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My relationship with my husband is not good..there is domestic abuse involved as well..both of us live in different room.there is no connection no physical intimacy..I do my duties..then also if I talk rudely to my kids..he hits me..basically he can't tolerate my voice..he enjoys his life..party..alcohol ..good job..on the other hand I don't have guts to leave him..basically in this because of children..or somewhere attuned to this kind of environment..where to outer world it's all fine..but real situation only I know..I am OK but not ok..felt like writing..if anyone can suggest some thing..moving out and couple counseling is not option..
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You are suffering from an abusive marriage, and you don't want to move out due to your kids. You need counseling sessions. However, moving out from an abusive marriage is always an option. You just need courage to do so. Consult for proper guidance.
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couple counseling for 8 sessions
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Thanks for reaching out. Your relationship with your husband is not good, I can clearly see you are suffering. You don't want to leave him because you are keeping the wellbeing of your children in mind. You are tolerating abuse for the sake of your children, and it shows you are a caring person. You are suffering a lot inside and you should give your safety and happiness priority. You deserve to be happy, and you don't have to sacrifice for your children. Your children will respect you for who you are.
Consult a psychologist for counselling sessions. You are feeling extremely hurt and anxious. Talking to a psychologist will help you feel better. You can contact Women Helpline agencies. I suggest you consult a psychologist and contact women helpline agencies simultaneously.
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Consult a psychologist and contact women helpline agencies.
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Contact me for counselling sessions. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Hi, You should involve your family members from both sides.Having a support system is very important.Taking actions legally important if he is not willing to change.Consult a psychologist to deal with the mental trauma you are undergoing .
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Hi sorry to know that u r in an abusive relationship and for some reason u don’t want to move out. U want the situation to be changed but still u can’t do it. U r unable to accept it. The best option is to move out. However if u can’t, then in that case u will have to continue suffering until u accept reality.
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Moving out from an abusive relship is always an option.
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You need counseling sessions for yourself.
You should not get victimized. You should be happy and enjoy each and every moment of your life.
Meet an expert Psychologist asap.
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I'm working as a Homeopathic Psychiatrist for last 17 years. you can contact me through online appointment for further assistance
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Thanks for reaching out. I can really not imagine how frustrating and stuck u might be feeling in this relationship.
Wondering what support system do u have, if any ?
We can work collaboratively on helping u help urself better in this matter. I realise the complications and complexities ur sitting with. Feel free to connect for one on one.
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I am so sorry you are in so much pain..but this relationship is full of red flags..I don't know for how long you will be able to drag it..plz connect for counseling to resolve inner conflicts
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
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13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... If domestic abuse is involved, you must reach out to women helpline. Law is very strict and to an extent even biased towards women. He cannot be abusive with you. When faced with such situations, we don't have any other choice but to face our fears. Men are legally obligated to provide for their wife and children. It is not something that they have a choice on, even after a divorce. It may sound very weird but this is where the law stands as per Hindu Marriage Act. Based on religion there are some differences but broadly the law of the land applies to everyone. When you will take a stand you will see that the demons you thought could kill you were actually only inside you. They were your fears. Unless he is a mafia, history sheeter, criminal, etc. Even in that case there are means to control them, but you have to learn to fight for yourself. No one will fight for someone who is not willing to fight for themselves.
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Keep records of his abuse. You can use a phone camera or recorder. There are lots of spy cameras available for online shopping.
Reach out to women helplines or call police and lodge an FIR.
Reach out to your family members (father, brother, etc.) for help.
In extreme situation, switch on FB or Insta Live and share it on social media.
Like I said there are various ways to address the same situation but no way for someone who is not willing to fight for themselves.
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Cell: nine six seven one three zero three one three four
Website: https://gunjanmaithil.wixsite.com/therapy
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