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Happiness
Can't be happy
I try to think positive, but I can't . I feel lonely and become rigid when people approach. I'm very lonely and sad
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Hi there,
There should be some reason for your unhappiness...
Otherwise why would you feel depressed....
Something bothering you can be shared with any professional psychologist or therapist...
Remember, there is solution for everything in this world...
We just need to be open minded and should move out of our comfort zone...
Initially it may be difficult but once you get how to solve n live happy you will rock!!
Not to worry..
Next Steps
Book an appointment with me for tele consultation....
Health Tips
Stay positive...
Stay joyful...
Daily Physical work out..
Chill with friends...
Visit any spiritual places to calm you...
Be happy...
Take care...
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“The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” - Mark Manson. When you accept that being lonely wont last forever, it will slowly let you heal. You are not lonely, you are experiencing being alone in solitude. Emotions are energy in motion. You’ve got to express yourself and let them move. Become friends with your emotions. Don’t label them as positive or negative, they aren’t good or bad, they are just simply... emotions. The path to happiness is an internal one my friend. My immediate advice to you, is to begin an inner journey of exploring ways to deal with your feelings. Whatever we resist will persist. If you feel that “this emotion is bad”, I shouldn’t feel like this. It will only make you feel worse. However, if you think... “wow I’m sad... why am I feeling this way...? maybe because this thing I’m sad about us meaningful to me... that I care about it.”
We’re not always sad but we put ourselves in a sad state at times. Beware of this too! Get yourself around happier content, people and make sure you consume positive media. Would love to speak in further detail. Shoot me a message on Instagram - @flozoneacademy. I will help you further, bro. Upwards spiral!
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Misery and Happiness are in your Hand. Feeling good about everything will make sure you will be better.
Next Steps
Better to consult Psychologist
Health Tips
Recollection of Past success is good technique for you. Recollect your Past Happy and successful incidents. Reinforce with those thoughts. Set goals and Try to achieve. Enjoy the every moment in Life. Be Cheerful. Connect with Smile.
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Hi.. According to your statement you are trying since long & it seem that there had been any incident leading to you in this state.
Next Steps
If you are Pune based please take an appointment with clinical Psychologist at MediPlace Polyclinic at Baner
Health Tips
Try to focus on your thoughts.
Rationalise if those thoughts are making sense for you, if not ignore the thought this may help you.
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Hi,
Happiness is a state of mind. Begin to understand yourself well and the Nature around us. We are not perfect beings, hence trying to becoming perfect or forcing ourselves too much can lead to to unrealistic expectations and stressful situations. Hence we all should begin with accepting our limitations, thus leading to relaxed mind and platform to overcome our limitations and also state of mind to accept others limitation, which will further lead to a better relationship with people around us.
Sometimes some are born with sensitive or emotional personality, they might have lot of positives, strengths, skills etc but may lack in handling emotions during stressful conditions. Hence might feel very uncomfortable handling their emotions especially during an emotional outburst with near and dear ones. Such situations can lead to soured/bitter relationship and people might start ignoring you and also people or you might stay out of relationships and prefer to stay lonely. This might enter into a vicious cycle and can influence your personality, decrease happiness quotient and sense of loneliness and abandonment can creep in.
Hence decreased happiness, being lonely and perceiving self and all activities negatively.
Next Steps
Don't stay in this state long duration, try to take help from a mental health professional especially the psychiatrist who is also good in counselling skills and can impart positive psychology to you
Health Tips
Stop being too critical on you
Accept your limitations and work on it
Think all the positive things that you have done in your life and recognise your strengths and work on it
Tips for studying
1. begin with end in your mind, what is your goal for today what you want to achieve what are the portions that you intend to complete
2. learn relaxation techniques which are available on the internet, or learn from an expert
3. few techniques for relaxation are, deep breathing techniques, progressive muscle relaxation techniques, counting 1 to 10 slowly when you are irritated or in anxious mood.
4. practice yoga and meditation
5. do regular physical exercise, healthy body healthy mind and vice versa
6. gaps in between your study periods, study for 40 to 50 minutes and then give break
7. create a good study environment, correct posture, pleasant temperature around you, good lighting
8. ask few questions while studying like what am I studying, how useful it is to reach my goal, what I understood, am I able to to teach 7 years or 8 years old kid.
9. whatever you read, share it with your friends or go to the kitchen and keep tell your mum or your dad or anyone else, doesn't matter whether they understand, you just express your joy in your words
10. if you don't understand don't be anxious of panic, it is normal. we don't have to understand everything all the times in all situations, we have to be realistic and also kind to a self.
Be Happy
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Good day Friend. Thank you for reaching out here. I can understand your concern about loneliness. Human mind works based on secretion of different hormones to feel the happiness. Obviously these hormones will secret only when you look,feel,sense,hear,smell good things around you like ex: people appreciate your work, you accomplish some tasks, talking to friends , good foods, hearing nice music, enjoying good relationships etc.
So the solution is, be with the company of good people around you. Yes, it quite difficult to connect with people immediately, but its definitely doable task. It just need a give and take approach and little bit of relaxing your ego.
Be positive. You will be alright soon.
Take a counselling support to overcome this problem.
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Ms. Lakshmi T Rajan
Psychologist
14 yrs exp
Chennai
Hi,
At your age, if you feel lonely it is surely a matter of concern.
Try to find out answers to following questions
1. Why am I not feeling happy
2. Why do I want to be alone
3. Why am I rigid with people
4. Why am I sad
Next Steps
being happy is our very nature. Try to go back to your original nature.
Health Tips
Download 'The mind care' app and use the audio therapies. If you need further help, contact
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
I think there is some incident which happened in your life some time ago, could be the reason for your feelings.
Next Steps
Having identified your weakness, it is time to work with your strengths..
Seek a professional support..
Consult one of us using this online portal.
You might get a clarity..
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Ms. Narita Sabharwal
Psychologist
6 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi! Don’t let the thought of not being positive, feeling lonely and sad stress you out. The more you think about it in this manner, the worse it’ll get. I get that it’s easier said than done, but here are a few things that might help.
Next Steps
Try and calm yourself with a little meditation, start from a minute a day and try going up to 10 mins.
Try and be productive and busy
Try and be as mindful as possible
Visualise you’re goals
Exercise
Health Tips
Try and seek professional help for you to be able to achieve and reach the above goals with guidance and ease
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Ms. Seema Jathar
Psychologist
5 yrs exp
Pune
To be alone can be a choice but loneliness is from within. Some people feel lonely from inside though they are surrounded by people. You need to work on thought process and also will have to see the root cause of these feelings. Please take my appointment as soon as possible through this app.
Next Steps
Take appointment and start therapy sessions.
Health Tips
Journaliae your thoughts
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Ms. Kavita Sharma (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Udaipur
Thankyou for Sharing your issue. I appreciate that you are taking care of your self and approaching help from Professionals. I understand how tough time you must be facing with your own self maybe with blaming and confusions too. I suggest you consult with psychologist to help you best.
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Consult with psychologist.
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