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Facing issues with my husband
My husband says I don't look good in any outfit except saree and that he always wanted someone who wore modern clothes and says rather he ended up with me.I am not sure if he's trying to be funny but on many instances he always tries to point out in subtle ways that he's better than me and when I confront him and ask if he's doesn't like me ,he says he likes me very much.There Haven't been much of a problem in our marriage life other than this and because of this I feel extremely insecure and under confident. This is making me feel terrible and lately I've been feeling very low about my body.How do I fix this ?
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Hello human
Thank you for sharing and reaching out. I appreciate your efforts to seek help. I understand how you must be feeling during this time. Here are some ways that can help you
Try to acknowledge that you are your own person and no one owns you even in a relationship
It is really important to understand that you dress for yourself and make sure you are comfortable in that outfit
Try to communicate with your husband in a polite manner that you don’t like his attitude towards your dressing
Healthy boundaries are necessary in a long - lasting relationship. This help to maintain respect and dignity for both and keeping your relationship secured.
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Please seek professional mental help, couple's therapy can help you explore your concerns and actions as well as your husband's and come up with a mutually beneficial plan of action to manage it.
You can also seek individual therapy and implore your husband to do the same as well
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It seems to be relationship induced stress disorder.
It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated.
It can be well treated with homeopathic medication and counseling sessions effectively and without any side effects.
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Hii,
Kindly try to communicate tell him these things make you feel bad and if he donot understand then also,
you can go for couple therapy and sessions
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hello dear
I can understand what you might be going through. You might be feeling low in terms of confidence and might be feeling less attractive. But you need to realise that your confidence, attraction, and choices are not decided by others and even those whom you love.
In order to manage yourself and get some guidance to be confident in your own skin, consult a good therapist or counsellor.
You can also contact me and I will help you in this. Let's discuss your issues in detail so that you can get towards your solutions.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... Please speak to your husband about this. Men tend to casually comment about looks without considering how the other person may take it. As society doesn't condition them to be great with their looks, but when it comes to manhood (in terms of strength, power, money, sex) they are also equally sensitive. On the other hand the same society conditions a woman very specifically upon her beauty, motherhood, chastity, etc. This again is more a patriarchal mindset which needs to change from both ends.
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Consult a Psychologist.
Interpersonal Relationship Counselling is required.
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Mr. Vijay Kumar
Psychologist
30 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Please check out if the major cause of your current state of mind is your insecurities and lack of self-confidence. Please also check out if casual remarks of your husband are being taken by you seriously and you start thinking and analysing the remarks in such a way that it adds to your insecurities. A lot of issues between two people, more so between spouses, can be resolved through open and genuine communication with each other. But that doesn't happen in the cases of many couples with traditional backgrounds, family norms etc. in which male dominance works quite often. It is possible that you are unable to generate open conversation with your husband because of subtle dominance from him. All these are probabilities. The best under the given circumstances is both of you consulting a psychologist who will be able to improve communication between both of you and guide you into a better, close, intimate, mutually caring relationship.
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Dr. Seema Aggarwal (PhD)
Counselling Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi dear,
I am glad you are ready to put some efforts towards your relationship by asking for help. I suggest you to book first your individual session with Psychologist.
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Book your session. Don't hesitate.
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