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I wanted to clearly explain my situation , when I'm at my 12 th standard I got into romantic relationship later the very next day my mom knew that and best me so badly later when I was in final yr of my graduation I had my first sex because of that I used MTP it was such a big mess , had panic attack I handled it all alone my partner betrayed me and later I gave on this . Finally started to move on now I'm in a situation that every time I think of that I feel like I will always land into a mess only . I'm trust anyone and i unable accept anyones love either , fear has overtaken my feelings . And now I'm in loop all the time . To be i honestly want to have a relaxing sex just like other but I don't have guts even i do i end up in anxiety, depression that I have done wrong i will be in trouble .
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What you’re feeling is a fear response from past painful experiences. Your mind has linked love and sex with danger, so now even normal closeness triggers anxiety and guilt.
Nothing is wrong with you. You learned this pattern.
Don’t force yourself into intimacy right now. Focus on slowly rebuilding safety and trust in small steps. Remind yourself that your past does not decide every future situation.
Your desire for a normal, relaxed sexual life is valid and will come back as you feel safer.
You can reach out to me at nine eight seven one two three four five six zero
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Hi
It’s very brave of u to open up ur troubles
Don’t think that u have made wrong decisions bcuz this is the age which u explore both emotionally and physically
But a past history of sexual abuse or trust issues from ur partner can hamper ur sexual trust
It can cause fear and anxiety
But this can be treated by a combination of good therapy and medication
For medication and treatment , detailed history is required regarding childhood past and family history
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Kindly consult a nearby psychiatrist or u can consult through WhatsApp appointment Nine
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That is very much understandable. It must have been difficult to put all that in words too. I really appreciate you taking a step forward for healing. What you are describing is an anxious avoidant attachment pattern.
Think of this as a "push-pull" or "come here, go away" way of relating to others. Deep down, you really want to be close to people, but once you get close, it starts to feel scary or overwhelming. To protect yourself from getting hurt, you might suddenly pull away or shut down, which can feel like a rollercoaster of being "hot and cold." This usually develops because, in the past, the people you leaned on weren't consistent, teaching your brain that intimacy equals danger. Healing is about slowly learning that you can be close to someone and still be safe.
I provide online consultation and therapy support and would very much love to support you in this healing journey. Please connect.
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Sorry to hear you’re painful experience. You need medication and CBT . Then your anxiety will come down and enjoy life again.
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Meet a psychiatrist later a psychologist.
Health Tips
Start with breathing exercises
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You can consult a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist for cognitive behavior therapy.it will help you to overcome your automatic negative thoughts and deal with your wishes and conflicts. Good luck
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