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Sir I am mandakini shukla...I had a arranged marriage..My husband overruled me I did many things against my wishes just to have a peaceful life...Many things happened In Last 6 year of our marriage ...I have 5 year old daughter...In 10 April 2025 I gave birth to a still child...I realised that I lost child because I never take any stand for myself just to have a peaceful and calm life..After the death of my new born we had many arguments and fight...My husband always think himself the right person...Now a days I am living in joint family and he is giving me silent treatment...I don't want to leave him.i have feelings for him...But he was very disrespectful with me he is showing me disrespect now a days also...I am feeling very disturbed...
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It sounds like you have been carrying deep emotional pain from your marriage, the loss of your child, and the lack of respect in your relationship. These experiences can naturally lead to distress, confusion, and feeling unheard.
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Since you wish to continue with your husband, couples counselling may help address communication issues and build mutual respect. Individual counselling with me can also support you in processing grief, strengthening self-worth, and learning how to set boundaries without conflict.
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Try journaling your emotions instead of suppressing them, practice calm communication by expressing feelings with "I" statements, and give yourself moments of self-care each day to manage stress. If needed, please consult with me for counselling support.
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Kindly connect with psychotherapist
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1. build shared meaning
2. time limited arguments
3. radical acceptance of Past hurt
4. boundary making
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in session activities
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Mandakini, I am deeply sorry for the pain and hardship you are experiencing. It takes immense strength to endure such difficult circumstances, and your feelings are completely valid. Itâs understandable that you want to hold on to your marriage because of the love you still feel, but itâs also important to prioritize your well-being and emotional health. Living in an environment where you feel disrespected and unheard can be very damaging over time. Consider seeking support from a trusted counselor or therapist who can help you navigate these complex emotions and situations. They can also guide you on how to communicate your feelings and needs effectively. Remember, you deserve respect, kindness, and peace in your life. You are not alone, and reaching out for help is a brave step toward healing and finding clarity. Take care of yourself and your daughter, and know that support is available to help you through this difficult time.
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Seek help
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It seems to be post traumatic psychological changes. It needs to be treated asap otherwise it may get complicated and can lead to depression and other psychological issues.
It can be well treated with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively and without any side effects.
It needs to be treated in a holistic approach for complete recovery.
You need an expert Psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.
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I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling psychologist for the last 17 years of experience. You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance
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Hi, Having a partner who is not respecting his wife is very hard to live with.After having a still birth experience,you are in a griefing period.
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Consult a psychologist
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Mandakini, first I want to acknowledge how much you’ve been carrying. Losing your child in April must have been heartbreaking, and on top of that, navigating a marriage where you feel unheard and disrespected is understandably leaving you disturbed. It takes a lot of courage to even put these feelings into words. From what you’ve shared, I hear two strong needs in you: one is the need for peace and connection with your husband, and the other is the need to feel respected and valued as an individual. Right now, it seems like you’re sacrificing one for the other, and that imbalance is causing deep pain. What I’d encourage you to do is:
Give space for your grief. You’ve gone through trauma, and it deserves acknowledgment. Journaling, talking with a trusted friend, or therapy can help you release it. Set small boundaries. You don’t have to overhaul your marriage overnight. Start with one thing that matters to you—whether it’s how he speaks to you in front of family, or how decisions are made—and assert it calmly but firmly. Shift from blame to expression. Instead of “you never respect me,” try “when I’m not heard, I feel hurt and distant.” This keeps the door open for dialogue. Remember your daughter. She needs a mother who feels strong and whole, not one who is silenced. Sometimes, anchoring yourself in her well-being gives you strength to speak up.
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Right now you’re carrying unresolved grief from the stillbirth and the years of holding back. Give yourself permission to cry, write, or pray. If you bottle this up, it will keep spilling out in arguments. When he gives you the silent treatment, resist the urge to beg or repeatedly ask what’s wrong. That feeds the cycle. Instead, you can calmly say once: “I’d like to talk when you’re ready, but I won’t accept being ignored.” Then withdraw gently into your own space—read, care for your daughter, or connect with supportive people. This shows strength without escalating.
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To steady yourself emotionally:
Keep a small journal—write down what you feel instead of holding it in.
Practice slow breathing: inhale 4 seconds, hold 2, exhale 6. It calms racing thoughts.
If negative self-blame comes (“I lost the child because of me”), gently replace it with: “This was not my fault. My body and heart need care.” Your daughter is watching how you treat yourself. Modeling self-respect will teach her what healthy love looks like.
Healing doesn’t mean you leave him; it means you stop abandoning yourself.
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You matter, your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be treated with love.
Silent treatment and disrespect are harmful; don’t ignore them.Try calm communication or mediation, and seek counseling.Take care of yourself first — your daughter needs your strength.Don’t rush the decision to stay or leave; focus on your healing first
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couple counseling
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consult
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Mandakini, what you are going through is extremely painful losing a child and at the same time feeling unheard and disrespected in your marriage. You’ve carried the burden of compromise for years, and now the grief of your stillbirth has shaken you even more deeply. It is natural to feel disturbed when your own needs, feelings, and voice are suppressed in the relationship. Silent treatment and disrespect are not just hurtful, they also increase your sense of loneliness at a time when you need support the most.
Therapy can help you in two ways: first, by giving you a safe space to grieve your loss fully without judgment, and second, by helping you rebuild your self-worth and assertive voice in the relationship. We can work on setting gentle boundaries with your husband and family, and at the same time on strengthening your coping skills so you don’t feel crushed by his behavior. With the right support, it is possible to grieve, heal, and also redefine how you want to be treated in this marriage.
Take therapy. You can connect with me on nine two six six seven two six zero six five.
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I’m really sorry for your loss and the struggles in your marriage. What you’re going through is very painful, and it’s natural to feel disturbed.
Right now, your emotional health is most important. Please consider speaking with a psychologist who can help you process grief, manage stress, and guide you in handling the relationship issues.
Try leaning on a trusted friend or family member for support so you don’t feel alone. Focus first on your well-being and once you feel stronger, you’ll be in a better position to decide about your relationship.
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hi,
I’m really sorry to hear about the loss you went through and the pain you are experiencing in your marriage. Going through a stillbirth, arguments, and ongoing disrespect from your partner can be deeply distressing and affect both your emotional wellbeing and your relationship. It is understandable that you are feeling disturbed right now.
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It may help to gently express to your husband how his behavior is impacting you, but I understand this is difficult in a joint family setting. Couples counselling can provide a safe space for both of you to rebuild communication, address unresolved grief, and work on mutual respect. If he is unwilling, individual therapy can still support you in processing your pain, strengthening your self-worth, and learning coping strategies for your environment.
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For now, focus on small steps of self-care each day — journaling your feelings, practicing calming routines like breathing or meditation, or connecting with someone you trust outside the family. These will help you manage emotional stress while you seek longer-term support.
You do not have to go through this alone — reaching out for counselling can provide the guidance and emotional strength you need at this stage.
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Mr. Fr Dr John Zachariah
Counselling Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Ernakulam
Take an emotional therapist
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