Mental health. Day by day. please help.

Hi, I can understand that it is very disheartening to see that someone whom you love does not reciprocate with the similar wavelength but instead of willing to give up its important to find out both parties priorities first in terms of what they appreciate about each other and where to draw the lines to give each other space.

counselling sessions to help you in sort things out and work towards building a healthy relationship

It is natural in human being,so you forget the things and try to avoid unnecessary conflicts. Share your problems with your partner and try to resolve it. Engage yourself in other activities such as play game, do meditation and yoga.

Hi, For how long have you been married? You say your wife loves her parents more than you. How have you measured her love? Are you insecured about being replaced?

Expression of love towards each relation is different. So comparing her love with a yardstick for her parents seems unfair. Have you spoken to your wife about it how does she feel about it? Insecurities in relationships can lead to a lot of issues. You can contact me through Practo to get a deeper understanding of this and help you feel better about yourself and the relationship.

Hi u need to find out what makes u to feel like that. Counselling can be helpful to deal with ur concerns and gives insight to lead ur life happily.

Such feelings are not normal. Each relationship has its own importance in life. You should seek individual or couple counselling. A 3rd unbiased person will be able to help you. There can be several reasons behind this thought. We can figure that out in our one to one counselling. I have helped several couples build up strong bonds leading to happier life. Go for counselling. 

Go for counselling,  I can help too.

Talk it out politely with your spouse. Don't remain bottled up.

What is calling for your attention and needs to be addressed is - figuring out what truly matters to you, and committing your attention and focus toward something that truly fulfills you and resonates with you. You cannot drive out darkness dealing with it face-to-face. But once you light a candle, darkness automatically disappears. When you begin to focus on what's calling for your attention and needs to be addressed within you, rest assured that you will see situations turning around in your favor too. But, take responsibility and take charge, you must. As you know, just like a healthy diet, regular physical activity and adequate rest contribute towards physical well being, there are practices that can help you take care of your psychological and emotional well being. Usually, we may tend to think that ' let me be in a good mood and then I'll do something that's good for me '. From your own experiences, you must be knowing that it's actually the reverse that works. Once you incorporate these practices in your daily routine, you will soon begin to see their impact in the way you think, feel and behave. The nature of the mind, which in simple terms we experience as thoughts, is such that, it will keep shifting its focus from one object/topic/event to another. Today the mind might be fixated on something. Tomorrow it could be another topic/event/person. Another important characteristic of the mind is this - You may either have thoughts about the past or the future ( guilt about experiences deemed to be ' failures ' in the past or anxiety about the fact that one might not succeed in the future ). Try thinking about the present moment - you will see that you cannot have thoughts about the present moment. The Mind has 3 states in general. Sometimes, you may find yourself having very positive, inspiring thoughts. During other times, you may find yourself very emotional, or all charged for action. Whereas during other times, you may feel very lethargic, dull or lazy. These states may keep alternating. Having understood the nature of the mind, the first step towards mental health is to become aware of your thoughts. Learning to be an observer of your thoughts, learning to observe them from a distance like clouds passing in the sky. Just like how the clothes you are wearing right now are yours, but not you, thoughts that you experience from time to time are yours, but not you. The next step is knowing that you have the power to choose which thought you wish to focus on and act on and exercising that power. With practice, you will have better mastery over this process. When you repeatedly focus on a thought, say, a thought which is threatening or disturbing by nature and identify with it, believing it to be true, the corresponding emotion rises in your brain. It overpowers your capability to think rationally. The cycle repeats and hence you feel imprisoned by your own thoughts and emotions. As mentioned above, with practice, you will learn to focus and entertain only those thoughts that are healthy enough to be acted upon. You will also be able to be more aware of your emotions and this awareness will help you manage them better. Figuratively speaking, all emotions come through the same pipeline and hence you cannot and need not selectively block a few and welcome the others. Awareness puts you back in charge whereby you can channelize them better. Usually when we experience disturbing thoughts, we may tend to fight, resist or control them. Again, fighting a thought is like fighting a shadow. You can see it, but it's not real. Fighting a thought or emotion only gives it more power. Say, for instance, when someone asks you not to think of a pink elephant, the first thought that invariably comes to you is that of a pink elephant. Instead, what we can do is, learning to be an observer of such thoughts and emotions( that are only based on past experiences and hence are no longer true or relevant today or do not serve your highest good ) and not identify with them or act on them. Here is a breathing exercise that could help you : You may do this in the night once you have finished with your tasks for the day : Inhale slowly to a count of four - hold your breath to a count of four - exhale slowly to a count of eight. Repeat this ten times. You may do this also in the morning before you begin your daily routine. Whatever you feed your mind through your sense organs have an impact on your psychological and emotional well being. Be conscious of this. Take care of the content you feed your mind - the kind of books you read, the websites you visit, the kind of music you listen to, the kind of food you eat, the kind of company you keep ( ' You are an average of five people you spend most of your time with ' - these five people need not be physically present. They could be role models who have walked the path before and show you the way. ) Our attitude towards life in general and things in particular is based on our Beliefs - what we believe to be true about ourselves and the world. What are your core beliefs about yourself and the world? What are those beliefs on the basis of which you feel that you are not worthy enough and seek external validation ? Try writing them down and examine the validity of these beliefs. Some of them may be limiting and negative in nature because of some of the feedback you might have received while growing up - at home, in school, from your classmates, friends, relatives, etc. But once you are aware of them, you shed light on them,examine their truth, they can no longer manipulate your behavior or actions. As your beliefs change, your attitude changes, and words, actions and behavior follow. Please set aside time for exercise daily and try to eat healthy every time. Our challenges that seem to threaten our very existence are the ones that serve as fuel for our evolution. 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Yes, indeed, it is difficult to accept and handle yourself in those kind of situations.. As marriage is about companionship, I think that is missing in both of you for various reasons... I suggest you to consult a psychological Counselor for a therapy to get some clarity and understanding about yourself and about your issues... For more details you can reach me by using the link given below :- https://prac.to/hema-sampath-psychologist-dir

Hi, That's quite natural to have such feelings. Not sure how long you have been married. Its going to take sometime for both of you understand each other. Her parents know her better than you and you are in the process. Need to realize, parental love and spouse lover are different. You have to earn that love in the due course of time and not to feel bad about it. No relationship in this world are replaceable as each one has its own value and uniqueness.

(1) Spend quality time with your spouse in understanding her nature, likes and dislikes and so on. (2) Give a time for her to known you also (3) Learn to love everyone