Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet challenging journeys one can embark on. It involves nurturing, guiding, and supporting children as they grow and develop. A key aspect of successful parenting is promoting both physical and emotional health. Parenting in the vibrant culture of India brings its own set of challenges and joys. But wherever you are, always remember that the number one rule of parenting is to follow the rules you make for your children. Lead by example. Here are ten practical parenting hacks that can help you raise healthy, happy, and well-rounded children in an Indian middle-class family.
1. Create a Super Schedule
Children thrive on routine as it gives them a sense of security and predictability. Establish consistent schedules for meals, homework, playtime, and bedtime. A daily routine that involves specific timings such as prayer time in the morning, study hours after school, and family dinner by 8 PM. Having clear rules and schedules at home helps children feel secure, develop discipline, and reduce anxiety. It brings in a sense of regularity and stability.
2. Activate Adventure Mode
Make physical activity a family affair. Whether it’s a weekend hike, a quick game of soccer, or an evening walk around the neighbourhood, being active not only improves physical health but also strengthens family bonds. Encourage physical activity by playing traditional games like kho-kho or kabaddi with your kids. These games are not only fun but also excellent for physical fitness and can be played without any fancy equipment. Aim for at least two days a week where the whole family is involved in any of the activities.
3. Master the Art of Healthy Meals
Good nutrition is foundational for a child’s growth and development. Encourage a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains. Involve children in meal planning and preparation to make healthy eating more engaging and educational. This not only teaches them about different cuisines but also encourages a diet rich in grains and vegetables. Fix tasks for each family member like cleaning dishes, and cutting vegetables. Make preparing meals a family activity every Sunday. Give each member a different task like cleaning dishes, cutting vegetables, mixing the flour, boiling the tea, etc. This will instil a sense of comradery and team spirit in the children.
4. Boost Brainpower
Children’s mental health is as important as their physical health. Encourage open communication and listen to their thoughts and concerns without judgment. Teach them how to express their feelings appropriately and provide consistent support and guidance. Facilitate open discussions about school, life, political ideologies, religion, their insecurities, the difficulties they are facing in studies, and how to make financial decisions. This strengthens communication skills, instils cultural values, and teaches them what is important and how to express their ideas and listen to other's ideas with an open mind.
5. Control the Screen Time
While technology is an integral part of learning and social interaction, excessive screen time can lead to problems like poor sleep, reduced physical activity, and social isolation. Set reasonable limits and encourage engaging in other activities that stimulate creativity and social interaction. Implement rules like no mobile phones during meals and limited television time on school nights. Replace screen time with reading stories, learning languages, having family storytelling sessions, or enhancing their knowledge of their cultural practices and various possible reasons why each practice exists. There are many topics that can be chosen to have discussion over, or just go with the flow and talk on whatever comes up to keep things engaging.
6. Dreamland Awaits
Sleep is crucial for a child’s health, behaviour, and cognitive development. Establish a calming bedtime routine and ensure that your child gets enough sleep based on their age. This might mean winding down with a book rather than a screen and keeping a consistent bedtime. This can help in calming the mind and improving sleep quality. Strictly cut down any screen time 2-3 hours before bedtime. The light rays from the screen fool the brain into thinking that it is daytime and in the long term it disturbs sleep. The best advise is to read a book or story. Even the stories need to be chosen well, as they should not boost the adrenaline rush, as that will again keep the children awake.
7. Lead by Example to Model Healthy Behaviours
Children learn a lot by observing their parents. Model behaviours you wish to instil, such as kindness, patience, healthy eating, and regular physical activity. Being a positive role model can profoundly influence their habits and decision-making. Demonstrate values like respect for elders, honesty, and thriftiness. Show your children how to manage household expenses or how you give respect at family gatherings, teaching them by example.
8. Delegate Missions to Teach Responsibility and Independence
Encouraging responsibility and independence from an early age fosters self-esteem and decision-making skills. Start with simple age-appropriate tasks like picking up toys, helping with dishes, or managing school assignments, gradually increasing complexity as they grow. This builds a sense of responsibility and helps them understand family teamwork. Give children pocket money, and let them have the freedom to buy anything with it. Give them bonuses if they show responsible behaviours by utilising the money in desirable ways. Even set small rewards like surprising them with their favourite food, or by getting them something they wanted if they are showing diligence in their assigned tasks, or managing money. You can even set negative punishments, like slashing their screen time even further if they show irresponsible behaviours or misuse the independence given to them. But each scenario lets them know their mistake and the consequences so that they can understand that every decision in their life will have consequences.
9. Celebrate Their Superpowers
Every child is unique. Recognize and celebrate your child's talents and qualities. Provide opportunities for them to explore their interests and passions, which is crucial for their personal development and happiness. If your child shows an interest in an art form like dance or music, enrol them in local classes. Supporting their interests in arts can be a great way to keep them connected to the family.
10. Be Their #1 Fan
Engage with your child’s education. Attend parent-teacher meetings, know their educators, and understand their academic and social progress. Support their learning at home and advocate for them when necessary. Stay actively involved in their academic life. Encourage them in their studies and extra-curricular activities, which are crucial for their holistic development.
Parenting requires patience, love, and a bit of strategic planning. By implementing these tips, you can help ensure your children grow up healthy, happy, and well-adjusted. Parenting is the most action-packed, rewarding role you'll ever play. With these hacks, you’re well on your way to raising healthy, happy kids who are ready to take on the world. Remember, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting, so adapt these tips as you see fit to meet the unique needs of your family.