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Consult a psychologist first. Don't take her with you or let her present if it is a video consultation. Describe the problem, and the therapist will guide you how to convince her for the treatment. It varies in each cases, but the basic idea is constructing a healthy communication between you and her so that she agrees to visit.

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At first, you must ask her parents regarding it, duration and onset of such irritability will be known Remaining if she does not agree to visit a doctor, you can plan a visit and discuss her irritability and deviant behaviour in detail* *Onset *Duration *On going stressors *Personality Try to visit a psychiatrist with one of the family members of your wife if possible

Hey She seems to have rigid, negative thinking patterns misinterpreting others’ actions and creating family conflict. This isn’t necessarily “abnormal,” but likely a personality and perception issue. Treatment requires psychotherapy (especially CBT or family therapy) to build insight and emotional control. If she refuses therapy, family members should learn boundary-setting and calm communication to reduce triggers. Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.

Sorry to hear that. Many patients might lack awareness about their illness, because of which they are not able to receive treatment. Pls discuss with a psychiatrist about your possible options.

This is a very common and difficult situation. Dealing with a loved one who seems resistant to help and whose behavior is causing distress in the family can be exhausting. It's important to approach this with compassion, strategic communication, and realistic expectations. Initial Assessment and Reframing The behavior you describe—being "irritating," taking things by "wrong assessment," and causing "disturbance"—often stems from deeper issues than simple stubbornness. Shift the Focus from "Abnormal" to "Distressed": Instead of viewing her behavior as "abnormal," consider it a possible sign of underlying distress, anxiety, chronic stress, or a possible mood/personality change. Acknowledge Resistance: Resistance to doctors or consultation is common, especially among older adults, as it can feel like a loss of control, an admission of weakness, or a fear of an unknown diagnosis (e.g., dementia). Suggested Approach: The Gentle Intervention Since she is not ready to consult doctors, the initial focus must be on indirect support and minimizing conflict to build a pathway to professional help. 1. Address the Problem, Not the Person Avoid Confrontation: Do not challenge her "wrong assessments" directly or accuse her of causing disturbance. This will only increase her defensiveness. Use "I" Statements: Instead of saying, "You always take things the wrong way," try, "I feel sad when we argue about this," or "I'm concerned because these family disturbances are stressing me/us out." Focus on Physical Symptoms: If you must suggest a doctor, frame it around physical complaints, which are less threatening than mental health concerns. Example: "You haven't been sleeping well lately, and that affects your focus. Let's see the family doctor for a general check-up and mention your sleep/headaches." 2. Strategic Family Communication Designate One Primary Communicator (The "Soft" Voice): Identify the family member she trusts the most or is least antagonistic toward. This person should be the sole messenger for all gentle suggestions of care. Establish Family Rules of Engagement: The rest of the family should agree to disengage when her "irritating" behavior begins. They should calmly say, "I hear you, and I need a moment," and leave the room. This prevents the disturbance from escalating and subtly communicates that her behavior is isolating.

Be Mindful of Cognitive Decline: Given the age (57) and the pattern of "wrong assessment," you must consider the early stages of a cognitive issue (e.g., dementia, which causes personality and judgment changes). Only a doctor can evaluate this. Avoid Ultimatums: Pressuring her with "You must see a doctor" is highly likely to backfire. Keep the suggestions soft, consistent, and focused on her well-being: "We love you and want to make sure you're feeling your best." Caregiver Support: The stress you are under is significant. Seek a caregiver support group or individual counseling for yourself. You cannot help her effectively if your own emotional well-being is compromised.