What we call "peace of mind" is the product of our own mind, but its source is often mistaken as something external. Call it by the names of happiness, joy, satisfaction or fun; peace of mind forms the foundation of our inner wellness. In effect, peace of mind and the desire to have a fit existence go hand in hand. Yet for many, it is often an eluding mirage that disappears in our inner agony zones. With that, identifying the agony zones and dealing with them appropriately will help us retrieve peace of mind. Some of our agony zones are as under.
1. Our thinking and analysing mind: This has contributed richly to human development. But, this has also led us to agony because there is no easy mechanism in us to check irrational and self-damaging thoughts,analysis and consequent actions. The result is the loss of peace of mind.
Adopt any effective method with which you can check your unnecessary and repetitive thoughts.
2. Our value system that revolves around the concept of"good - bad - right - wrong": No, - nothing is perfectly right,wrong, good or bad! However, since human beings have developed social systems,this needs to be viewed from the angle of social compatibility.
Do not view anything as absolutely right or absolutely wrong. Everything is situational, always.
3. Our search for approval: Rejection pains us, be it in love, at home or in the workplace. We always want our fellow beings to approve of our fit existence. Many of our agonies revolve around our quest for this perpetual need for approval.
Do what is necessary and acceptable to you, ensuring that no fellow being loses her or his peace of mind. This acceptability of yours is the biggest approval for you.
4. The way we handle our sexuality: We are"developed". So we handle sexuality differently. We have social norms, and the institution of marriage etc. in it to regulate. Many of our agonies in close and intimate relationships come from poorly handled sexuality.
Handle sexuality well, being within the societal regulations surrounding it.
5. Our relating styles: Our existence is founded on trust.If we did not have the basic trust about the support our existence will get from the surroundings (including from people) we would never have had the chance to be with our joys. We live by relating. Any sense of betrayal in any kind of relationship, irrespective of its magnitude, can affect our peace of mind badly.
Be genuine and empathetic in relationships of all kinds. The key in any relationship is trust. Build it with sensibility and commitment.
Our agony zones are within us. Though difficult at times,identifying and dealing with them appropriately may not be impossible. If you succeed in it, peace of mind will be with you.