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I am stuck between my mom and husband
My mom keeps taunting that i chose a wrong partner. My husband keeps saying my mom keeps annoying him. I am really depressed i dont know whom to support. Its affecting my health. My husband is a very nice person the only flaw he has is laziness and my mom has issues with that. We are at my mom's place and she is not talking to my husband at all coz my husband said he can't wake up early in the morning. According to my mom she wont trouble in the name of maintaining time so she is completely stopped talking to him and husband feels very ignored.. He dint tell anything directly to my mom. He asked me to say to my mom tat it difficult for him to maintain timings for eating and waking up and stuff. I told my mom abt this and she is started throwing tantrums and not at all talking to him and moves out of the place if my husband is around... I dont know to decide who is wrong
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You are being verbal about your situation and that is commendable,but you have not given clear reason why are you staying with your mother.is it your financial reason or your mother is alone so you shifted with her. Try to understand your mother's part clearly let her open up ,if she feels you chose a wrong partner let her how he takes care of you and respects her despite her coldness.im sure there is something you are missing on your mother's part.ask your husband to co-operate as what she is saying is not wrong she just wants to maintain a clean timetable in home n that's fine and healthy.both of them love you tel how all this is affecting your mental health.
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if situation doesn't change try to move out of your mom's place in near vicinity so that you are close to your mom still be at peace.
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maintaining a healthy lifestyle is important so try to explain this to your husband.let your mom know in a family different people coexist with little adjustments and help her see the good in your husband.
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Hi,
Family needs supportive counselling. If family doesn't agree. At least you can take counselling for Stress.
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Seek help from mental health professional if the problem persists
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Tips to overcome Low Mood and Stress
1 Learn relaxation techniques like slow deep diaphragmatic breathing, progressive muscle relaxation technique
2. Practice yoga and meditation
3. Practice mindfulness
4. Regular physical exercise
5. Avoid excessive coffee or tea
6. Good balanced diet
7. Good night sleep
8. Quality family time
9. Good social network
10. Keep yourself occupied with work that you love
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I would suggest you to talk to your Mother and make her understand that you are fine with his behaviours n everyone has some flaws and no one is perfect. And after that give her sometime coz as per her age she will require time to adjust with the different things.
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You need strong communication skills. You have to explain pros and cons of mothers opinion and also your husband to both of them.
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Hi friend you need to decide parents or your married life & maintain a distance between the two ‘Relationships’.
Need to formally attend psychological Counselling for a systematic lifestyle.
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Book a few Counselling sessions to maintain a systematic lifestyle and healthy relationships at the earliest . Tele Counselling is the best option with an experienced Psychologist
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It’s difficult to make everyone happy unless you have the self confidence to do so .
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
It is better to handle your life independently than to be dependent in your Mother..
Maybe all.of you will come to know the value of each of you when you people manage loves individually..
For a detailed discussion and understanding, you can connect with me through this app.
https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir
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Ms. Radha K
Counselling Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Bangalore
I truly appreciate you for being honest about your situation and owning up the responsibility to seek a solution.
The fact that your husband feels ignored shows that he cares enough to have a healthy relationship with your mother.
If he is okay with it, he could have a conversation with her explaining his views on being a stickler for time for dining and sleeping. He could gently ask her how they could work this out in a way that her feelings are not hurt and at the same time it doesn't feel too stifling an atmosphere for him as well.
More than being right or wrong, I see that it is absolutely natural for challenges like these that need to be delicately addressed come up when we humans, the complex beings that we are, learn to coexist in the same space.
Most importantly, I want you to know that you are strong, compassionate and caring enough to feel responsible for sorting this out. With your honorable intentions, the matter could be amicably settled.
Take care.
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Ms. Ananthi
Counselling Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Chennai
Hi. I would suggest you all 3 people to get counselling to identify actual issues. Everybody lacks and requires more adjustments these days. You must come out confusion, they both must learn to adjust in satisfying and caring for each other. As elderly person your mom could have said certain things for good health factors. Young adults need more independence nowadays. Hence bringing positivity in all of you will make a bright future for living. Also may be after counselling there are more chances for them to talk a d understand each other.
So all of you can come and have counseling.
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way for a happy mind is to get counselled monthly once.
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