Constantly thinking. Live without him!

Hello Dear, I assume u r single at present. And u have been in a 3 years long relationship which is quite a long duration..          Yes !! 3 years of spending quality time will give you a lots of memories to cherish & at the same time some memories to be regretful, guilty & angry at times.. but memories are something which we can't forget completely or delete it.. they r going to be there with you.. that's the reason u feel that he is still exists in you..          n that's a reason for you having a feeling of wanting him and at the same time feeling detached considering the point he has changed completely..       First thing u need to do is to TELL YOURSELF & ACCEPT THE FACT !! (that u had a break up ) accepting things unconditionally takes out the emotionally uncomfortable feelings attached to the same fact.. howsoever bad it might be !!          Having said that, the point is not WHY HE HAS CHANGED but the fact that WHY SHOULDN'T HE CHANGE or for the sake of human nature it's completely normal that people do change.. see yourself when you would have been in 5 th or 10 th grade or in college n now.. don't you see a change in yourself..           The point being, PEOPLE DO CHANGE with time, education, age, Job profile, money n most importantly priorities n experiences..            Look, u are sounding like an emotionally sensitive person & may be he is not and he might be more practical.. may be he is having other priorities.. may be he is no longer interested due to bitter past experiences.. may be he's seeing another girl..  may be he would be an altogether different person..                                           these are just one of the possibilities.. but how does it justifies that just because u had a bad relationship experience, you can't find a good person in future.. surely no two people r same (human nature).. so you are not going to find a guy similar to your X.. even if your X would have a twin brother I bet he would have been much different than what ur X is..            So chill !! N don't let your n your family's expectations from you of having a prosperous n good future get affected just because u had one bad experience !!

don't take life too seriously !! we were not born to be serious !! it's a journey to be enjoyed while you travel through the path n not when u reach the destination !! have short term goals !! think of one day at a time - learn, laugh, work hard, help others n make others n yourself happy on d same day, so that you could sleep peacefully in night!! don't have fixed or rigid rules about relationships as it's not a game to be played but a emotional need !! don't expect too much !! don't give up !! most importantly be satisfied with what you have rather than thinking about what you don't !! AND learn to accept reality n facts of life, howsoever bad it might be !! ( that would give you more strength, motivation n maturity as u go ahead on your journey)

if it lasts too long, seek a good counselor !!       all d best !!