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I’m in a serious relationship. My partner is really good and very loyal to me, and I’m happy with him. But I recently found out about a lie he told me, and he only confessed it after two years of being in a relationship. This is really disturbing me.
He had a girlfriend before, but instead of showing me her real photo, he showed me a picture of his friend and said she was his ex. Later, I found out the truth — that the girl in the photo was just a good friend. I don’t understand why he even had to lie about something like that.
I absolutely hate lies. I never imagined he would hide something like this from me. Now I’m overthinking a lot about my partner and I’m finding it really hard to trust him. It’s deeply disturbing. Sometime I behave very badly with him . Sometime very normal. I don't know why I am doing this.
Please help.
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Hi. When trust breaks all these things happen. However will need further history regarding the same to advise appropriately. Consult online for counseling
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I understand how deeply this has affected you. When someone we trust lies, even about something that seems small, it can shake our sense of safety in the relationship. It’s not just about the photo — it’s the fact that he hid the truth for two years. That naturally makes you question his honesty and your trust in him.
Your reaction — sometimes angry, sometimes normal — is your mind’s way of coping with that confusion and hurt. You’re not doing anything wrong; you’re just trying to make sense of something that doesn’t feel fair.
To move forward, he needs to acknowledge how this impacted you and show you that he’s committed to being fully honest now. And you deserve support in processing this — not just for the relationship, but for your own emotional peace.
Take therapy. You can connect with me at nine two six six seven two six zero six five. You’re not alone in this.
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Both of you need to air out the suspicions and differences between you with an open talk. If needed with a therapist and let him explain why he did this. It is the best possible next move.
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Dr. Arpita Sharma
Psychiatrist
4 yrs exp
Bangalore
May b u felt a breach of trust in the relationship, when things were not told.
Ur reaction is valid to an extent but for good healthy marriage, i thinku need to have open communication with him about wt has been bothering u.
Get the things cleared out of your head and if u feel that ur reaction is over the board even after communicating, please reach out for help
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Communication of hurt and feelings
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Relaxation exercises- jpmr , box breathing
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