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To begin with , I would like to ask you , have you seen a medical specialist for your issues ?
Being stressed and having negative thoughts about satisfying your partner will not be of much help to you. As having negative thoughts will reduce your libido all the more.
Seek opinion from a medical specialist to find out any reasons or any deficiency causing the same.
Also , try managing your stress levels and negative thoughts by maintaining a healthy lifestyle
A healthy diet
Maintain a daily logbook of positive thoughts of the day
Communicate it with your partner and try to mutually work through this.
Seek psychological counseling for further management of your issues.
seek opinion of a medical specialist
seek psychological consultation for stress management and negative thoughts management
Performance anxiety, which you seem to be having right now, can reduce the quality of sex life which can get into a vicious circle of more anxiety-less performance. Many men have constant fears in bed like - 'will I be able to satisfy her?', 'what will she think of me if I am unable to perform well?' etc. Having an open discussion with her, if she is receptive enough, can be your first step towards resolving the issue. I would, in any case, also suggest you to visit a Psychiatrist or Psychologist soon to get more guidance on this.
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