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My husband he just doesn't understand my feelings he just wants to sex i feel lonely sad depressed i don't know what to do he is like he will not change his kind of love is sex i.feel he doesn't love me at all plzz i need help
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I hear you, and I can feel the emotional exhaustion behind your words. When your emotional needs are ignored and you’re seen only through the lens of physical intimacy, it can create deep feelings of loneliness — even in the presence of your partner. Love is not just about sex; it’s about connection, understanding, respect, and emotional safety. When one partner constantly seeks physical intimacy without tending to the other’s emotional world, it can feel more like pressure than love, leaving the other person feeling unseen, unheard, and unloved.
It’s important to know that your feelings are valid. You deserve affection that feels safe, emotionally attuned, and mutual. If he’s unwilling to understand your emotional pain, it may be time to gently express how his behavior is affecting your mental health. A marriage thrives on mutual care — not just physical need. You may feel stuck now, but you’re not alone. Reach out for professional support. Therapy can help you rebuild emotional strength and clarity, and also help you decide what you need next.
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Hi, Consult a psychologist
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Ms. Neha Sachdev
Psychologist
11 yrs exp
Delhi
Hi
Have you been able to express ur idea of being loved ??
Is the communication gap between you two??
What if his idea of love? Are you able to share your thoughts and emotions with him??
Loneliness comes when you’re not able to express/ share your daily thoughts and emotions. Is that what is missing??
Sex is a part of marriage but he might not know the concept of sharing his thoughts/ emotions because of various reasons like- he would have been stopped to express in childhood and has grown up with the idea of being tough and not expressive. For men, expressing means showing weakness. Men do not understand “read between the lines” concept, they need to be told in direct words.
It is very important to know his side of perspective about love and marriage.
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Couple counselling is recommended
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Ms. Jesin John
Counselling Psychologist
22 yrs exp
Hyderabad
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Please connect with a psychologist
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Ms. Pooja Gupta
Psychologist
9 yrs exp
Delhi
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I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. Itâs important to recognize your feelings of loneliness and sadness as valid, especially when you feel that your emotional needs are not being met. Communication is key in any relationship, so consider sharing your feelings with your husband in a calm and honest manner. Let him know how you feel and express your need for emotional connection and intimacy beyond physical aspects. Itâs possible that he might not fully understand your perspective, so approaching the conversation with openness can help bridge that gap. If the situation doesnât improve, consider seeking professional help, such as couples therapy, which can provide a safe space for both of you to express your feelings and work on your relationship dynamics. Remember, your emotional well-being is important, and you deserve to feel loved and understood.
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
19 yrs exp
Bangalore
Please connect for counseling
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
I understand your situation and the pain you go through because of which...
I suggest you to consult a psychological Counselor for a therapy to get some clarity and understanding about yourself and later woukd suggest both of you to seek a Marriage Counselling to understand each other.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... Please figure out first what is it that is bothering you the most?
1. Is it that your and his idea or love is completely different?
2. Or is it that his sexual desires and idea of intimacy is completely different than yours?
3. Do you feel he doesn't love you or you feel he is unable or incapable of expressing it in a manner that you desire?
4. Did you marry him out of love or was it an arranged marriage? Or it was a decision based on not much of a thought?
It is okay for a couple to have differences in their ideas about love and intimacy. Men typically engage in sex to release stress or to derive immediate pleasure, whereas women typically wish more than just sex, especially in a romantic or marital relationship. It says nothing about commitment or loyalty. It is only a preference which is not gender specific but socially conditioned. If this is the case, counseling can help. But if you believe, he doesn't love you at all or there are other issues beyond intimacy, than you need to think about getting out of it.
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Consult a Psychologist.
Interpersonal Relationship Counselling is required.
Couple Therapy or Marital Counselling may be useful if both partners are willing to act upon resolving their issues.
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