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Negativity

I am unable to deal with disputes without crying.It leads to negative thoughts,unhappiness,thoughts of just leaving/ending life.I also feel I am not being understood by my family.A few times my family members have mentioned to me that my behaviour is whimsical and that I am emotionally very weak which saddens me and has affected my confidence.I also feel inferior at times when in a new environment.
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Do a psychometry, asses ur problem, go for CBT. It wl help u. Best wishes
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Ms. Hema Sampath Bangalore | Clinical Psychologist
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What is so important in seeing a approval from.your close set of people??
Do you feel only by acceptance of others only is more important? ??!
If u want happiness,  you need to feel good about yourself.
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If u feel u cannot share these feelings to ur family members,  Do visit a psychological Counsellor and have clarity and live a happy and successful life.
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Ms. Sneha Bhat Bangalore | Counselling Psychologist
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Dear Young Lady,

In last 22 years, you might have noticed one thing. Your reaction to situations, unhappiness & helplessness while facing disputes, emotional turmoil or the negative thoughts; aren't orchestrated by you intentionally. You do not wish to cry, be unhappy or to be judged unfavorably by family. You rather wish to have a control over your thoughts, emotions & confidence level. You wish to own your life.

Now the question is how..?? How to come out of helplessness & be happier..?? My dear, there certainly is a way.

First thing you are to do is to notice yourself & evaluate if the perception of your family towards your behaviour is right. Additionally notice your side of the story. If you have been whimsical in your behaviour, what triggers you to be so..?? Is it the feeling that you are being looked down by most of the people in your life..?? Please find out. If that is so, start with a mission to notice the way others treat you closely & locate reasons for their behaviour from their end as well as your end. When you are in this mission, make a determination that you shall react as less as possible & focus more on observation.

Notice those things in you & your life which are going right but are being overlooked currently. Every day, make a habit to think about all positives at least for 10 minutes, in the evening.

For a month, keep a track on the onset of emotions & also the sort of thoughts which come to you. After every outburst, make a habit to write down your side as well as the other side of the situation & the ways in which you might use the situation which seems unfavorable to rather improve.

These are just few pointers. It would certainly of help to take assistance of a psychiatrist or a psychologist to locate any physical or physiological aspect acting behind the emotional turmoil, if there are any. Additionally they would be professionally equipped to aid you get a better control over your life & shape it your way.

Always remember that life changes, if you just start working in that direction. Good Luck.

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Dr. Sonia Malhotra Pune | Psychiatrist
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Hello mam,
You may be having these problems due to multiple reasons... you could be depressed or having some personality traits that predispose you to such thinking and behavior... pls meet a psychiatrist at the earliest for a proper diagnosis and treatment!
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