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I've been in a relationship with a guy since 2014. Many times he became so abusive to me and has controlled me. Every step of my life has been controlled by him, like my career, my friends circle, people to whom I have to talk, where I have to go etc. Everything was going with his desire. Many times I tried to break-up but We have been in physical relationships also and that is why I felt it was too hard to get out of him. But two months ago I found that he's been cheating on me for 5 years and in that anger I lost my self control and went to his house and told everything to his parents. But again he came to apologize to me and again I started talking to him. But again and again I was informed by some people that he has been in touch with that other girl also. I again tried to break-up but he again held me by apologizing to me. I am afraid of my parents also how they'll react once they know this. What should I do in this scenario??
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Doesn’t matter they will be on your side. Don’t worry but just get out of this toxicity. That’s my best advice for you okay because otherwise you’re mentally. You are compromising on yourself and emotionally also so it’s of no good. Be bold okay take a step you’ll be free from this. Take my help. If you want you can consult me for counselling. All the best.
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You seem to have an understanding already that this is toxic as you have mentioned in the heading. You have mentioned all the issues- abuse, control, betrayal. I understand you have a long relationship and it will be hard to pull away as there is attachment. You will need to be assertive and set boundaries and stand by them. You always have a choice. Choice is yours whether you decide to stay or leave.
Try getting relationship counselling from a clinical psychologist to learn ways to be assertive and to stand by your decisions.
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If whatever you say is true, don't waste your time with this person who is cheating as well as physically controlling. Live your life. Don't bother that you had physical relationship with him and be his slave. Take a break and move ahead. Good luck
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I understand your situation and its difficult to take decisions in such long relationships but you need to understand you should not and cant have long time happiness with someone who is abusive and as it lonterm relationship more off it becomes habit to be with that persot which you need to understand first and habits can be changed. Try to make him also understand that take a break for 3-4 months and lets see what problems both of you feel in your relationship and write it down in between if you feel to talk to him for a while do it just don’t continue as it was have period for your own thoughts to pen down. After all see what you want to do wether you want to continue or discontinue. Also discuss with you parents take there help also psychiatrist. Consider your parents suggestions in this. Take time for yourself.
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I can help you better with further treatment course needed. U can connect me via whatsapp on seven zero eight two zero two two zero six two.
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Dr. Suyash Dwivedi
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Please consult a psychologist. They would be able to guide you better.
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