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Its been 1 yr of our marriage but still nothing is settled between us. Don't have any love, affection, care, attraction. Especially from wife side. Even though we are living together, separate from parents so that we can have us time. But nothing is going good. We live in different rooms. Even after 1 yr of marriage, we never had intercourse, i.e till date we didn't have sex.
As per wife she needs time, but i dont see any improvement. Fights have started between us. Even on small things we fight. I expect a loving caring wife and married life, but there is nothing like that, not even 1℅.
It feels like i dont exist for her. There is nothing from her side or she doesn't express it.
Kindly advice.
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Hey need to talk about it in detail
Consult with me or any psychologist for therapy and counseling online
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These relationships require authenticity and care towards each other.
Instead of being a husband to her, why not try to grow In relationship of friendship and know what is she dealing with. Was this marriage her choice or a compulsion. Even after one year if sex is not done, there is a serious issue which might be your wife is dealing with.
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you both can have a chat or a call with me. or initially you can also chat or call me and get things cleared out
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1. be a friend and not a husband.
2. calm yourself and try to find out reasons for this behaviour.
3. show compassion to her and not zeal to have sex
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One year is quite some time if you don't have any third person in your/her life.have you spoken to her,u did not clarify how long was your courtship before marriage.role of parents or any other vital relationship.so it's not always how things are shown are the reality,there is surely something which she is not revealing not necessarily any extra marital can be anything.please talk to her without involving your family.try to read her then have a word.dont be harsh.
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if you both can't resolve among yourself the. please visit any counselor virtually or in clinic.
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talk peacefully but clearly
don't be excessive submissive let her know what you expect from this relationship.
and you please stay calm.stay happy!
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Hi young man , with the information provided it seems you have studied your partners’ behaviour or the reactions to a married life better than yours . That’s a good sign ! If she has not initiated any expectation that is in your mind then you need to initiate with a positive note ! Well a mental health practitioner will guide you to systematically move on !
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Tele Counselling sessions with a experienced and licensed Psychologist can guide you to build the strategies to resolve the issues .
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Balance your personal needs & expectations .
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I can understand this situation can be very stressful for you. It is important to understand the root causes of her behaviour and then advise accordingly. We can understand the root causes by speaking with you and possibly with her, if she is also open to speaking with a counsellor. We can definitely help address this situation to make it less stressful and better between the two of you.
Please feel free to contact me for an appointment.
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Hello! Relationships usually stand on some strong factors like communication, expressing emotions, trust and openness. Sometimes, within the relationship, people take time to open up or to express, maybe because this is who they are. Compatibility is a subjective experience that only the two of you can define and set for the relationship. Laying down expectations and boundaries, really benefit relationships. I can understand your frustration, hurt and disappointment, but we also have to consider the last few months have not been great for our mental health as well, because of difficult times. While you are going through somethings, your partner could be feeling a similar way.
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You can opt to seek for Couples' therapy to understand what is happening in the relationship and how to deal with the concerns together. Right now what you are mentioning is your perspective, hence providing advice/suggestions from that would be unfair to the relationship.
For starters, you can notice and see if there a way in which communication can be more open for the two of you, to understand the core of the concern. Use different mode of communication. Leaving post it notes/letters/texts in case face to face conversations are getting difficult for example.
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Dr. Prem Kumar
Counselling Psychologist
6 yrs exp
Hyderabad
Forget that you both were married. You start love yourself the most. Spend time on yourself, work on your lifestyle, eating habits, exercise and help yourself to be at peace.
Be content with yourself. Become the one who gives love and care to her without any expectations. And ask her with pure attitude of helping her to be happy and release her pain inside. You should be in a position to leave her happily if she wants it. Don't force for anything. Your primary goal should be your happiness and her happiness without disturbing each others life.
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Accept it and train your heart and mind.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
I suggest you both to Consult Marriage Counselor to understand each other and to find some solutions..
You can connect with me for a personal online consultation by using the link given below :-
https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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Ms. Shubha C
Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Bangalore
Thanks for sharing.
Plz start couple counselling.
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