GUIDELINES TO HELP IMPROVE YOUR LOVE-MAKING
Stage One
The equally important for improving sexual relationships. If you are doing the caressing, assert yourself. Touch your partner where you want to touch in a way that is nice for you and for as long as you wish. It is nice to touch and feel close to your partner.
Stage Two
This stage is similar to stage one. Each session has two parts with one person starting to caress first in a pleasing manner for him or her; Protecting – if you don’t like what’s being done, move your partner.
Stage Three
Sensate focus on genital contact. Exactly the same basic principles apply for the stage of the programmer.
1. intercourse persists but now genital contact with the hands and/or mouth is permitted.
2. Each session is in two parts as before: A caressing B-then B caressing A.
3. As before, alternate partners initiate the session, touching in the way he or she wants to touch, with the partner protecting himself or herself from anything that is disliked and guiding the hand to show what is particularly pleasurable
Stage Four
Sensate focus on genital contact and simultaneous caressing
1. Sex is a natural response if you let it happen.
2. Be on guard for spectatoring.
Stage Five
Vaginal containment: Once sensate focus with genital contact is going well and the male partner is getting a reasonably firm erection you are ready to enter, allow the freedom to experience sensations physical contact with each other without performance anxiety, failure to achieve a particular goal. After a period of mutual caressing, involving the genital area, when you feel that you are ready, and when you feel your partner has a reasonably firm erection, you are inviting the penis into your vagina. If you wish, you can then resume genital caressing and perhaps repeat the process over again. Remember that you are both to concentrate on the sensations you are feeling from your genital region and relax and not start any thrusting movements. Initially, you should only allow vaginal containment for a brief period. The period of containment can be gradually lengthened on each occasion.