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Abusive father
Hello, I'm 19 Years old. I don't know if I should say but I need to vent it out somewhere. I do have friends but it's been 2 years now that I've stopped sharing things with them. Because I don't feel safe talking to them. Everyone has their own stuff to deal with, I didn't wanna be the attention seeker or the source of negativity in their lives. My father slaps me, my mother. I've grown up watching such things at my home. Loud noises scare me because they make me think is someone fighting?
I told him don't touch me stay away from me and my mother and yet he hit us, abused us verbally. I am dependent on him financially and hence can't even take a break from him otherwise things come to food & house etc. I want to live. I want him in my life as well (a good version ofcourse) But right now all I can see is how he called m
e Mc* and slapped me and my mother. I don't want this life for us. I need help
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Hi, I know it is tough to deal with an abusive father. He is abusive with you and your mother. You have been dealing with his abusive behaviour for a long time. Because of what you are going through you are afraid of loud noises. You are not able to share about what you are going through with your friends and you want someone who can listen to you and support you. A psychologist will listen to you and support you.
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Consult a psychologist.
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You will get the support you require from a psychologist.
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
4 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hello dear
I can understand what you are feeling and going through. I know that it has been hard for you for such a long time. You might be longing for a happy family time. You love your father so much that even after all this you want a better version of himself in your life. You want to have peace and harmony in your life and might be begging it day and night. But what seems to be appreciating is that you took a brave decision to talk about this with someone.
Don't worry about it anymore. Consult a Psychologist or a counsellor. You don't need to confuse yourself and get irritated by circumstances that are out of your control as well as your emotions and well being.
You can contact me. I am here for your help to deal with all this. You can talk to me about your problems and we will together discover the solutions. I will also help you towards your recovery.
Take care and stay strong. You can do this!
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
12 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Beloved Soul, I have seen your mentioned details it shows presently you are moving towards clinical depression and frequent mood swings trigger by your dysfunctional family.
I can understand your feelings and challenges you are experiencing .
My request Please visit a mental health expert to learn how to deal with your emotional issues, as well as take some therapy sessions for healing your inner child and clarity for future, please have a positive approach to move ahead in your life .
Lot's of Love and blessings.
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Do self help techniques, such as
mindfulness breathing exercises,
dairy writing, walking and proper diet, readings books , positive self affirmation and
emotional freedom technique etc..
Take appointment with mental health care expert.
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note-keep a regular follow up with your therapist for 6weeks or as required.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... Your parents have a severe marital discord and it has came to a point of abuse. Both you and your mother are legally protected under the Hindu Marriage Act and not financially dependent on your father. If your mother choose to take a divorce, he will be liable to pay alimony and child maintenance. This is under the law. In case of domestic violence he can be jailed anytime if you call police or women helpline. Its quite active in metropolitan cities like Mumbai. So stop feeling helpless that way.
But this issue is little more complex. Try to understand this, your parents are also just regular man and women who have gotten married and are not happy with each other. Your father might have a history of abuse in his childhood as well. What he is doing is wrong and unacceptable but by simply vilainizing him doesn't solve the problem. People sometimes choose to be in a toxic relationship because of stigma attached to divorce or due to simply a fear of being left alone in this world to survive on their own. It depends on person to person.
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Start taking Counselling Sessions from a Psychologist.
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Cell: Nine Six Seven One Three Zero Three One Three Four (whatsapp)
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Ms. Simran Parekh
Clinical Psychologist
2 yrs exp
Kolkata
I know must be going through a difficult time, it must be hurting that you can't do anything as you are financially dependent on him. I would suggest you to seek help from a counselor as soon as possible. It will help you to vent out as well as discuss your issues in details.
You can contact me as well on my number: eight nine one zero two five six nine seven two.
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Ms. Ritu Rani
Clinical Psychologist
3 yrs exp
Delhi
You go to a mental health professional near by you and take some sessions for venting out this burden. Then u ll find some solutions
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