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Do abusers change?
I have been a victim of abuse and the abuser was my partner.It was both physical and mental. Now that I have walked out of the relationship, he is promising me a change in behaviour. This has left me confused. I have been told by few professionals that the chances of change is rare to none even with therapies. What should I do?
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Dear human, thank you for sharing and reaching out. From what you've mentioned, it sounds like you've gone through a tough time and you have been trying to gain some clarity on your partner's behaviour. Firstly, I appreciate you for reaching out for help for your concern. You've taken a significant step in your mental health journey. Your partner's abusive behaviour can be due to many reasons like his past trauma events, if any in his life, his personality, any negative life incidents, etc, of which only he would be aware of. Abusive behavior is not right and should not be tolerated. We cannot assume if he is changing or not, it's totally upto him. He can consult a mental health professional to analyse why he has behaved in a certain way, what can be the causes and if there are any possibilities to manage it. Meanwhile you can consult a psychologist or a therapist, to explore your choices/options, to identify if you really want to get back to this relationship and figure a beneficial way out for yourself. Therapy would also help you to process what you've undergone in a safe and non-judgmental space. Hope this helps :) Take care!
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Hi, I understand you have gone through a tough period in your relationship. You have walked out of the relationship and your partner has promised to change. You are confused about what to do. You can explain about your situation in detail with a psychologist and counseling sessions will help you. I understand you want to be happy. In order to be happy you have to put yourself first and think about what is good for you. You can think of looking for positives in a situation.
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Hi, Understand your concerns. Based on your brief, you need to make a choice whether you want to give a chance or not. As your message doesn't give any picture of your past. There is always a possibility for a person to change at any point of time only when his intention is fully into it. Otherwise it would be on and off. Probably you both can have a session with a relationship counsellor to understand the things in a better manner which will help you to take a decision.
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That's the choice which you need to   choose out of your own past experiences.. Professionals like us  can Only give you certain clarities and guidance.. The decision should always  e taken by you about your future.. If you still feel you can take chance of the probabilities, that would be the  decision taken by you..
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