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Mother in law problem
Me and my husband married for 8 years we have 2 children.. my husband will be good if until he talks with his mother. Once he spoke with her I could see a different person. Also he prefers his family over me and my children. If I have done any mistake he scolds me in front of others also his mother joins in the conservation whenever happens but if his mother has done a mistake he would be silent.. when I questioned him he told what to do for this do you want to beat my mother? Also she acts in front of him also she tells all lies which my husband trust in turn.. I proved that she is telling lies in one of the situation by phone recording.. but he ignored it.. how to show my husband that she is acting. Also guide me how to get my husband into trust me and to seperate son and mother.. thanks in advance
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seek couple counseling.
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I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult situation. Dealing with complex family dynamics can be challenging. Here are some steps you might consider taking to address your concerns:
Communication: Open and honest communication is key. Try to have a calm and respectful conversation with your husband about your feelings. Use "I" statements to express how his actions and his mother's behavior make you feel. For example, say, "I feel hurt when I am scolded in front of others, and it affects our relationship."
Set Boundaries: Discuss and establish clear boundaries with your husband about how you both should handle conflicts involving his mother. Agree on how you both can support each other and protect your relationship from external influences.
Counseling: Consider seeking couples counseling. A therapist can facilitate communication and help both of you understand each other's perspectives. They can also provide guidance on how to handle difficult family situations.
Provide Evidence: Since you have recordings that prove your point, calmly share this evidence with your husband. Be prepared for the conversation, stay calm, and present the recordings as a way to illustrate your concerns, not to attack his mother.
Empathy: Try to understand your husband's perspective and his relationship with his mother. Empathizing with his feelings can create a more open environment for discussion. Encourage him to see things from your point of view as well.
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Hi,You cannot change a person's behaviour,but you can change your own thoughts.You can seek professional help to deal with such situations.
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Consult a psychologist
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Ms. Shivangi Gupta
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4 yrs exp
Delhi
Please try to get couples counselling for you and your husband. Its important that you both get a safe space to express yourselves and hear each other out. A therapist can provide that space, and with the right guidance and support things can get better.
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Pooja Gupta
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2 yrs exp
Kolkata
Hello! Sorry for responding late but I hope my answer reaches you.
Your husband is quite conscious and aware of his motherâs behaviour, he is still trying to ignore it probably because he does not want to confront his mother or say anything to her out of respect/fear/guilt. Many people go through the issue and find it difficult to confront their parents as they lack assertiveness towards parents. It is necessary for your husband, as a married adult with a family of his own, to understand certain boundaries and be more firm. I would suggest you to communicate with him honestly about how its affecting you and your relationship with your husband because of an outer source. If he is still continuing the same behaviour and easily getting manipulated by his mother, you have to change the way you are responding to it. Try to remain calm and be honest about what you are feeling because of their behaviours. If it's affecting you too much, be vocal about it and distance yourself from issues where the MIL is involved. Keep communication limited with her for your own peace.
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Couple counselling should help. You can seek counselling as well if he does not listen.
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Ms. Simran Sharma
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1 yrs exp
Kolkata
Navigating conflicts with in-laws can be emotionally challenging. It's essential to maintain open and honest communication with your husband. Initiate a calm and understanding conversation to express how his mother's actions make you feel, and how it impacts your family. Consider seeking the support of a couples therapist who can facilitate productive discussions and help both of you establish healthy boundaries and effective decision-making processes. While doing so, try to empathize with your husband's perspective as well. The goal should be to create a balanced and harmonious family dynamic that respects the needs and feelings of all its members, including your children.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Both of you need a. Marriage Counselling..
Seek a neutral professional support..
Consult a psychologist who is a Marriage /Relationship Counselor..
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Ms. Varsha P Mathur
Psychologist
19 yrs exp
Gurgaon
I can understand that it is a tough situation to be in. But remember that we can not change others behaviour however we can draw boundaries for ourself and establish respect in the relationship. It would be advisable to consult a counsellor that can help you work on the same
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Ms. Smriti
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15 yrs exp
Bangalore
He knows everything..he is deliberately doing those to respect his mother..you need to stand for yourself..connect to resolve issue
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