Mental health. He says i willkillu both!

If you r having problems due to ur father it is time for u to leave the house in case u r living with him. In case ur not, then send him to a psychiatric facility for a few days to get him treated. It will give u some breathing time to recollect ur mental balance.

Send him to a psychiatric facility

Take a break from this abuse by calling him less frequently. Let ur mother know how it is impacting u. Know that u have the responsibility towards ur own mental health before that of your parents.

Hi, I understand you and your mother is going through a very tough phase. There is a dysfunctional family map I can see from the details you have provided. Along with a berievment in the family. There are possible causes behind it: Your father is not being able to connect properly in the family. The reason, he better knows. There are chances of neurological impairment due to the accident. His anger is uncontrollable. There might be a medical issue, might not be also. If we can give the space him to ventilate himself, it might get better. Good show at workplace suggests his maintainance of outer image. But inside he is so much frustrated and not satisfied, reason can be anything, may be related to childhood, trying to be the superior etc. These are all possibilities, actual diagnosis can be any of the above or all of the above.

Please connect with a neuropsychiatrst, and follow the advise. Try to incorporate a psychologist in the management. You and your mother can also consult a psychologist, then it will be easier for you to manage him and the toxicity.

Hi, I'm sorry to hear about the difficult situation with your father. His behavior, including shouting and mood swings, could be related to his high blood pressure, past health issues, or emotional stress from losing your sister and other factors. It’s important to seek medical evaluation for him, including a thorough psychiatric or neurological assessment, to rule out any underlying mental health or neurological conditions that may be contributing to his behavior. Supporting him with proper medical treatment, counseling, and involving mental health professionals can help manage his condition. Also, try to ensure a calm environment at home and seek support from family members or counselors to cope with the stress. Remember, his behavior is not your fault, and professional help is essential to improve the situation for everyone’s well-being.

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Sounds like you're going through a super tough time with your dad. He's been dealing with high BP for 10 yrs and it's affecting how he interacts with you and your mom, right? He's quarreling a lot, shouting for no reason, and it sounds like it's impacting everyone's health, including yours and your mom's. Did you want to talk more about how you're coping with this situation or is there something specific you're looking for help with regarding your dad's behavior?

This description indicates a complex behavioral and possible neuropsychiatric issue, not just a medical one related to high blood pressure. Let’s break it down systematically: Clinical Explanation The father has: Long-standing hypertension (10 years) Mood swings and irritability Sudden anger, shouting, and quarrels without clear reason Reversal of blame (“you’re mental”) History of accident and possible head injury 4 years ago History of seizures (fits during fever) Episodes of being normal at work but aggressive at home Threatening statements (“I will kill you both”) These point to a combination of neurological and psychiatric disturbances that may have physical (brain-related) and psychological causes. Possible Diagnostic Considerations Organic Personality Disorder / Post-Traumatic Brain Injury Changes After the accident and possible brain injury, frontal lobe damage can cause disinhibition, irritability, aggression, and emotional instability. Fits (seizures) and low calcium episodes can also contribute to neurochemical imbalance and mood changes. Mood Disorder with Irritability (e.g., Bipolar II or Cyclothymia) Alternating good and bad moods, sudden anger, and normal periods may indicate mood dysregulation. Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) Sudden, unpredictable anger outbursts without proportionate cause, followed by normal behavior. Hypertension-related Vascular or Cognitive Changes Long-standing high BP can affect the small blood vessels in the brain, causing vascular dementia or mood/behavioral changes. Possible Paranoia or Early Dementia Reversal of blame, irritability, and aggression can sometimes appear in early dementia or delusional states. Red Flag “He says I will kill you both.” This statement is a serious threat and must be taken very seriously. If he becomes violent or threatens again: Ensure your safety first — leave the home or stay with relatives/friends. Contact local emergency or mental health helpline immediately. Do not argue or provoke further; keep calm and maintain distance. Recommended Next Steps Neurological evaluation MRI brain and EEG (to assess for post-traumatic or seizure-related issues). Re-evaluation of BP medications and calcium levels. Psychiatric consultation A psychiatrist can assess for mood disorder, psychosis, or personality change due to brain injury. Treatment may involve mood stabilizers, antipsychotics, or antidepressants if needed. Family counseling A family therapist or psychologist can help you and your mother cope with his behavior and set boundaries. Safety measures Keep emergency contacts ready. Avoid confrontation during anger episodes. Seek temporary separation if threats continue. Summary Diagnosis Organic personality change secondary to traumatic brain injury / hypertension, with possible features of intermittent explosive disorder or mood dysregulation.

From what you’ve described, your father’s behavior could be influenced by several factors—long-standing high blood pressure, past accident, grief from losing a child, or even emotional/psychological issues.A psychologist or psychiatrist can help assess if there’s depression, irritability, or another underlying issue.

When he shouts, try not to argue back. Step away and talk when he is calmer.

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Hi, Your father’s behavior and sudden mood changes sound very concerning, especially since he’s become aggressive and has made threats to harm you and your mother. This needs urgent attention. Such behavior could be linked to uncontrolled blood pressure, past head injury, medication effects, or an underlying mental health condition. Please ensure safety first and if he becomes violent or threatening, leave the house and contact a helpline or a trusted family member. He should be evaluated as soon as possible by both a psychiatrist and a neurologist to identify the cause and start treatment. Try to stay calm and avoid arguing when he’s angry. If things escalate, don’t hesitate to reach out to a local helpline. If it is effecting your mental wellbeing, please do not hesitate to reach out to a psychologist to help with coping mechanisms.

If your father's behavior becomes threatening or you feel unsafe, do not hesitate to seek immediate help from professionals or trusted friends and relatives. Your wellbeing is a priority.

Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Family problems like this are more common than most people realize, and support is available. With the right interventions, families can find relief and stability.

Hi... You need to take Family Counselling. It is meant to address such issues. Your family experienced loss of a loved one 5 year back and such incidents have a potential to turn around the dynamics of any family or any social unit. For your parents, it is too big a loss to bear and such things gravely impact any marriage and the family born out of it. About your father's condition, yes high BP may cause anger or anxiety issues, but his frequent outbursts are combination of what he suffered in his life, family, marriage, career, relationships, etc. He requires thorough medical/ psychological evaluation and treatment. This not going to get better on its own. I know he might not be willing to seek professional help, but if you take him to a good doctor (Cardiologist/ Physican) and explain his issues and they suggest him consulting a Psychologist, he will certainly consider it.

Consult a Psychologist. Family Counselling or Individual Counselling is necessary. CBT along with Grief Counselling and Interpersonal Guidance is required.

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