectations. How about role played by children? Can we compare children to the moon; who continuously revolves around the earth in the process of the sustenance of it's existence..?? It doesn't sound like the whole truth and there has to be much more to this relation than what it seems like, at surface level. Let's go ahead & check the role played by both parents and children in the course of life and see If parents are just the giving entity or are they also receiving simultaneously..??!!! If they are also receiving, what is it that they receive while parenting..??

A Life is Brought on Earth…Creation Phase 

We are Pregnant..!!

A life is conceived when the creation & nurturing forces come together as father & mother. From the moment a life is conceived, every cell of the embryo or to be a child is formed from the body of the mother. How a child looks like is decided by how father, mother or the ancestors looked like. The health of the infant is the reflection of the health of mother & father because she gives the infant what is very own her and he gives the genes and creates a conducive environment. The conditions in the womb are just the reflection of mother’s food habits, mindset and the moods which shape that of the child to a great extent. Mother herself is very much reflection of her own outer environment and inner strength. 

Child is Raised….Maintenance or Shaping Phase

My journey starts from the place you are..!!

Parents are the representation of the society to the child. A child would start and advance exactly from the point parents themselves stand. If parents feed child, she’ll have food. If parents can recognise child’s emotions, she would learn to recognise and understand her own emotions. If parents respond to her needs appropriately and create a secure environment, she would have security in her heart as well as life. If parents recognise her talents, capacity and inclinations; she would develop them. Child would invest herself continuously in any intellect developing medium like school only because of the will of parents. Through their will she would eventually develop her own will. She would learn from the values parents’ project, observe the way they live and make those standards her own. Parents are the lens through which child looks at herself as well as the society. Overall growth in every aspect of the child from physical to spiritual is just the reflection of her parents. Child carries her parents throughout her life.  The impact of parenting on child is expanded further in the Article about effective parenting

Adulthood & Marriage…The Exploration Phase 

I am curious, adventurous, exploring & expanding however i am also bound..!!

This is the phase where initial growth has happened and individual can take care of himself in every front. He can earn his food, contain and express his emotions, think & analyse rationally, make his own decisions and most importantly has developed a will; which helps him to set goals and work for the goals without any immediate reward in vicinity. This is the phase where he learns to look at his belief system from different angles, consider the bigger picture rather than a single perspective and take his own stand. He hastens his exploration and expansion as an individual. He ventures out & Starts engaging in work which fulfils his deeper needs. Once a certain amount of development is in place, he is ready for the major step, marriage.

Marriage is the coming together of two people on the foundation of commitment to contain the attraction and expand the intimacy, within its very own boundaries. So far, the person mostly has been a receiving entity; with marriage he starts to give, to accommodate and to walk with.  The success of any marriage is the reflection of the extent to which two people involved can respect each other give unconditionally & appreciate what’s received. This is the beginning of Love or self-expansion where one starts realising the joy of giving. More about marriage is discussed in the article on role of romantic love in marriage .

We are different as individuals yet three of us make the perfect, her & life..!!

Giving Birth & Raising a Child….The Evolution Phase 

Once couple can contain each other in a trusting environment, they are ready for further self expansion in the form of parenthood. Conceiving and parenting a child gives an individual the opportunity to give unconditionally, which is the meaning of real love. Children are the answer to a parent’s craving for an eternal Life. Children strengthen the bond of parents with universe by teaching them to love truly. Responsibility towards children is the will that motivates parent’s to work harder. By helping children gain agency, parents strengthen their own confidence, esteem & agency. So parenthood; by driving Love, motivation, & responsibility drives the higher order growth of men. Parents shape the future of children & are in turn shaped continuously during the process. They expand self, attach themselves to children as if they are one with them and then detach from children eventually; gaining wisdom in the process. Parenthood teaches understanding & develops inner strength which in turn creates a bond of trust and caring towards society . 

Late Adulthood….The Testing phase 

The path had it's seasons however journey was splendid..!!

This is the phase where the outer strength which was taken from someone else diminishes however inner strength which was built so far is tested. The person is happy to the extent he has managed to expand. If he gave everything he could to life unconditionally and received all that parenting & parenthood gave him totally, he would be more content than insecure. He would be even with life because he would have received a lot & given unconditionally. His body becomes less important to him than his emotions, emotions lesser than intellect & intellect less important than mastery & will. His concept of home expands.

Are Parents like Sun & Children Like Moon in Existence..??

The Nourishing Sun & the Expanding Moon : The Parents & The Children..??

“You are the bows from which your children

As living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,

And He bends you with His might

That His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;

For even as he loves the arrow that flies,

So He loves also the bow that is stable.” 

Kahlil Gibran, On Children ~ The Prophet

In the journey of life; we are the past, present & the future. We were the children who received from yesterdays,  we are the individuals who are evolving the present day & we would be the parents who shape tomorrows by giving . If we received directly from some, we shall be giving directly to some others. When we give, we indirectly receive at a higher level in various forms namely sense of satisfaction, motivation to live,love,laugh, struggle & sustain, sense of expansion etc

We are both the arrow that flies far & bow that is stable. Life has been flowing through us throughout yesterday, today & tomorrow towards eternity. Be a parent or child, we are the links for life to flow & we ourselves are the life. Hence We neither are the sun who is mostly giving & nor the moon who is mostly receiving. We are the earth who takes from the sun & gives to the moon while sustaining Life & evolving every day during the process. Let’s cherish the interdependence and connection we share with everyone/everything & grow together...!!

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