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My name is Ram and i need some guidance!! I don't know how things have come down to this!! I thought I have everything in control, i thought i could change things for the better!! The thing is i am in a relationship, we met one year back though I had a crush on her before that!! But when we met she was not well and dealing with some mental stuff!! She is still seeing a psychologist on a regular basis!! When i entered into her life thinking i could help her but in the process we came close and now we are in a serious relationship and thinking about our future together!! But sometimes i wonder what kind of a future we will have!!? i am very much of a talker but i do my best to cheer her up!! But it's getting difficult now i feel stuck , i feel how long I can continue this!! It's like no matter what i do it is not gonna be enough, she is tired all the time because of her work also!! I am too polite and patient with her but she still loses cool in a weird way!! sometimes it's scary!!
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It’s imp to understand your own mind and your own comfort zone viz a viz a life partner. It is imp to know how well u can manage yourself around her. U need to know that mental disorders can lead to much stress on the relationship and need to be managed by taking care of your own mental health. If u r finding it hard to be around her maybe u can also reach out to a mental health professional to know more about her disorder and how u can manage your own self if u really want to have a future with her.
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Take an appointment with a clinical psychologist
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Having a dialogue about how u feel Reg her behaviours May help her understand and take care of those behaviours that might be extreme for u
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I would to guide your companion what actually she wants from your side then I will do something for u.
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Giving 3-5 sitting both of them.
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Be practical in your life.
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Hi,You can go for a couple therapy.Consult a psychologist
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Hello,
It's life time decision to spend your whole life so be practical,don't decide any thing in a hurry or in any type of pressure whether emotional or any.you need to analyse situation from every different aspect and any professional can help you in this.so please consult any psychologist.
Take care.
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Ms. Sheetal Kusumbe
Counselling Psychologist
21 yrs exp
Thane
Hello,
The time spent with each other is a window for better understanding.
If you feel that your patience will give away, it is time to think about your decision thoroughly.
As a balanced review shall ensure two peaceful lives.
Take time to seek a balance between affection and perfection. Decisions will be easier with clear communication.
Feel free to consult.
Happy Healthy Living!
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Connect with psychiatrist and psychologist
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counseling
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Ms. Roopali Das
Psychologist
8 yrs exp
Bangalore
Understanding the motivation of being in a relationship helps us on making conscious decisions and navigating through the difficulties. It is important for you to question what does the relationship mean to you? What were/ are your expectations from yourself and your partner in the relationship and how much do you want to commit. There are no right or wrong answers to these questions, but to each one of us relationship means different things.
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Rather than rushing into any decision out of frustration, pause and reflect on these questions.
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You can further seek help from a professional counselor
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Dr. Seema Aggarwal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Bangalore
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I understand you are facing an approach - avoidance conflict. Approach - You want to be with her.. Avoidance - Don't want to support her this way throughout your life. Right?
But there can be many another factors that are contributing to this conflict. To resolve this conflict It is suggested to consult a Psychologist and talk your heart out. It will help you to understand better what you really want
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Appreciate your interest in seeking guidance from a professional..
To get clarity and a better perspective do reach out to one of us from this panel personally either online or offline..
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Mr. Vijay Kumar
Psychologist
30 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Eric Bernie's Transactional Analysis (TA) which is used in psychotherapy etc. extensively deals with three ego states of mind - Parent, Adult and Child, all within the same person. Without getting deeper into TA, let me tell you that even when the Adult ego state brings in rationality, the Child ego state can become irrational and neglect the rational, logical approach of the Adult. In what you are explaining as your state of mind right now, I tend to find this situation. You are in a relationship with a person who is undergoing treatment for mental health issues. You are getting signals of the relationship being uncomfortable. You are also getting caution from your Adult (going by TA) about the inconsistencies in it. Yet the Child within ignores them and clings on. This is not at all unusual, especially when it comes to close, romantic relationships. Yet we need to be logical and rational before making any decision that is going to be lasting for a lifetime. With all these, I feel you need to consult a psychologist to help you in your decision-making.
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