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I am going through breakup etc, need help with my clingy behavior. I am suicidal, living alone. My partner here has abandoned me and i need help. He is avoiding me continuously.
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Hello,
I’m really sorry that you are going through such an emotionally painful time. Breakups, loneliness, and feeling abandoned can make emotions feel overwhelming, especially when you are away from support and trying to cope alone. Right now, your safety and emotional well-being are the most important things.
Please do not isolate yourself completely. Try to reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional and let someone know how intensely you are feeling. Your emotions may feel unbearable at this moment, but they can become manageable with support and proper guidance.
Your clinginess does not make you weak or unworthy — it may reflect fear of loss, emotional dependence, or unmet emotional needs that can be understood and worked through in therapy.
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If you feel unsafe or fear harming yourself, contact emergency services or a suicide helpline in your area immediately.
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Consider starting counseling or therapy for emotional support and attachment concerns.
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Hi,
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. Please reach out to a mental health professional or a crisis helpline immediatelyâthey can provide the support you need. You're not alone, and help is available. Talk to someone you trust and prioritize your safety.
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Hi, please consider consulting a psychologist
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I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Breakups, emotional abandonment, and loneliness can make emotions feel extremely heavy, especially when you’re living alone and constantly feeling ignored by someone you deeply care about. Right now, your mind is likely reacting from fear of loss, attachment, and emotional pain that does not make you “too much” or a bad person.
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At the same time, the most important thing here is your safety and emotional wellbeing. Suicidal thoughts are a sign that you’ve been carrying more pain than your mind can currently handle alone, and you deserve support for that. Please do not isolate yourself completely. Reach out to someone you trust — a friend, family member, therapist, or mental health professional — even if it feels difficult.
About the clingy behavior: when we fear losing someone, we often try harder to hold on, seek reassurance, text repeatedly, or overthink their distance. This usually comes from emotional insecurity and fear of abandonment, not weakness. Healing begins when you slowly shift the focus back toward yourself instead of chasing someone who is emotionally unavailable right now.
For now, focus on very small steps:
Eat and sleep properly
Avoid staying alone with overwhelming thoughts for too long
Limit checking their messages/social media
Talk to supportive people daily
Let your emotions out through writing, crying, or therapy instead of suppressing them
And if your suicidal thoughts feel strong or unsafe, please contact a mental health helpline or emergency support in your area immediately. You do not have to carry this alone, and this moment in your life will not stay forever.
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As you are facing emotional detachment and helpless, that's why suicidal thoughts are coming in your mind. But, these are negative thoughts which will make you weak and hopeless.
First of all, think about the tasks or targets which were already present in your life and daily routine other than your partner. (Starting of self healing, from now).
Make yourself fresh and try to share your status with your close family member or friend.
This step makes you presentable.
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Consult with a Psychologist, talk freely.
Here, it is not clear that partner was a husband or boy friend?
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Talk with Psychologist in details.
Duration of relationship, level of intimacy.
Follow all the prescribed sessions.
Best Wishes 🌻
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Consult psychotherapist
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Hi, Consult a psychiatrist
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It needs to be addressed asap otherwise it may get complicated. It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively and without any side effects.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling psychologist for the last 17 years of experience.
You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.
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Hello,
It sounds extremely painful and emotionally overwhelming to go through a breakup while also feeling alone and unsupported. When we become deeply emotionally connected to someone, separation or feeling abandoned can trigger intense sadness, anxiety, fear, and emotional distress.
Right now, your feelings seem very intense, and the fact that you mentioned feeling suicidal is important and should not be ignored. Please do not stay alone with these thoughts. Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or someone you feel safe talking to.
At times of emotional pain, the mind may keep focusing on the relationship, fear of losing the person, and feelings of rejection, which can make it harder to cope. This does not mean there is something wrong with you—it means you are emotionally hurt and need support.
A few gentle steps that may help:
• Stay connected with supportive people instead of isolating yourself
• Try not to blame yourself completely for the situation
• Focus on basic self-care such as sleep, food, and routine, even in small ways
• Avoid making impulsive decisions while emotionally overwhelmed
Most importantly, please consider speaking with a mental health professional as soon as possible. Therapy can help you process the breakup, manage overwhelming emotions, and support you through this difficult phase safely.
If the suicidal thoughts become stronger or feel difficult to control, please seek immediate help from a nearby mental health professional or emergency support service.
Warm regards,
Dr Namita Ranjan
Counselling Psychologist
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Hi ,
I understand what you are going through . When someone you are attached to pulls away it can create intense panic in the mind and body. What you are feeling right now is emotional distress and not something permanent about you or your future.
The urge to reach out cling or fix things quickly is your nervous system trying to reduce anxiety. But with someone who is avoiding you it often increases the hurt.
Right now this relationship situation cannot be solved while you are this overwhelmed so pause contact for now and focus on stabilising yourself first.
Simple grounding and breathing steps to help you right now
Drink a glass of water slowly
Sit with both feet on the ground and press them down for 10 to 15 seconds
Take 5 slow breaths with longer exhale than inhale
Hold something cold like a bottle or glass
Look around and name 5 things you can see in the room
The intensity will reduce with support and time
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Right now do not pursue or chase the relationship and focus on stabilising yourself first because clarity only comes when your mind is calm.
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What you are going through right now sounds deeply painful and overwhelming. A breakup can activate very intense emotional parts within us — especially the parts that fear abandonment, rejection, or being left alone. From an Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective, your “clingy” behavior may be a protective part of you trying desperately to hold on to connection because another younger, wounded part feels terrified, lonely, or unlovable right now.
When emotions become this intense, it can feel like your whole identity is consumed by the pain. But these feelings are parts of your experience — they are not the entirety of who you are. The urge to repeatedly seek reassurance, contact your partner, or panic when they pull away often comes from emotional survival responses, not weakness.
Since you mentioned feeling suicidal and alone, your safety is the priority right now. You do not have to handle this by yourself. Reaching out for professional mental health support, a crisis helpline, or even one trusted person today is important. Healing is possible, but intense emotional pain needs care and support, not isolation.
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- Please reach out to a mental health professional or suicide helpline immediately if thoughts of harming yourself increase.
- Try not to isolate yourself completely, even if you feel like withdrawing. Stay connected with at least one safe person.
- Start journaling your emotions as different “parts” — for example, a scared part, abandoned part, angry part, or hopeful part. This can reduce emotional overwhelm.
- Focus on basic regulation for now: sleep, hydration, eating, grounding exercises, and being around people/environment that feel emotionally safer.
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Strong attachment distress after abandonment can make emotions feel unbearable, but emotional intensity is temporary even when it feels endless. Try not to judge yourself harshly for needing connection. At the same time, relationships built only from fear of losing someone can become emotionally exhausting for both people. Therapy — especially attachment-focused or IFS-informed therapy — can help you understand these inner patterns compassionately rather than through shame.
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Delhi
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Dealing with break ups can be hard to cope with. What you are going through is difficult, and a support is needed. We get emotionally attached/ dependent to a person, and we start questioning and doubting ourselves. We need to regain that power of self. There is a need to break a pattern by getting into new and self - involved/ value routines
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Dr. Gargi Bansal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
19 yrs exp
Noida
You need to be with someone you are close to may be a close friend or a relative..talk to a therapist
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Ms. Pooja Bhargava
Psychologist
10 yrs exp
Delhi
Breakups can trigger intense fear of abandonment and emotional pain especially when you’re isolated. Please don’t stay alone with these suicidal thoughts - reach out to a mental health professional as soon as possible. You deserve care, support and a safe space to talk openly
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Connect with psychologist to resolve inner conflicts
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