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Love Marriage Issue
I love a girl. We are from same religion and we speak the same language but not from same caste. I know this girl from my school days and it's been 8 years we are in relationship.
I personally don't believe in Caste system. I feel lucky to have wonderful parents but they are very conservative in their outlook.
According to them people should do only arrange marriage and love marriage is the cause of all evil in the society. This thought process is totally different from my thought process.
I am an obedient child. I respect my parents and do whatever I can to make them feel proud.
But one day when I approached my mom. She just ask me to leave that girl and search for someone in our caste. She didn't want to hear anything about that girl. She also blamed me as if I did a crime. From that day, mentally I feel very detached with my parents. They are not able to understand me nor I am able to express anything.
Due to this stress.. I feel sudden rush of anger, fast heartbeat. Pls Advice
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Can understand your stress and anger but you also understand the whole scenario .emotions of your family right now they only not agree with the cast ..but don't dishearted try to convince your parents...it is also not easy for them and not for you...
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try to take one counseling session..if you want you can cunsult with me..
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While you have explained your problem you als explained the reasons and also the solution. Just you require it to. Be understood now.
Your parents are reacting exactly like how you expressed them to, but are you reacting the same way?
Understanble stress level will be there, because you lov someone whom your parents deny to approv off, and the level of saying a no to that relationship also doesn't work.
You require to calm down and have some counselling sessions.
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counselling will improve your way of thought and strengthen you to be more powerful
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Thank you for sharing. You are going through a lot of anger, resentment, confusion, regret, which are getting bottled up as you are not able to find ways to communicate with your parents while they try and understand what you are going through. You feel helpless and this bottles up and causes stress and anxiety.
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You should look at seeking therapy in order to put things into perspective and deal with your emotions while you are able to take the right decisions for yourself. Until you decide to do that you can try and push yourself to go for a healthy routine with exercise, focus on things that make you happy and connect with your friends and other loved ones.
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Dr. Charanya
Psychologist
12 yrs exp
Coimbatore
Hi.. Follow your heart, but also take your Brain with you, it means take decision not just based on emotions but also with some practical perceptions in regards to future.
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Have a talk with a professional or Just ping us to have a Talk from third perception to talk in detail.
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Don't self talk if you aren't able to see other side of views.
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Ms. Ritika Matta
Counselling Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Hyderabad
Hi, you can contact me for an online appointment and we can explore this narrative together
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Yes, indeed it is a tough situation and a tough choice to be made.
Instead of continuing to be I that irritation a d Anger, it is advisable to get some clarity.. So that you might be able to take certain dec8of your life..
To get a clarity and understanding about yourself and about your future life, I suggest you to seek a professional support..
For a detailed discussion and understanding you can reach me by using the link given below :-
https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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Dr. Yakata Sharma (PhD) (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
10 yrs exp
Pune
Hello! You explained your situation very clearly which is commendable. The emotions you have acknowledged are justified with the situation you are in and the "proper channeling" of these emotions is the key to achieve a calm mental state.
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Try to identify the best suited way of venting out the anger. If you're not able to do so, consult a mental health professional as early as possible.
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