Approaching husband. Solve the problem?

Hello, thank you for reaching out. Its better to sort out between husband and wife instead of involving someone. It might be anxiety provoking to connect back directly, so be assertive to talk about your concerns to him. If still feeling under confident, connect with a psychologist they will help you build your skills on how to communicate effectively

Dont take any haphazard decision when you are in vulnerable condition

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Actually what made u contact ur husband. Really it is good thing to approach him. But u need to know how ur going to face & tackle the issue between u. If possible u contact him over phone & fix appointment. It gives u some knowledge abt he wants u to meet or not.

professional help is needed better choose it.

It is a difficult situation, and providing a solution without having more information is almost impossible. Usually, it is more advisable to communicate one on one in these situations....but if your husband's friends are privy to what is happening in your marriage and is willing to help you to connect with your husband, may be setting up a meeting is not such a bad idea. But my suggestion will be to try to visit a marriage counselor and explain the whole situation......may be the counselor will be able to provide much more insight and along with that a solution to your problem. Wish you all the best !

I would recommend you to visit a marriage counselor for better insights

A professional help is always more effective than informal interventions.

Trying to reach out to your husband through his friend and letting him know that you are willing to do what it takes will help to reassure yourself that you are doing your best. At the same time, I want you to be open minded about his response and deal with it accordingly. Ask yourself : What is it that I truly want from my marriage? Has the relationship with my husband in the past been based on mutual respect, trust , love and concern for each others' well-being? If yes, what can I do to make amends? Have faith in yourself and do what is required, what is the right thing to do under the circumstances. In the meantime, I would like to make a few suggestions that might help you to take care of yourself. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them and thereby overcome the challenges you are facing right now. I want you to know that you are capable of doing this and will successfully deal with them. Kindly read what follows : Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having negative thoughts is something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Please set aside time for exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy every time. Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.

Thankyou for Sharing I appreciate that you are approaching guidance from Professionals, I also appreciate that you are giving ahead to save your relationship. Along with friend, also take take support of Family member and talk to him open. With that I suggest you to consult with marriage counselor to help you best.

Consult with Marriage Counselor.

Hi thanks for approaching here for help. I suggest you not to involve a third person though he /she is your good friend. You can try to talk to your husband directly may be he is also waiting for your call. If you have problems in calling him and talking to him send him a message or mail him and tell him about your issues and what exactly you ate feeling. If you are still confused take profesional help, you can take my appointment through this app