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I am in a relationship and I have lost my confidence, self esteem and value. Though no matter what I want that person. I am so dependent on him, everytime I want his attention. But I feel he is not understanding me or giving that attention. Somewhere inside me I know he is not the one, but I am struggling to forget him and move on. He knows how much I care for him, and he just plays around by talking to unknown girls giving attention to someone else. We had a very bad past in these 2 years, where physical abuse, mental torture, cheating and emotional breakdown I have faced. But somehow I forgive him everytime. I seriously wanna know what's wrong with me ,why I am falling for this person whom I don't deserve.
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Not worth it Let’s get you out of this Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counselling Understand your worth
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Hello I hear you and I understand how painful it must be, to be in a difficult relationship. A healthy relationship is supposed to make you feel supported, loved and cared for and you deserve to be in a happy, healthy relationship. I know that it is easier said than done, but step away when you cannot find peace for a really long time. There could be different reasons to you wanting to stay, but it would be great if you could reach out to a mental health professional. Psychologists are experienced professionals who would be able to guide you through it. There are different types of therapy depending on your need. Therapy will guide you to regain the lost self-esteem, confidence and also help you to make healthy decisions. The best thing you could do is to go for therapy. However here are a few things you should know: Learn to let go- If you are in a toxic relationship, know that you have enough strength to come out of it. You deserve better- No matter how unconditional your love was in the relationship, unless it goes both ways, it is not worth it. Stop waiting for your partner to change- If your partner hasn’t changed in the last two years it is highly unlikely that he will start putting in effort and try to change now. Accept that it will hurt- When you finally let go of it, it is going to be extremely hard, but know that it is a big step you took in the right direction. When you feel hurt, cry it out and let yourself feel everything you feel. Take some time off- Take a break and go on a vacation or do something else that calms you down and takes your mind off of things. Know that happiness is in your control- You are in charge of your life and it is important to take care of your mental and physical health. Taking back control begins with you. Love yourself. Forgiveness is a great quality, but know when you have to step away. Domestic violence should not be taken lightly. If you feel like you are in a potentially dangerous situation, please reach out immediately. Stay Strong, you will get through this!
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Hi. It happens. Don't ask questions to life. Its good that the whole thing came into your view. I am sure life will give you back what you deserve. Trust destiny. What about your family, friends and pets! Love them, they need you. If you're wrong then think about those girls on streets begging and living in road side tents! Broader your understanding about life
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focus on your career, become independent first
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enjoy solitary life creatively. further in life you may not get this
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Hey Glad u reached out. I can imagine the emotional turmoil ur facing currently. It must be challenging for you to see him prioritise other women in ur presence. It’s understandable that u face self doubt and constantly blame yourself for this toxicity in ur life. To start with ... it’s not ur fault. U haven’t brought her this onto urself. Let’s connect sometime to see if u have any limiting beliefs about urself that inhibits you to look after your own well-being.
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Take care of urself and feel free to connect for a session.
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U need to analyze yourself. Past is past. Develop confidence and Improve self-esteem with Positive thinking and Positive self-affirmations. Change your thoughts to change your actions. change your actions to change your behavior. change your habits to change your character. Change your character to change your Life.
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Ontact me to overcome yiour miseris.
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1) Positive thinking and Positive self-affirmations.
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It looks like that you are Seeking the attention that you missed from your own people for various reasons.. I see some lack of clarity and you are confused to come to any conclusion or decision.. I suggest you to consult a psychological Counselor to understand yourself better and to overcome this issue..
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You can reach me by using the link given below for more details :- https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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Hi, you can contact me for an online appointment and we can explore this narrative together
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Hi..I am sorry to hear about the disturbances(emotional,psychological,physical)you are going through ..it’s not your fault and you are not to be blamed.You have all the right things to be happy and lead a peaceful life.Since you have recognised the toxicity of the relationship ,what is that you want from this relationship? It’s you,who have to decide ,what is next in your life? You have the power...Think and choose wisely.Connect with a Counseling Psychologist for further help.Good luck.
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