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Hello doctor recently i got married. It is arrange marriage. I met her maximum 3/4 times before marriage. But after marriage i face many problems
Point no 1: i cleared her about my past relationships but still she blame me how could i marry a person . How people can fall in love again it irritates her everyday
Point 2 : she told me stop watching porn. Whenever i watch porn she think i cheat her
Point 3 she have a huge problem about my past..
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hello, marriage comprises of many things. Understanding your partner as a whole, her needs, wants, expectations, concerns etc., adjustment and compatibility.
You may have told her about past to keep loyalty or openness in relationship but it goes against her values.
But relationship can be improved and worked upon. Visit psychologist or counselor to work on communication, understanding and bridging the gap.
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Blaming is considered to be very unhealthy communication style that often leads to fighting unfairly and bringing in past into current arguments..
What you should do
# speak up and share your perspective
# ask your partner to point out issue gently
# stop and remember that blame is not really about you .Blame is discharge of their own pain.
# getting your partner to focus on solution instead of blaming is a better strategy.
Next Steps
your partner is dealing with jealousy about your past. She feels that your past is threatening her current life.
She is going through Anxiety.
She is dealing with sense of insecurity.
She is dealing with sense of uncertainty.
sense of lack of control.
She feels that your past is a threat to her current relation with you.
Health Tips
# first try to develop trust
# try to demonstrate your caring for her.
# try to to show your commitment
# but if nothing seems to work ...seek professional help.
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sometimes people make this mistake of being an open book infront of their partner without understanding their partners temperament.so for you maybe your past is a closed chapter but for her it's new learning about her husband which is not acceptable to her.
The more you will explain the worse it will get.you can talk about it and explain it to her once and how important she (your wife) is for you.let her know how much you love her but do not explain yourself everytime she instigates.
Let her grow in her life by encouraging her in things she is good.
Your point 2 is where you have to check yourself if watching porn is your habit which is disturbing your marital life or it's just in her mind.
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Hi.
Next Steps
Relationship Therapy
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I'll never forget where I'm from. It's essential to remain humble and evolving
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It's very important for us all to understand that we are interconnected and we need to hold hands together, especially when the going gets tough.
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi you can connect with me for marriage counseling.. Communication and boundaries are very important in relationship. To need further help connect with me at seven eight nine two seven zero five four seven seven.my fees ia nominal three hundred rupees.
Next Steps
connect for counseling session
Health Tips
dont ignore red flags
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hello there
I can understand what you might be going through. It might be hard for you to always answer her questions and put to situations where you feel guilty. But you also have to look at situations from her side.
Don't worry, both of you consult a good therapist or a psychologist as soon as possible.
You can also contact me for couples counselling and I will try to help you out in this. Let's discuss both of your issues in detail so that you can reach towards your solutions.
Take care. Stay safe and strong. Everything will be alright. You got this!
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Ms. Mohana Priya G
Psychologist
8 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi
Consult.
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Contact me for further assistance.
Relationship counselling.
Interpersonal therapy.
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... You both require marital counselling.
Marriage is an important decision in our life and different people may have different expectations from it.
Also, sometimes when we are faced with a reality that is beyond our bare minimum expectation, one may respond with a complete dejection and rejection of the whole situation.
You both need to be brought to a common standpoint from where you both can start your relationship afresh or choose otherwise.
Next Steps
Consult a Psychologist.
Marital Counselling is required.
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Senior Psychologist
Cell: nine six seven one three zero three one three four
Website: https://gunjanmaithil.wixsite.com/therapy
App: http://wix.to/fechb08?ref=cl
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