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I had a lot of impulsive thoughts. I broke up and since then it has increased a lot. He was toxic and he cheated on me but still I am not able to move on.
Even now I asked to get back and he says he wants time. He is very manipulative and makes everything about himself
I just got a ketamin treatment done and they told I need 2 sessions in a week and I am on medications too along with the treatment
Is it a good idea for me to get back with him?
I am really not able to handle all of this
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It's hard to be away from a person you have been deeply connected with, I understand your feelings that it has impacted you so deeply. It feels lighter to share your feelings with someone who can understand your point of view and help you get to achieve your goals. You can book a session for therapy which will help you better.
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Reach out for sessions
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First thing you need to do is relax.
These things are common in a relationship situation. Things happen and you need to get a hang of it and get a thought to salvage your situation, or heal or come over it.
Just channelise your energy to think about good things, positive thoughts and things that you love doing.
Take care
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Hi there,
It sounds like you’re going through a difficult and confusing time, and I want to acknowledge your strength in reaching out. Based on what you’ve shared, it's important to prioritize your emotional well-being right now. You’ve mentioned your ex’s toxic and manipulative behavior, which can deeply impact your mental health, especially during a time when you are already receiving treatment and medication.
When considering getting back with someone, especially if they’ve been manipulative or unfaithful, it’s crucial to focus on whether the relationship is healthy and supportive for you. Sometimes, the emotional pull of past relationships can cloud our judgment, but true healing often requires setting boundaries and focusing on your personal growth and recovery.
It’s also important to continue with your treatment, including the ketamine sessions, as it can support your healing. However, it might be helpful to focus on yourself for now. If you feel unsure about your decision, talking to a therapist who can help you process these emotions and gain clarity can be incredibly valuable.
Remember, your mental health comes first. It's okay to take a step back and focus on healing before making any decisions about the relationship. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it could also be worth seeking additional support from a psychiatrist or a therapist who can guide you further.
Take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out if you need more guidance.
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Trivendra Kumar Sharma
Counseling Psychologist
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Hi, Consult a psychiatrist
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Hi, thank you for sharing. It sounds like you’re going through a lot, and it’s completely okay to feel overwhelmed. Given the history of manipulation and emotional pain, getting back into the relationship may not be the healthiest choice right now.
Your focus should be on healing, through ongoing treatment and regular psychotherapy. You deserve support, safety, and clarity.
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You should consult a professional and seek appropriate support to cater to your emotional needs.
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Hi, I hear you. Given everything you're going through, itâs important to get into regular psychotherapy and figure this out with support. You're not alone in this.
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You’re in an extremely vulnerable space right now—emotionally raw from a breakup, coping with impulsive thoughts, and undergoing intensive treatment like ketamine therapy. That tells me your system is overwhelmed and actively healing, not stable enough yet to handle the emotional rollercoaster of a toxic or manipulative relationship.
Wanting to get back is not weakness—it’s your nervous system craving familiarity and safety, even if that familiarity was harmful. It’s trauma bonding, not love. And manipulators often thrive on your confusion, keeping you on a leash with statements like “I need time” so you never fully detach.
This is not the time to decide about reconciliation. Right now, protect your progress. Use therapy to rebuild your core—your self-worth, your insight, your ability to choose safety over suffering. You deserve peace, not patterns.
Take therapy, and you can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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Consult online for session
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It seems to be post traumatic psychological changes. It needs to be addressed asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be treated well with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively.
It needs to be treated in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
You can continue with ketamine treatment along with homeopathic medicine effectively.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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Hi,
Itâs understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed given the breakup, the toxic relationship, and your ongoing mental health treatment. While it's natural to have mixed feelings about wanting to reconcile, it's important to prioritise your well-being and emotional safety. Reconnecting with someone who has been manipulative and unfaithful can sometimes hinder your healing process and may lead to further emotional harm. Since you're already receiving medical and therapeutic support, itâs crucial to focus on your recovery and building a strong, healthy sense of self before making any decisions about reconciliation. Consider discussing your feelings, concerns, and the situation with your mental health professional, who can help you evaluate whether getting back with him is in your best interest. Remember, healing takes time, and it's okay to prioritize your own mental health and happiness.
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Can't be declared for certain but What you are experiencing is suggesting a form of Dependant Personality Disorder, could be BPD as well, but needs deeper examination.
No, dont get back right away.
Dont chase him.
And specially if you know he's toxic, he's cheated, and he says he needs time
Dont throw yourself at him like this.
Take a pause. If it's meant to be there, it'll be.
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Don't chase him anymore. Try to calm down.
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Thank you for sharing this. It sounds like you're going through a very emotionally overwhelming time, and it's understandable to feel confused and conflicted.Getting back with someone who has hurt you deeply could delay or even undo some of the progress you're trying to make. It's okay to miss someone or want closure, but it’s important to ask yourself: Does this relationship bring peace or pain?
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If you feel comfortable, keep exploring these feelings with your therapist—it’s a safe space to untangle the emotional confusion.
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
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11 yrs exp
Delhi
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Should you go to him. That’s a No. we are unable to move on in life is because we don’t get a proper mutual closure with the person during the break up.
Any relationship should be about growth and being emotionally safe., which is missing in ur relationship.
It is quite difficult to forget person as he has been involved in ur day to day life. How much ever you would want to forget, there would be incidents where you would have imagined him, or would have spent time wd him.
Contact me for further coping mechanisms on eight three six eight zero five three seven one zero.
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Ms. Farheen Moulana
Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Bangalore
I can understand your pain and also can see how hurt you are. You need to talk about these feelings to a counsellor to process them. To get back or not to get back to your ex will always be your decision but a proper counselling session will help you to realise and work out the pros and cons of the relationship and also make you realise if it is really worth it. Please connect for sessions.
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Ms. Rizwana Parvin T M
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Talk to a counsellor, it would help you calm down and make the right decision. Take care.
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Mr. Fr Dr John Zachariah
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9 yrs exp
Ernakulam
Please consult a psychotherapist and take an emotional based therapy
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