Relationship and career. Matter!

Hi there :) Marriage! It’s a milestone in itself. You are facing a dilemma right now wherein one leg is in the past and the other wants to be in the future. Your insecurities are adding on to your dis balance. There are ways. A lot of ways. Simplest of them is COMMUNICATION. Please feel free to reach out to me via this app and I can help you make peace with yourself :) Thanks for reading!

Hello , I can understand your concern. The root cause of every problem is emotional disturbance. So let's start focusing on how you can be emotionally empowered. Then you can look out for ways to become financially independent by working somewhere. Also be assertive while talking to your parents about marriage.

Connect with a psychologist to work on emotional disturbance and learning new skill such as assertiveness, confidence building etc.

Hi, Thanks for reaching out. It is quiet understandable that you don't want to get into a relationship as your past relationship had a lasting negative impact on you. You need to focus on your healing first from the all the damage it has caused before getting into a new relationship. Get in touch with a Counseling Psychologist to work with you on your thouhts & beliefs about marriage and relationships.

1. Talk to your parents about your concern. Help them understand that you need time to get your life together. 2. Seek professional help.

1. Be kind to yourself. 2. Focus on selfcare.

I understand your predicament and would like to make a few suggestions that might help you. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them. Today, the mind is fixated on somebody else. Tomorrow it could be obsessed about another person/event/topic. Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having thoughts about one being worthless and hopeless about life in general is also something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.

Thankyou for Sharing, I appreciate that you are aware about your feelings and approaching guidance from Professionals, I understand what you have gone through was not easy and yes you need time for your own self to get mentally prepare to move forward.getting marriage no not getting marriage is all your choice and I understand family support matters a lot for all this things, it will be better talk to your parents keep all your points front of them and tell them you need some time,start hunting for your work. If needed than consult with Psychologist or family counselor to help you best.

Consult with Psychologist or family counselor

Hello dear, thanks for reaching out here, Yes I understand managing any relationship isn't easy at any point of time. Due to past experience you could be fear of next steps, thinking that if you experience the same, most of will feel this, during same situation. Hm that painful memory might be disturbing for decision, but please understand every person's approach or personality varies. You can communicate to you parents about your idea of official career. Take time, along with you can plan next steps looking for job. However know your skills, strengths and work on the confidence and emotions. I feel you have to cope with certain previous experience,  further helps  you to focus on future. You will be having the capability but try to implement appropriately. I hope this small details will help you..

further if you would like get detail  guidance, please you can reach me through this app.  take care stay safe 🙏

Hello there. Thanks for reaching out for help. You are afraid of a new relationship as you have bad or negative experiences from previous relationship so it's quiet natural to feel it that way. Focus on your healing and to come out from your emotional damage from the previous relationship. Work on yourself with the help of psychologist and then think about entering into another relationship. Do focus on your career and be financially independent.

Talk to your parents about your concern ask for some time from them be emotionally stable

you can reach out to me through this app for individual session