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Preparing for government exams
I am preparing for government exams since last 2 years and I had given 2 attempts and I didn't succeed, for past one month I am unable study as like before and I am always idle for longtime with open book no use of it .confidence and hope fully losed. My mind past 10 days feeling like I don't want government exams , let's go to private sector and work well, but I am in fear
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After putting in so much effort, feeling stuck and confused is completely understandable. This doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it may mean your mind needs a break. Don’t make any big decision right now. Give yourself some time to rest and think clearly
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Hi,
After preparing for government exams for such a long period, it is natural for the mind and body to feel mentally drained. When stress, pressure, and expectations continue for months or years, many students begin to experience reduced concentration, lack of motivation, self-doubt, and emotional exhaustion. This does not mean you are weak or incapable — it means your mind may need rest, balance, and a different approach right now.
The thought of moving towards the private sector can feel confusing because a part of you still fears leaving the path you have invested so much time in. At the same time, another part of you may be looking for stability, confidence, financial independence, or a healthier routine. Instead of forcing yourself to decide immediately, try slowing down and giving yourself space to think practically rather than emotionally. Small achievable study goals, physical activity, proper sleep, and reducing pressure on yourself can gradually help improve clarity.
Please remember that success is not limited to one examination or one career route. Many people discover meaningful careers through unexpected opportunities and different paths. Your value as a person is much bigger than the result of an exam.
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Try avoiding long isolated study hours for now , shorter focused sessions with regular breaks may help your concentration return gradually.
Practice slow deep breathing for a few minutes when you feel mentally overwhelmed, as it can help calm the mind and reduce anxiety.
Also, avoid comparing your journey with others, as constant comparison can increase self-doubt and emotional pressure.
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Hi, succeeding in government examination is tough. You are trying and that is appreciated.
But do you really want to be in government sector or doing it because somebody told you to do so?
Try to find the answer. Connect with a psychologist and discuss for better management.
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Hi, Consult a psychologist
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I can understand how frustrating and emotionally draining this phase must be for you. Preparing for government exams for a long time, facing unsuccessful attempts, and then suddenly losing focus and motivation is quite common.
What you are experiencing is likely a mix of burnout, performance pressure, and self-doubt. Sitting with a book but not being able to study, losing confidence, and feeling confused about career choices are signs that your mind is overloaded and exhausted, not incapable.
The thought of switching to the private sector is not wrong, it is coming from a need for relief and stability, but the fear is because of uncertainty and attachment to the effort you have already invested.
Right now, instead of forcing yourself to study like before, the focus should be on stabilizing your mental state:
Take a short structured break (2–3 days) without guilt
Reflect calmly on your goals: Do I still want this, or am I continuing due to pressure?
Avoid making impulsive decisions out of frustration
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Consider speaking to a professional to work on clarity, confidence and planning
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Don’t label yourself as a failure, this is mental fatigue, not inability
Avoid comparing yourself with others; it increases pressure and blocks focus
Start with small study goals (30–40 minutes) instead of long hours
Maintain a routine including sleep, physical movement, and limited screen time
Write down your thoughts instead of overthinking internally
If you feel stuck or need clarity, you can consider consulting me for career counselling and structured guidance, where we can work step by step on decision-making, confidence building and planning your next move.
Important:
Do not take a major career decision (leaving exams or switching fields) when you are feeling low, confused, or burnt out. Decisions taken in this state are often regret-based, not clarity-based.
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You sound mentally exhausted and burnt out after carrying exam pressure for so long. After repeated attempts, many students start feeling stuck, lose confidence, and sit with books open without being able to focus. It does not mean you are incapable.
Right now your mind is confused between fear of continuing and fear of leaving. Don’t take a final decision in panic. A private job is not failure. Sometimes structure, income, and reduced pressure help people think more clearly.
Start small again instead of forcing long study hours.
Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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Hi, thank you for sharing your experience. Preparing for government exams for a long time can become emotionally exhausting, especially when results do not come as expected despite continuous effort. Feeling low motivation, stress, or self-doubt during this phase is understandable.
Instead of putting pressure on yourself, try taking one step at a time. Make a simple study plan, focus on small achievable goals, and maintain proper sleep, food, and relaxation. Deep breathing and short breaks can also help in reducing anxiety and improving concentration. If these feelings continue to affect your daily life and motivation, consulting a counselling psychologist can help you manage stress and emotional wellbeing more effectively.
Warm Regards,
Dr. Namita Ranjan
Clinical Psychologist
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Ms. Shambhavi Kumari Diggi
Mental Health Counselor
5 yrs exp
Jaipur
You have been preparing for a long time and you tried very hard, but things did not go through the way you hoped. Right now it sounds like a part of you feels exhausted and does not want to continue with government exams anymore. At the same time, another part of you still wants it deeply â and that is why there is so much fear, confusion, and inner conflict.
After repeated attempts and so much pressure, the mind can become very tired. Sometimes the exhaustion becomes so deep that even when the book is open in front of you, the mind is unable to absorb anything. This does not mean you are lazy or incapable. It often means you have been carrying stress, disappointment, fear, and pressure for too long without enough emotional rest.
Government exams are genuinely difficult and demanding. You gave your time, energy, and effort sincerely. Please allow yourself some time to rest mentally without immediately judging yourself or forcing yourself harder.
It may also help to talk to a therapist or mental health professional about what you are going through. You do not have to carry all this pressure alone or keep everything inside. Sometimes speaking openly about the fear, disappointment, expectations, and confusion can help bring clarity and reduce the emotional burden you are carrying.
Right now, you do not need to decide your entire future immediately. Try to focus first on taking care of your mind and emotional wellbeing. When the mind feels less exhausted, decisions become clearer.
warm regards,
shambhavi kuamri
psychoanalytic psychotherapist
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