Is your teenager lying, meeting strangers from social media, bunking college, or creating fake online profiles?

You’re not alone—and it’s not your failure as a parent. Adolescence is a confusing, emotionally intense period. However, these behaviors can be dangerous and need to be addressed early and effectively.

What Might Be Going On?

Your teen may be:

Seeking attention, validation, or a sense of belonging

Experiencing peer pressure

Struggling with low self-esteem or body image issues

Feeling lonely, bored, or emotionally disconnected at home

Reacting to strict or over-controlling parenting by rebelling

Why These Behaviors Are Risky

Exposure to online predators

Risk of sextortion, grooming, exploitation

Poor academic performance

Development of lying as a habit

Breakdown of family trust

What Parents Can Do

1. Stay Calm and Avoid Harsh Reactions

Reacting with anger or blame can push your teen further away.

Express concern instead of punishment:

“I’m not angry. I’m worried. Your safety is what matters most to me.”

2. Have Honest, Open Conversations

Avoid interrogating. Choose the right moment to talk.

Use “I” statements:

 “I feel worried when I don’t know where you are.”

3. Set Firm but Fair Boundaries

Set rules for phone/internet usage.

Use parental control apps to monitor activity.

No outings without clear information about where, with whom, and for how long.

4. Involve Them in Decision-Making

Let them help create rules and consequences.

Make them feel heard—even if you don’t agree.

5. Be Involved in Their Digital Life

Follow their public social media accounts.

Teach them to identify red flags (e.g., people asking for photos, hiding identities, etc.).

Keep the conversation about online safety ongoing, not just a one-time talk.

6. Rebuild Trust Gradually

Appreciate honesty, however small.

Avoid bringing up past mistakes during new conversations.

7. Get Professional Help

If behaviors persist, involve a psychiatrist or psychologist.

Therapy can help uncover:

Underlying emotional issues

Internet/gaming addiction

Self-esteem or identity struggles

What Your Teen Needs Most

Your emotional presence, not just rules

A sense of being heard and valued

Safe space to make mistakes and learn

Guidance, not just control

You are not alone. Help is available. Acting early can protect your child’s mental health and future.

Consult :

Dr. Shailaja Bandla, 

MBBS MD Psychiatry FPM

Consultant Psychiatrist, 

Capital Hospitals

Vijayawada 

Appointments: 9441619938