“Tears are okay.”
“I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life.”
The above lines are said by Morrie Schwartz to his pupil Mitch Albom (Excerpts from Tuesdays with Morrie – a beautiful and must-read book about life, emotions and much more).
A great person, once said, how unfortunate it would be on the part of human being to not be able to express himself.
Crying is one of the forms of expressing oneself. Usually it is believed that one shouldn’t cry; as it is a sign of weakness. Or rather it is portrayed that way.
It is necessary to understand that expressing oneself is highly essential, especially when it comes to one’s own health (mental or physical). For some people this form of expression might be through crying or weeping, and that must be absolutely okay.
Venting out emotions doesn’t always have to be verbal– it can be in the form of crying as well. Some people become creative when they feel the need of venting. They indulge themselves into writing stories or poems or composing music or song or painting a portrait etc. So the baseline is instead of shutting down the emotions, you express it outwardly – in any way that fits you or suits you best at that particular instance.
It is always better to express, than to suppress. Suppressing always ends up hurting you.
Coming back to the topic under discussion, if it is okay for children to cry when they desire certain things or even if they don’t want anything – except your attention – then why is it considered abnormal if an adult cries? Moreover new born infants are expected to cry loudly – the more they cry, healthier is the baby. When this question was posed to people the common answer that was obtained was because they are children and they have the right to cry because they cannot express themselves as well as adults do – all they know is crying. If they want something they cry, if they are hungry they cry, if they are feeling pain somewhere they cry.
This reason is a bit weird. A human is a human, then how does it matter if that is in the form of an infant or teenager or an adult? And a human is so well developed that he can (or rather, has to) express himself.
“Do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
Just like everyone needs oxygen to breathe and to stay alive, crying, sometimes, can be considered similar to oxygen. It is just needed to lift off the heavy burden of the day (in few cases, days); it is required to move past ahead. It actually lets you breathe in the exact amount of oxygen needed by your body to meet the demands. This is the exact scenario in case of an infant when he is MADE to cry. Everyone gets worked up if the infant doesn’t cry.
It also restores the emotional balance of a person.
At the time of homoeopathic consultation many patients cry after which they feel better. They literally say “now I feel better in all ways and I’m confident enough that I’ll heal quicker now” – and this actually is the case. They feel like a heavy baggage being lifted off that was limiting their recovery. This feeling of ‘lightness’ helps them heal sooner.
“It’s okay to cry when there’s too much on your mind. The clouds rain too when things get heavy.”
A song recommendation that really pushes you when you feel low is one by Brent Morgan called “Gonna be okay”- A beautiful song that will cheer you up in your tough times.
For consultation or queries contact us at:
OMKAR HOMOEOPATHY CLINIC (VADODARA)
Dr. Gunjita Yarde (8488022804)
yardegunjita@gmail.com