Need help on over coming my Mother death

It is indeed a big loss,I can understand your emotional state. But as you realise,that since she is gone you are not living your life worthwhile.

The positive part of your problem is you have clear understanding of it and you want to solve it as well. I would suggest you to enroll for online counselling in this hour of Pandemic. The psychologist can help you have a deeper understanding of your issues  which can lead to resolving of the pain you suffering from.

Bereavement is very painful and leads to more loss.A supportive emotional talk with a psychologist is very very helpful in such situations.

Nobody can replace a mother. My condolences to you. But you need to move on in life for better. I am an online counselor and an internationally certified NLP practitioner. You can book a session with me if required to help you overcome this situation. Take care. Everything will be fine. Do visit my Facebook page to know my work.

Hi! I can’t even imagine what you must be going through and I’m sure it’s not easy. And it’s okay to let things out and speak what’s on your mind and address it.

One of the hardest challenges is adjusting to the new reality of living. Adjusting would require you to develop a new daily routine or even venting it out. As far as concentration on work is concerned - try giving yourself about 20mins to process everything everyday or even try meditating , divide your work into parts and start with one thing at a time, don’t over burden yourself, make sure you eat and sleep well, take breaks between work.

- It is okay to feel what you’re feeling. - Everyone takes their own time. - Express your feelings. - Talk to your family/friends or take professional help.

I understand your predicament and would like to make a few suggestions that might help you. I want you to know that with awareness of how the mind works and how thoughts are generated, you will get better at dealing with them. Today, the mind is fixated on somebody else. Tomorrow it could be obsessed about another person/event/topic. Understanding the nature of the mind and how thoughts are generated will help you deal with them. The nature of the Mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Ii always needs something to hold on to. Another important characteristic of the Mind is this - You will either have thoughts about the past or the future. This will keep alternating. Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that the Mind and 'Now' can never coexist. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states will keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. Having thoughts about one being worthless and hopeless about life in general is also something that plagues everybody from time to time. Trust me, even if everything was perfect, you will still find some shortcomings somewhere and brood about it. Tension or anxiety is a physiological response which is again part of being human. It is normal to have such thoughts about any situation. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts are healthy enough to be acted upon. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by thoughts, just bring your focus back to your breath and take a few relaxing breaths. You will automatically be able to focus on the task at hand and do what is required. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs will be replayed to you as thoughts. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( "You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with" ) Ask yourself : Where would I like to see myself ten years from now? What should I do today to reach there ten years from now? What would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail? What would I do if I weren't afraid? No matter how impossible the answers might seem, I want you to know that you can and will make them possible. Take the first step. The rest will follow. A beautiful future awaits you. Take ownership of every time, take responsibility for it and confidently work towards your dreams and aspirations. One day you will thank these dark moments for being the fuel for your success. Exercise daily and make sure you eat healthy. Celebrate each and every moment and live it to the fullest. This is going to be your best homage for your mother. Whenever thoughts of sadness about her loss come to you, replace them with thoughts of gratitude for having been blessed with such a wonderful mother and do your best to be a source of help and support for those you care for. Have faith in yourself. You are capable of dealing with this. You are going to do just fine. Take care.

Thankyou for Sharing, I appreciate that you are approaching guidance from Professionals, Yes I understand its difficult for you to deal with reality, I understand what breakdown you are going through, I suggest you to consult with Psychologist to help you for acceptance and balancing your emotions.

Consult with Psychologist. if possible specially with grief counselor.

Hello Practo user, Grief is a natural response to loss. It is the emotional suffering you feel when someone you love is taken away. Often, the pain of a loss is very overwhelming. You may face all kinds of unexpected and difficult emotions. It has almost been an year now and still these difficult emotions are hampering your daily life like concentrating on your work. You may consult a clinical Psychologist to help you cope with this grieving process and also understand you better. You may seek emotional support from your loved ones, acknowledge your pain, accept that grief can trigger many difficult emotions and lastly understand that your grieving process is unique to you.

Consult A Clinical Psychologist

Seek emotional support, Acknowledge the pain , accept the emotions and work towards heeling.

Hello there. Sorry for your loss. Nobody can replace mother, it's indeed a big loss for you. I can understand it must be difficult for you to cope with the loss. Don't suppress yourself from grieving, it's okay to feel sad and to cry also. Seek a help of psychologist to come out of this loss and move on in your life. Reach to me through this app for individual sessions

organise and plan your activities for the day have short term goals for you indulge yourself in some of the hobby talk to your near and dear ones about what exactly you feel.

consult a psychologist

Yes, indeed grief is not an easy way to get over... Yet, you can overcome this feeling probably by discussing with a professional person.. You can reach me through this app. https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir