This is a case of an individual counselling where we helped Mrs Srivastava gain a better insight into her marital issues. The couple was having frequent quarrels at home and it was her son who brought her for professional help.
Mr Srivastava (age 44) and Mrs Srivastava (age 41) have a 20 years long love marriage. They both were in the same college and had the same desire of running an educational institute. Both of them completed their PhD and started their career as a professor. They saved money for their mutual goal and after a few years they both stopped teaching and established their school. Mrs Srivastava became the principal and did teaching throughout, while Mr Srivastava left teaching and took care of the admin and managerial aspects of the school.
The concerns of Mrs Srivastava were of that she felt her husband who is highly qualified, an academic topper with gold medals, and yet not efficiently using his calibre. She shared that she is a well-known person in the field, and it was due to her deeds that the school has earned respect and is at such an esteem position. She even told that she was suffering from diabetes and had blood pressure issues. According to her, it was only she who was making maximum efforts for the school. As from last 15 years, she is teaching four hours every day. She additionally cribbed that her husband has become careless, did nothing and just gave instructions and she is so unhappy with him and started thinking him as a useless person.
During the individual sessions, we gave her the reflection of whatever she explained and asked her to retrospect and introspect. It became evident that she started thinking herself as main in charge and completely discarded the role of her husband. She was not aware and in complete denial of her husband’s role in the institution. During the counselling, we helped to explore and made her realise the lack of knowledge and exposure in admin and managerial aspects like public relations, infrastructure, hiring and firing of the staff, marketing and so on. She didn’t know the day to day integrities of the admin aspects.
It was during the sessions of individual counselling that she realised how ignorant she was as a wife, a co-founder and a woman towards her husband. The more time she spent in the counselling session, she retrospected the whole situation and revised her entire married life. She understood the importance of her husband at a personal and professional front. She said as we are as a couple together since the beginning, but I discern that he is equally dedicated towards the institution and played a major role in achieving so far. She feels remorse for being empathetic towards her husband’s needs and wants.
So, in this particular case with the help of individual counselling, she comprehended her own flaws and gave her husband the due respect he deserved. She started seeing her partner with a positive perspective. With the passage of time, she stopped blaming him and started giving him credits. She stopped nagging and did not take him as granted and became appreciative about his efforts and companionship as a partner in life and business.