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How to deal with my MIL who cannot stand me? she is preading lies and rumour bout me to whoever she meets - relatives, househelp, anyone. even my new co-sis who is a really nice person. also poisoningvher son againsf me evey single day 7-8 times over phone. i live nuclear but in inlaws flat due to my sons schooling. hubby doesnt stay with us fue to work - comes over on weekends. husband has been brainwasged by her quite a bit, all through the years. what should i do...?
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Hi, I am sorry you are feeling this way. I am sure this is tough. It looks like you are feeling betrayed and angry because of these things happening with you. We can open this up in a safe space and hear this in detail to understand what goals you have in life and what you’re looking for from these people to make sure you’re working towards a personal goal. Let’s figure this out in therapy and then take a call to take this forward.
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Book a session with me and we will see how we make you feel supported. Love and healing ❤️
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You are feeling upset about the way your MIL behaves. You can talk to your husband about how your MIL is treating you. You mentioned that he is brainwashed by her but you can talk about your concerns and how you dislike the way your MIL is behaving. You can stand up for yourself. If you are not able to talk to your husband about the way your MIL is behaving and how it is making you feel unhappy consult a psychologist and talk about what you are going through. You feel like you are not getting support from anyone. It is important to remember that you have every right to feel happy. You have every right to feel happy and comfortable in your own house. Try to stand up for yourself and practice self-care. Do things that make you feel happy. A psychologist will guide you on how you can stand up for yourself.
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Consult a psychologist
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Contact me for counselling session. Along with counselling I can suggest natural foods to calm the mind.
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Hi,
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Try to understand her
Family group therapy
Be non judgmental and non reactive
Empathy from your side
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positive psychology intervention
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consult (along husband )
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Someone who knows you will not belive her lies.. Infact they will accept and choose to stay.
If someone leaves without even clarifying things with you. Let them go.. U don't need them in ur life..
Keep your ond with people strong.. Rather focusing on what MIL HAS TO SAY coz u can't Control that
Take therapy from a psychologist
Take care
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Inspite of focusing on what she is doing focus on what u n husband can do together or as a family, how much happy time u spend as a family. She is just a very small part of ur life, let her be the part not ur life.
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Ms. Komal Singh Parihar
Psychologist
7 yrs exp
Navi Mumbai
Hello dear
I can understand what you might be going through and how you might be feeling. You might be feeling very low and irritated as well as stressed because of what your MIL is doing. At the same time you might be feeling alone as you feel like no one is there for you.
Don't worry, consult a good therapist or a counsellor as soon as possible.
You can also contact me and I will try to help you with this. Let's discuss your issues in detail so that you can get towards your solutions.
Take care. Stay safe and strong. Everything will be alright. You got this!
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Mr. Sandeep Kumar
Psychologist
12 yrs exp
Chandigarh
Hi go for counseling session with mental health care expert.
Relationship counseling isn't about who was right or wrong; it's about repairing trust and re-establishing boundaries with our loved ones.
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you can book session with us
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Mr. Gunjan Maithil
Psychologist
13 yrs exp
Bangalore
Hi... Try to understand this, you are part of a social fabric at large. Family is the smallest unit and these are only roles (husband, wife, son, daughter, MIL, BIL, SIL, etc.). As per the age and social situations people assume these roles. Every role has certain responsibilities, perks, and constraints. This varies from one family, community, caste, religion, region, etc. but in all societies you will find one or the other form of social order. The problem arises when we enjoy the fruits of a social role and are unwilling to discharge it's associated responsibilities and willingly disregard it's constraints. Try to understand impersonally, what exactly is the dynamics in your case and where you can make a change that can impact positively and inspire others to do the same. Usually, people do such things (as you told about your MIL) when they are insecure or when we have knowingly or unknowingly crossed their boundaries.
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Consult a Psychologist.
Interpersonal Relationship Counselling and Personal Guidance is required.
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Ms. Hema Sampath
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
I suggest you both to Consult a Marriage Counselor to understand yourself better and you can handle your MIL better together..
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Ms. Smriti
Counselling Psychologist
18 yrs exp
Bangalore
Avoid escalating conflict. ...
Remember that strong emotions make bad situations worse, so learn to detach. ...
Recognize and avoid triggers. ...
Verbalize and enforce your boundaries. ...
Don't pick fights, but stand up for yourself
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consult
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