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Hi, It's completely understandable to feel hurt and helpless when someone so close to you, especially your best friend, pulls back, even temporarily. Your feelings of sadness and disappointment are valid, especially since your bond has always been special and meaningful to you. It might be helpful to give him some space as he requested, allowing him time to handle his own issues and figure things out without added pressure. During this period, focus on self-care and spend time with other friends or activities that bring you comfort. If you feel that reaching out might intensify your pain or if you prefer to wait until he feels ready, that’s okay too. Sometimes, giving space can also help both of you gain clarity and appreciate the friendship more deeply. Remember, your feelings are important, and taking care of your emotional well-being is vital while navigating this challenging situation.

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I’m really sorry you’re going through this—it’s an extremely painful and delicate situation. You’re doing the right thing by standing up for your sister’s safety and future, even though it’s very hard on your family emotionally. Based on everything you’ve said, here’s a clear plan you can follow to help her and protect her mental health: ⸻ **1. Get Her Professional Mental Health Support Immediately Since she’s expressing suicidal thoughts, this is an emergency. You must: • Contact a mental health professional in your area as soon as possible—a psychologist, psychiatrist, or counselor. • If she threatens or tries to hurt herself, take her immediately to the nearest hospital or call a mental health emergency helpline. ⸻ 2. Approach Her with Compassion, Not Accusation Right now, your sister is emotionally manipulated and might feel like losing him is like losing everything. She’s not thinking logically, and trying to prove him wrong over and over might push her deeper into denial or guilt. Instead: • Speak gently. Say: “I know you’re hurting. I’m not your enemy—I want to protect you and help you heal.” • Reassure her: “You’re not stupid for falling for him. Many people get manipulated by charming liars. But you deserve better.” ⸻ 3. Limit Her Isolation Suicidal thoughts worsen in isolation. Make sure: • She’s not left alone for long periods. • She spends time with close, supportive family members or trusted friends. • She’s encouraged to do activities that bring even small moments of peace (walks, hobbies, spiritual activities, etc.). ⸻ 4. Block All Contact Channels Even if he’s not talking to her now, make sure: • His number and social media accounts are blocked. • She doesn’t have access to old chat logs or photos that she keeps revisiting. If possible, secure her phone with help from a trusted adult. You might say: “Every time you read old chats, it opens the wound again. Let’s clean your digital space—like removing poison from the shelf.” ⸻ 5. Help Her See Hope for the Future She might feel like she won’t love or trust anyone again. Don’t rush her to marry right away. Instead: • Let her know she can take time to heal. • Tell her: “You don’t have to get married right now. Let’s first get you feeling strong and peaceful again.” ⸻ 6. Family Counseling Sometimes it’s helpful for a family counselor or mediator to talk to all of you. That way: • She feels less ganged-up on. • You all get tools to handle this together with less fighting and more support. ⸻

Final Thought You’re doing your best to protect your sister—it’s incredibly hard, but you’re strong. Just remember: healing takes time, and you’re not alone. Bring in professional help, stay calm, and keep showing her love and patience—even when it’s hard.Finding groom for her at this time is not the right thing to be done . She won’t be able to cope with that. Give her some time and she will come out of the break up trauma. Then you can think of marrying her. If you want, I can help you write a message or plan to explain the situation to a counselor or therapist. Just say the word.

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I am tamil . You can reach out me.

It seems to be relationship induced psychological changes. She might be undergoing depression. It needs to be addressed asap otherwise it may get complicated. It can be treated well with counseling sessions and homeopathic medicine effectively. It needs to be treated in a holistic approach for complete recovery. Your sister needs an expert psychologist who is a good homeopathic physician.

I have been working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist and Counseling psychologist for the last 17 years. You can contact me through an online appointment for further assistance.

Thank you for caring so deeply about your sister’s well-being. Your concern, effort to gather proof, and readiness to protect her from harm show how strong and responsible you are. Here’s a response tailored with empathy, clarity, and next steps: Understanding the Situation • Your sister fell in love with someone who is, by your investigation, a cheater and womanizer. • You’ve gathered proof and confronted him, and now he’s manipulating your sister to believe you’re lying. • He has disappeared, but the emotional damage to your sister remains. • Your sister is in denial, still attached emotionally, and experiencing suicidal thoughts. • The family is mentally drained, and you’re looking for help and Tamil-language counselling for her. What Your Sister Might Be Going Through Your sister is showing signs of: • Emotional dependence: She’s unable to break away mentally despite clear proof. • Cognitive dissonance: Her heart and mind are in conflict—her emotions don’t match the reality. • Depression and suicidal ideation: These are extremely serious and need immediate mental health support.

While I am not very well versed with Tamil, you can still consult with me to take on remedies for your sister’s wellbeing. If needed I could guide her through some translation apps. Else you could mediate that part.

Be Patient and Keep the Door Open: • She may resist you now, but don’t give up on her. • Avoid arguing—focus on listening and reminding her of her worth. • Gently ask: “Do you believe someone who truly loves you would leave you in such pain?” Involve a Trusted Mediator: • A neutral elder, family counselor, or mutual friend could help open her eyes to the truth without making her feel cornered. Address the Suicidal Thoughts Seriously: • Never ignore suicide talk. If she mentions this again: • Stay with her or ensure someone is always around. • Remove anything harmful nearby. • Call a local mental health emergency line or take her to a psychiatrist urgently for medications. For You and Your Family • This is not your fault. You’ve done more than most would. • But it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Consider family counseling too—to rebuild emotional strength and know how to support her safely. • Stay united as a family—avoid blaming her, even when she lashes out. It’s her pain, not her hate, that’s speaking. Your sister is not weak—she is hurt, confused, and needs help. She is lucky to have a sister like you who is ready to fight for her peace. Help is possible. Healing takes time—but with support, your sister can come out of this darkness and find a healthy, happy life.

Hi I can provide her counselling in Tamil language.